Personal ads! They’re … personal! Very.
So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.
Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.
Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.
And now it’s my weekly ritual. Yay, ritual!
Let’s do this thing.
Thing 1: Rest and restfulness
Here’s what I want:
You know how people say they need a vacation from their vacation? So that’s what I’m doing.
Going on vacation from my vacation.
What I want is for it to be as restful as possible.
Here’s how I want this to work:
Comfortable pillows.
Sleep. Wonderful sleep.
Routine. Ritual. Comfort.
Long walks with no destination or purpose in mind.
My commitment.
I will try not to guilt myself into anything. I will give myself permission to do nothing all day if I feel like it, or to get some work done if I feel like it.
I will do one yoga pose every morning, to start the day.
If I feel like doing more, more will happen. If I don’t, I will thank myself for keeping with my ritual and that will be enough.
Thing 2: to emerge from the fog.
Here’s what I want:
Clear-headedness.
Ways this could happen:
Wacky epiphanies from doing Shiva Nata. Yes!
Or no epiphanies. But just a clearing of the fog.
Maybe just getting out of Berlin and away — literally and symbolically — from the demonstrations, the marathons, the fireworks, the helicopters and the jackhammers … maybe that will be enough.
And of course, a session with Hiro, which always, always helps.
My commitment.
I will notice where I am in relation to the fog. I will not try to force or fight my way out of the fog. I will interact with the fog.
I will keep writing.
And I will be steady in reminding myself that fog is a natural result of sleepless nights and stressful situations. It is not a permanent state and it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with me.
Thing 3: a solution to my other living situation issue.
Here’s what I want:
For the current complication with Hoppy House to sort itself out. I don’t so much care how, but I need something to happen with this.
Here’s how I want this to work:
Not a clue. Magic? Faith? Trust?
Or something just happening, in the way it sometimes does.
My commitment.
I will do what I can now to stop freaking out about this (or, alternately, to give myself full permission to freak out about this) until it works itself out.
I will practice patience when I can, and be understanding with myself when I can’t.
Of course I will also do Dance of Shiva on it, and take it to Hiro and see what stuff of my own I can shift while working on this.
I will find safe, comfortable ways of expressing my pain and my fear.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s been going on. Last time I asked about three things.
For a perfect place to stay in Berlin, for my December workshop to fill up, and for some time to work on my projects.
I didn’t find a place to stay in Berlin. But I did make the decision to cancel my last three workshops and get out of there. Which felt really good.
The workshop sold out (yay!) and I’m looking forward to spending a day with the loveliest group of people ever. Very happy with that.
And there may have been time for projects, but no inclination. I have been very much in the fog.
So I’ll be looking for ways to reshape that ask into some sort of form that makes more sense for me right now. I think what I need most right now is to focus on recovering from this past month of hard.
I also want to mention a lovely personal ad posted this week by the one and only Sparky Firepants. There are knee socks in it and he promises to sing in public.
It’s pretty great, as personal ads go.
Comments. Since I’m already asking …
I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about I would like to receive in the comments. And that way, if you feel like leaving one (you totally don’t have to), you get to be part of this experiment too. 🙂
Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):
- Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for.
What I would rather not have:
- Reality theories.
- Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
- To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
My commitment.
I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird. I commit to giving time and thought to the things that people say, and to interact with their ideas and with my own stuff as compassionately and honestly as is possible.
Thanks for doing this with me!
I am so tantalized by the personal ads. I keep wanting to write mine, but getting blocked, so I guess what I want is to get unblocked so I can write some kick-ass personal ads!
What I really want, right now today, is for my best-like-a-sister-friend to have her new baby safely and without any emergency c-section-ness or long, complicated labor, and for both of them to be happy and healthy. Her life has been really hard without even adding in the part about being super pregnant and having a toddler, so she really needs a peaceful, easy birthing process. Labor started this morning, so it’ll be soon! (:
That’s where most of my energy is, today. But I am thinking about my own personal ads.
Thank you for continuing to post yours. Every single time you do, I get a little closer to my own.
*love*
.-= Kyeli´s last blog ..Reminder: “Change the World in One Minute” Contest! =-.
I just started reading your blog and am waiting for my dvd so forgive me if I do this wrong. 😉
This is the first time I putting this out there but here I go. I want to succeed in my studies, which includes learning a huge list of medicine names that are unrelated to each other. I have made flashcards for them but I haven’t seen any progress. It’s really hard not to put pressure on myself as my whole program relies on mastering these names. Each week we learn more and more, yet I still need to learn names from previous weeks.
I am trying to not put pressure on myself and be thankful that I was accepted in a tough program. Fear is blocking my progress big time but for once I want to conquer this fear. My body wakes up on it’s own each morning for school, I WANT to go but I can’t seem to remember what I study.
From a very hopeful person to get epiphanies from doing Shiva Nata. 😉
Havi, I’m so glad you’re taking good care of yourself and giving yourself what you need to recover from Berlin. My wish for you is that you have all the peace and nurturing you need so that your heart can rest, and you can return to Hoppy House replenished and shining.
My asks: Tomorrow, I fly out to Oregon for a retreat. Since I’m still using a cane to get around and walking any distance is challenging, I ask that the journey be filled with ease, grace, and support on all levels.
I ask also that the retreat itself be a container for the unfolding of growth, grace and transformation.
My intention for this 60th year of my life is Peace. So I ask to discover ways in which to carry the blessing of peace more fully in my heart and into my world.
My commitments: To make the practical arrangements that will create ease in the journey. (I’m making the trip in stages; arriving two days before the retreat begins to give myself time to rest and recover; and have booked a massage for the day I arrive. Have also booked a wonderful, secluded house to stay in.) To honor my need for rest and sanctuary.
To stay open, attentive, and responsive to the energies of grace and transformation during this retreat and after. To meet them with gratitude and appreciation. To honor my sovereignty at the same time.
To bless each event, encounter, and situation in my life with peace over the next ten days, as a way of entering into the ongoing practice of peace.
Love, Hiro
.-= Hiro Boga´s last blog ..Refugees: Remembering 9/11 =-.
Wanted: patience, compassion, gratitude and the ability to believe that I am entitled to ask for more; to react calmly in an emotionally charged situation; and to forgive myself when I snap.
Today I have to go meet with the old salt who has been running the ship’s store for the past five years. And he’s been hating it for most of that time. But he’s also angry that someone is there to step in and relieve him of his burden. That he *can* be replaced.
I want this encounter to be full of wonderful knowledge and stories. I want to be compassionate and understanding of his feelings. But I also need the backbone to say “enough” when he starts acting like a child.
I am nervous, I am scared, and I am late.
I’ll be fine I’ll be fine I’ll be fine.
Plus I’m taking the destuckification station recordings for when I need a break.
.-= Casey Cole´s last blog ..Dave’s Top Ten Rules of Business =-.
Hi, Havi, I’ve been reading for a while, but this will be my first comment, inspired by the goal I set for this September. Thank you for providing the space for these personal ads! And best wishes for receiving what you’ve asked for.
Dear Long-term Regular Clients of Sundown Healing Arts,
You are highly sensitive people committed to your own healing. You are looking for bodywork to help you heal from trauma. You have the resources to pay for ongoing sessions, and you’re available for sessions in Portland, OR.
You have “tried everything” and may have been told, “Just live with the pain” (emotional or physical). You are hungry for support, validation, and acceptance. You are addressing lifetime patterns gradually. You are intelligent, respectful, and have a sense of humor.
You will receive attuned, gentle care and reach helpful insights in every session. You continue the work on your own between sessions.
How you can find me:
You could read this ad, and realize this is you!
You could find my website http://www.TraumaHealed.com
or, You could follow me on Twitter @traumahealed
or, You could pick up a brochure
or, Someone could recommend my work to you
or, Someone could forward one of my articles http://www.TraumaHealed.com/articles to you
or, Something else, that the Universe will delight us with
and You realize this is exactly what you’ve been looking for.
My commitments:
I will listen inside for belly feelings, intuitions, and ideas about new ways to make my practice visible.
I will look around me for new ideas from outside.
I will try ideas that feel right.
I will joyfully bring you my best healing work.
I am open to abundance, ease, and peaceful success, and I work on any stuckness around this.
Sincerely,
Sonia Connolly
Sundown Healing Arts
What I want:
– A source of regular income, that requires about 20-25 hrs per week of my time, that will give me the spaciousness I need to grow my coaching business into something that supports me fully.
– This work will be in the area of my technical skills (SQL, Crystal Reports, Excel, Access or maybe even WordPress), or any other area that is within my comfort zone, and will be free from corporate politics.
– I can do this work 100% from home, and it requires no travel; I will have complete autonomy for when and how I complete the work, as long as it gets completed.
– This employer (whether it’s a person or a company) appreciates quality more than quantity, and understands that I’m trying to start a business, so this won’t be a permanent arrangement.
– The responsibility level in this work is limited to the task at hand – if I’ve complete the task timely and accurately, then that’s considered a success.
– The work load and deadlines are reasonable.
– This work will have the perfect balance of challenge and ease so that it doesn’t take too much energy away from my business.
– If I need some time off, this source of income will allow me to do that, even if it means I get paid less (that’s fine, I just want to have the option to take time off when I need it).
How it can come to me:
– I could remember someone I know who might need help or who has a lot of contacts, and tell them about what I’m looking for
– Someone could read this ad and be needing my help or know someone who might
– Some other way I haven’t even thought of
My commitment:
– I will take some time to make sure I’m perfectly clear on what I want, before I start searching willy nilly for something (to avoid winding up with something that doesn’t work for me)
– I will do my best to consider any opportunities with an open mind, but to put my heart first and listen to what it says
– I will notice when I’m feeling anxious about finances and responsibilities, and ask for support
.-= Victoria Brouhard´s last blog ..What’s Happening, Hot Stuff #2 =-.
Havi, I wish you the best in finding your peace, your quiet, and your center. I know how hard it can be to be walking in a fog and wondering if you were always like this and just remembering it wrong, or what.
Update on Previous Asks: I got a little more creative this week, though alternating insomnia and crazy-long sleeping made me foggy and kept me from getting much done. But I did get motivated and clean my whole kitchen yesterday, floor and sink and all, and I feel much better about that. Money trickled in and more is coming, enough to tide me over, but I’m definitely going to need to step up something, somewhere. If only the fog would lift!
Thing #1: A happy birthday!
How This Could Happen: I’m ready to be surprised. Or not. My dinner plans can go smoothly. I can take the day luxuriously off, guilt-free, and find some way to spoil myself that doesn’t cost money, or not much money.
My Commitment: To let go of my worries for one day, and just enjoy being a year older, having survived through the hard and reveled in the good.
Thing #2: Money! Enough to cover things and ease this anxiety that’s dogging me, to assuage my guilt for wanting a few things for myself instead of putting it all toward practicalities.
How This Could Happen: New clients. Old clients wanting more hours. Secret painting sales. Something.
My Commitment: To give myself permission to worry, to be in my fog of anxiety, and see if that can help get me out of my nothing-is-done loop to start getting things done. To see where I have done useful things and give myself gold stars, instead of only counting the hours where nothing is done. To take that motivation and use it to work on my marketing, on the Antemortem Arts site, on the big things that scare me.
.-= Amy Crook´s last blog ..Films about Ghosts =-.
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What I want:
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– Move by Jan 10, 2010.
At least 4 bedrooms, 3 baths. Hardwood and/or tiled floors. Lots of open space and sunlight coming through. Beautiful upgraded kitchen with island in the middle. One of the rooms will be my sacred retreat room and will be full of all things comfy. The yard will be luscious and full of colorful flowers and tropical plants. There will be an in-ground pool. This new house will be within 5 miles of my current house.
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How I see this happening:
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– My Sweet Bee and I will have one of our proposals accepted and we will begin publishing an established expert who doesn’t want to do all the back of the house things for their internet business and just wants to do what they do best: Shine! And deliver great content.
– We will be introduced to other experts who have their content organized and developed who would like to maximize what they’re doing online, or make the leap from offline to online.
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My commitment:
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– I am mentally biggifying my identity as one who occupies more space on the planet and is welcome to do so. More square footage and higher ceilings.
– I am present with my meetings with potential partners and I’m working with dedication on each proposal that I put together.
– I am focused on possibilities.
– I am eating food that my body is nurtured by and I am getting rest when I need it so that I’m physically available for the work in front of me.
– I am paying attention to my interactions with team members and bringing my A-Game to the party. Woo-hoo!
– I am stepping into my greatness and power and my capabilities to do amazing things.
This is the first time I’ve put my “personal ad” for this new house out in public. Breathing deep and taking it all in. It’s real.
Reshape the ask. I love that. As a *chronic* revisionist :-), that feels good and spacious… it makes Asking not feel fixed or contractual… it presumes that all things are subject to change. Except, of course, the sublime nectar of a good night’s sleep. That will always be a very good thing, and I do hope you experience it again soon, Havi.
@Victoria, your technical skills are sooo marketable. Forgive me if this suggestion is super-obvious, but http://www.elance.com and http://www.odesk.com might might have projects that fit your preferences.
Tomorrow I’m starting a 30-day experiment to gain some needed insight and direction regarding the intersection of my spiritual, creative and financial lives. My ask: company on the journey. The link to my last blog below says more about it.
.-= Erika Harris´s last blog ..Why do you do what you do? =-.
Hope that you have a rejuvenating break, Havi, and that everyone’s personal adds are answered promptly— including the stuff we forgot to include! (That happened to me the first time I did this a few weeks ago.)
Here are mine this week: 1. A good sleep schedule– up by 8 and asleep by midnight.
How this could happen: I really, REALLY prioritize my health and well-being.
My commitment: To prioritize my health and well-being while honoring every part of me, including the rebellious part that doesn’t believe in sleep schedules.
Unseen forces like sleep fairies and (compassionate) sandmen can also sprinkle me with sleep dust.
2. The perfect winter coat. It is a bright, deep purple, and there is something about it that makes it ‘sorceress chic’–magical. It makes me feel joyful and that anything possible when I put it on. It is lined in silk. It is warm. It fits like it was made for me. It is under $100.
How this could happen: It is given to me as a gift randomly by someone who has a coat like this that they just don’t click with for whatever reason. I could find it at a flea market, or at a thrift or salvation army store, or magically it is just on the street, alone and waiting for me. Or some other way I haven’t yet envisioned.
.-= Kate T.W.´s last blog ..Lynda Barry Rocks! =-.
Hi Havi, wishing you a brisk wind to clear the fog and a warm, gentle breeze to bring you clarity.
I’m new here and have been trying to get into this asking for stuff on a tangent like a cat circling a plate of very hot food. Ok, so here goes:
The what:
#1 I have just started my own coaching business (Sorry Selma for using the c-word!) and I ask for my niche to quicky reveal itself to me so that my right people will be able to find me so that I get to make a good living doing the thing I love.
#2 I want a love life! (Jeez I know, ask for the moon why don’t ya..)
#3 I want this meeting I’m having tomorrow with a fellow coach(darn, there was the c-word again…) to go smoothly and that I am able to extricate myself gracefully from a proposed collaboration since my intuition is sceaming at me that we are not a good fit for working together.
The how:
#1 Attending Mark Silver’s (www.heartofbusiness.com) Business Momentum Telecourse and listen carefully to my intuition?
#2 I have absolutely no idea – divine intervention?!?
#3 That my coach (I just can’t help myself – don’t hate me Selma, please!)colleague comes to the conclusion that he wants to do the project by himself or comes to the meeting having already found another collaborator?
I will:
Work on strengthening my connection to my intuition. Practice patience as much as I am able to.
Stand up for myself as much as I can and try not to be influenced by that insidious thought “What will people think of me!”. Remember Eleanor Roosevelt: “What other people think of me is none of my business.”
Thank you for providing me this space to practice asking!
.-= marie´s last blog ..I have a dream – what is yours? =-.
This week’s ask:
-More patience. Hey, I think I’m improving on this, so clearly posing the intention to myself has helped a lot!
I intend to spend the week patiently accepting how I feel, letting the acceptance of current situations grow and grow until something blossoms from it.
Patience to give myself space from a personal situation that is still proving tricky to move on from, rather than questioning the space and trying to throw shoes at myself. I would like to be able to take the space offered and accept it as a welcome break from the trickiness rather than trying to figure out why it is there or what will come of it.
-A week of restful, rejuvinating sleep and healthful yummy food to build me up. I had to take a break from my running schedule last week because I was feeling too run down and I would like to get back on track this week.
-For my body to begin to trust me. I do and will take care of it and listen to its needs for rest and to slow down if needs be. So it doesn’t have to keep on hijacking me!
I will hold onto my intentions, ensure that I get to bed on time and not over do it on the exercise front. I will cook yumminess and whizz up smoothie goodness. I will rest and replenish.
Sending you all a whole bunch of whizzy energy to fulfil your asks and produce a week of wonderful serendipity.
.-= Wormy´s last blog ..A Most Terrible Word… =-.
Dear Universe:
The medical powers that be have decided that my father needs to be in the hospital tomorrow for what is usually an out-patient procedure so he can be better monitored. I would really really like this procedure to go smoothly and without issue, and for them to figure out what is wrong (preferably I’d like it to be something that’s relatively easy to fix like an ulcer). Mostly, though, I’d like this to be easy on him, easy on me, and result in good things so he can enjoy retirement and fishing and all the things he loves.
My commitment: To be there fully for him during this time and beyond, and to just enjoy having him around and living close by.
.-= G. Romilly´s last blog ..Shivanata, a workshop, and Selma the duck! =-.
Oh Havi, I hope you get the rejuvenation and defogging you need. Or that the fog somehow softens into a cocoon for you to rest in for the moment.
Never done a personal ad before, but today I think I’ll try.
I’d like: to be able to go to big event of ickiness next week and not get that hairy-kissy-face from near strangers, or the paralyzing shyness that makes it hard to function. I think this has to do with setting boundaries, which is ultimately my big ask. I’d like to set more boundaries, to protect my need for sleep and to not have my personal-space bubble invaded. I’d like to learn how to kindly stop bullies in their path. The event just brings all of this into view now, but it’s definitely an ongoing thing.
How it might work: The kissy-men will be scared of swine flu or something and won’t be so kissy? The schedule will work out so that I have perfectly placed periods of active interaction and passive learning. The door to the lakefront path will be open and easily accessible so I can escape the hubbub.
My commitment: I will plan my schedule to have periods of free time where I can hide out. I will not force myself to interact with people when I feel like hiding. I will go sit by the Lake and sketch to give myself a break. I will get up and do a bit of yoga or run before going downtown, which worked at the last icky event. I will ride the train instead of driving and use the time to rest, but I won’t sleep through my stop. I will bring fruit and good things to eat with me so I won’t have to eat junky concession food, which just makes everything worse. I will remember all of this when it matters most by writing these guidelines on my daily schedule.
.-= Emily´s last blog ..To the Underground Bees =-.
My Personal Ad? I’d like clarity and a plan. I’m in a professional practice, doing pretty well and able to pay my bills, and I am thankful for that. But I feel like a square peg, or like I’m stuck sideways, and my heart isn’t in it. And my heart certainly isn’t in a lot of my career organizations or projects and isn’t finding some of my current professional “friends” to really be friends. I’d like some clarity on what to do and where to go next to regain a feeling of fit in my life (or of living in my life instead of being stuck in some branch of it like a candy bar that won’t fall out of a vending machine).
Thanks Universe!
.-= Artful Lawyer´s last blog ..Sharpening the Saw on Sunday =-.
What I would like:
Some space, some understanding of my current Stuck situation. I would like to know what I can live without and what I can’t. I would like to have some space so I don’t feel crushed with indecision all the time. I would like this to budge just a little bit to one side or another. I would very much like to feel that I’m not being torn in two for a while.
Ways this could happen:
I have no idea. A book, a comment, some new information. Magic. My therapist. My friends. I am open to suggestions.
My commitment:
I will work with my Fear and try to understand why I make certain choices. I will work with my fear to face the hard. I am learning to treat myself with compassion.
My personal:
Recently I began attending craft workshops to teach myself how to rely on my own two hands to get by in life. Before the recession, I lived my life thinking that anything could be purchased and that my mind was strong enough to get me through tough times. Turns out I, actually I think many of us, needed to learn to be more flexible in case other crises take place.
While I want and know I need to grow, I get very frustrated with how tedious, how slow going crafting can be. It requires a lot of patience, which is not my first talent! So, my goal is to gain more patience and be positive about my reason to grow. I also want to overcome the fear of failure that I have when I don’t make something right.
My Commitment: Attend a craft workshop tonight at Etsy Labs in Brooklyn (a huge haul, I might add, from my home in Manhattan).
.-= Lydia, Clueless Crafter´s last blog ..Crafting a Classic Tablescape: Guide to Linens =-.
I’m really identifying with the fog metaphor–makes you want to scream and flail your way out of the fog into Dazzling Clarity, but there’s nothing to grasp at, just vaporous ick. And I know from experience that the hardest thing in the world is just to be still and breathe and Notice the fog.
Wishing you some warm sunshine to gently evaporate the ick so you can see your way clear.
.-= Tracy´s last blog ..Reflection: To Be In Relationship =-.
First of all, I wish all the guidance and fulfillment possible for everyone who’s posted above and below me.
This week, I want a sense of confidence when working with a “messy-desk” person who might be a bit defensive. I want to be reassuring to him and to be able to show him how to make his space work. Most of all, I want to be able to restrain myself from jumping in there and doing it for him.
I also want some forward motion on my search for a proper job: contacts, responses, informational interviews, anything. Just as long as it’s another step toward my next job.
.-= Catherine Cantieri, Sorted´s last blog ..The curse of "awesome-ism" =-.
Oh, I’m so glad to see that my friend Jo.X wrote a personal ad here! I turned her on to Shiva Nata, and I really hope it helps her getting what she needs.
I’m so sorry to read about the fog. I’m all too familiar with it… Thanks for the reminder that it’s not a permanent state – I needed it.
As for my ad – yes, I’m doing it for real this week! -, here goes:
Here’s what I want:
To know what my Shiva Nata practice needs me to do for it to bear fruits and deliver epiphanies, small and big, more than once in a blue moon.
Here’s how I want this to work:
I could have an epiphany through which I’d find out what I need to do differently for me to start having epiphanies. (don’t you just love the irony?!)
I could find a way to make it harder that would not make my brain disengage completely from what’s happening.
It could start working, just like that.
Any other way I haven’t thought of.
My commitment:
I will keep on enjoying my practice. I love it no matter what, so that won’t be hard!
I will explore what it means to “make it hard”, come up with new ways to mix things up, try new things that may make it just the right level of hard.
I will get back to journaling my practice.
I will keep on madly appreciating any and everything I get from it (which includes more than the epiphanies).
.-= Josiane´s last blog ..Retreating to write – and being treated to so much more =-.
Restful rest and fog clearing to dear Havi. And may all who ask, either here or in private, receive what they so dearly need.
Here’s what I want: It’s a multi-parter, all having to do with my one person show and how I am being around it. First, I want butts in the seats. I want to sell out all three nights of my show. That’s 42 people per night, 126 people total.
Second, I want to have fun and a sense of both accomplishment and inner peace/grace in the journey to bringing the show to life for this version through the closing performance on October 3. This means that I stay in the moment and do the work in front of me, and not freak out about having too much to do or to memorize to get it ready. This means I stay grounded, ask for and receive help, and dig down to find faith that it will all come together, as I know it always does.
Third, I want to receive a sign that this show is worth doing, and that it’s making a difference. That my telling this story and doing this play matters.
How it Could Happen: The butts in seats will come from the PR and social connection work that I’ve done/am doing. It could also come from word of mouth out in the ether. The inner peace and grace and fun will come from my own inner wisdom, or it could come in the form of reminders from friends and loved ones who gently jolt me back into a positive perspective. The sign that the show is worth doing will come unexpectedly, magically, unbidden. I will just know it — it will likely only be recognizable to me.
My commitment: To just keep doing the work I need to do; hanging posters, sending out emails/tweets/messages, rehearsing, memorizing, reaching out to friends, being at the station when the train comes and then choosing to get on the train when it arrives.
Love and blessings and granted wishes to all.
I will trust that my efforts are enough, and that the people will show up and I will have full houses
Be safe and excellent, Havi! *grins*
I have something small to ask of the universe.
I’d like a title for my short horror story. I’ve had it finished for three weeks, and in the last rounds of editing for a week. Now it needs a title so I can send it off into the great unknown of the market.
How It Could Happen: – Someone could suggest something to me, and it would be just absolutely perfect.
– I could wake up and know what to do title it.
– I could catch a bit of a song and realize that’s the title for it.
– Anything, really.
My commitment: I will make this story the best I can make it and send it out to the markets before the end of the year, rather than sitting on it forever.
What I want: To be rid of this cold.
How it could happen: I could go to sleep tonight and wake up tomorrow feeling terrific.
My commitment: To sleep more and eat better.
Sleeplessness is a very uncomfortable foggy place to be. I am thinking quiet restful peaceful calm nonfoggy thoughts for you.
It amazes me that other people cannot SEE when I am completely incapacitated by lack of sleep. Somehow I look to be a functioning human being, even though I am a cross between Oscar the Grouch and a grilled-cheese sandwich.
.-= Sonia Simone´s last blog ..What Makes Marketing Hard? =-.
oh guys I’ve missed you! Havi, sorry to hear Berlin has been so full of hard. I really hope things even out for you soon.
i haven’t been hanging around much the past few weeks… got lost in my own stuff I think. I have a lot of stuff all of a sudden. change is afoot and it is scary and making me question LOTS of things about myself and avoiding the pit of despair is becoming quite a task.
So, I am asking for courage and calm. Courage to listen to myself for real this time. No compromises. All the talk of sovereignty hit the nail on the head. So I am asking for courage and calm to seek it out. It can come to me by the mental clarity Shiva Nata brings, from supportive words from friends, through getting back to writing in a journal so conversations with myself are clearer. I will Shiva it up more than once a week, keep a notebook just for writing with me at all times and try to arrange for some good friend talking times. I will take evenings for myself to be alone and feel my way through the tough stuff.
*sigh*
Hey guys! The ads are terrific. Love them.
And thanks everyone for all the sweet, kind wishes for restfulness. Totally appreciated.
@Sonia – a cross between Oscar the Grouch and a grilled-cheese sandwich! Ohmygod, that is so completely how I feel right now.
A blurry, confused, foggy, greasy Oscar the Grouch grilled cheese sandwich. That is me. Brilliant!
@ilikered – *blows kiss*
@marie – good for you for knowing what you want! And no one is going to judge you for using the “coach”-word. It’s a useful word and people know it. No apologies necessary!
I wish you everything you need for your personal ad. I’m sure it will be awesome.
@Victoria – brave! Wow. I am impressed that you put this into words. Big stuff. Neat!
@Mona – your house! I can practically see it. Hope the clarity plants good seeds.
Hugs all around, you guys. Thanks for putting up with me when I’m in my own hard.