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Each week I write these VPAs to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.

I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!

Three years of Very Personal Ads, you guys! Though yes, I’m now thinking of them as Visions of Possibility and Anticipation.

But either way, we’ve been doing this for a while.

I love that. Hi.

Let’s see what comes up this week…

Thing 1: Releasing trauma and pain.

Here’s what I want:

Oh man. Sunday morning I got seriously PTSD triggered, for the first time in a while.

It was some combination of two really innocuous conversations over the weekend, one that I was involved in and one that I overheard, and then somehow everything just completely unraveled when I woke up.

So I spent all of yesterday dealing with that, and then today ran into a new chunk of it that I didn’t even know existed. So there’s that.

It’s time to do the acknowledgment and the releasing, in the most patient, loving and nonviolent ways available to me. I want this to be filled with more ease, grace and grounding than it ever has been before. I want access to my superpowers. I want to remember that it passes, and that I return to my strengths.

Ways this could work:

The usual ways. Physical therapy. Permission slips. Being in and next to water. Crying my eyes out. Writing. Yoga. Shiva Nata. Consulting the Book of Me. Staying present with the existence of the pain without forcing myself to go directly inside of the depths of it.

And figuring out where to go from here with this new well of hurting. Though really, it was probably there all along, so it’s just a newly discovered well of hurting.

Which is good, that it’s been discovered, I mean. That’s how the pain is able to EXIT, through being found. And not fought with.

Hello, pain. There you are. There is a reason for you. You are allowed to exist. You are not the whole of me. You are a part of me. You are temporary. This experience has meaning. And I am also allowed to hate it.

All of these things can be equally true at the same time.

But there are other ways this could work as well, at the same time even. Like a miracle. Or a shivanautical realization that resolves an old pattern. Or talking to one of my people who treat me in times of hard.

I’ll play with…

Taking this to the version of me who knows exactly what to do, aka slightly wiser me or Incoming Me.

Finding out what she knows.

Creating safety for myself by not discussing this with ANYONE who is not one of the three people that I discuss things like this with. Especially with people in my life who assume that they can get involved. I can be very clear, in a loving way, that I am not receptive to being asked how I am doing, or any other questions about what I’m going through, and that is just how it is going to be.

Thing 2: Flow into flow.

Here’s what I want:

So I’ve been doing the craziest and most outlandish shiva nata over the past weeks, and then later in the day my body has been inventing/discovering these wildly creative yoga flows. Just really beautiful and unexpected ways to put poses together,

It’s this pure state of playful, creative, inquisitive flowing wonder and delight. Gazelle state!

I love it. I want to keep doing this, and also to document some of the more interesting/unusual combinations.

Ways this could work:

Keeping a notebook by the stage at the Hidden Playground.

Making more time for this.

Pretending that I still teach physical yoga instead of mental and emotional yoga in disguise in disguise in disguise, and then planning the class I would teach based on these new discoveries.

I’ll play with…

Being with my body and remembering that it is where I live, and letting myself discover new things about this particular version of one way of having a home.

Thing 3: Announcing the announcings!

Here’s what I want:

I haven’t made any formal announcement about the 2013 Rallies yet, other than hinting in the chicken that yes, they exist!

And we already have 12 people signed up.

So maybe I should tell people before they are both full?

I want this process of announcing to feel joyful and light-hearted, for the right words to come to me, and to be filled with how much I adore Rally and the extraordinary things that happen there.

Ways this could work:

I can ask the First Mate for information about a hat that I want to decorate. Metaphor!

And there are two really amazing things about Rally that I have never told anyone, and these two things are huge. I could start by trying to describe them at the Floop and then maybe add them here or to the Rally (Rally!) page. Process process!

I’ll play with…

Doing shiva nata to get in the headspace and bodyspace of flow and voice. Also: of mystery and wonder, because those are two of the qualities that are relevant to this particular mission.

Talking to Incoming Me and ringing all the bells with her. She’s good at that.

Letting it take its own shape and form in its own time.

Thing 4: Brunching the Stompopolis website.

Here’s what I want:

The website for our new huge space that we’re opening has been a huge source of stuck for me, even though normally writing copy is totally one of my superpowers.

This weekend I interviewed Incoming Me about it and got some absolutely fantastic suggestions. With her help, I completely rewrote the home page and the not-a-contact page, and it was actually FUN.

Now for the rest of the site! So we can go live! This week, please!

Ways this could work:

Windows of time.

Planting the seeds.

GET GROUNDED, HAVI.

I’ll play with…

Pictures.

Thing 5: Changing a word. Among other things.

Here’s what I want:

There is a thing I am committed to doing, and ohmygod I do not want to do it.

That is not true. It is important and necessary and vital to the mission. And I have stuff about it.

So I need to find a way to alter it or my approach or both. So that it can be… palatable? Doable?

Again: ease and grace, please.

Ways this could work:

I am planning on giving this one to the pool.

And then asking metaphor mouse to help me come up with some strategic code phrases.

I’ll play with…

Asking for a miraculous resolution. Again.

Committing to truth. The truth of knowing what I want and why it is so important.

Man, I hope this will not mean losing something else that I care about deeply, but if it does, then it does.

I am going to have to cry some more about that, and then do some stone skippings and find out what some more peaceful perfect simple solutions might be.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

Last week was all about CONGRUENCING and making things congruent, and oh boy did that ever happen. Wow.

Lots of movement with this, especially at Hoppy House, especially in bedroom and bathroom.

I am going to replant certain aspects of the asks, and blow celebratory bubbles about all the ways that congruence happened and is still coming into play.

Play-filled comment zen. Here’s what I’d love today.

  • Wanted: Your own personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.
  • You can also do these on your own or in your head. You can always call silent retreat!
  • Leave your gwishes! Throw things in the pot!
  • Things we try to keep away from: the word “manifest”, telling people how they should be asking for things, unsolicited advice.
  • VPA amnesty applies, of course. Leave yours any time between now and next Sunday (or whenever, really) — it’s all fine by us!

xox

The Fluent Self