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Each week I write these Visions of Possibility and Anticipation to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.

I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!

Thing 1: Just add an alligator.

Here’s what I want:

It is now the season when it is far too cold and wet to hold Beach Day — my so-called “clandestine executive business meeting” — on an actual beach.

So I hid in a cafe and held Beach Day there. Built some invisible sandcastles.

And I met two lovely people who reminded me, accidentally, about the importance of adding alligators. When in doubt, just throw in an alligator. Everything is better when you add alligators.

What this means (to me, right now) is this: how can something that I’m currently taking way too seriously become a little more lighthearted and playful?

So I want to remember this question over the coming week and beyond. And I want to apply alligators to some things that feel stuck.

Ways this might work:

We have lots of alligators (they’re called alligatoroos) at the Stompopolis and the Playground.

I can ask the question. How would this situation change if I added alligators?

And of course I can conjure up silly little creatures to follow me around. Like this guy, who is not really an alligator but close enough, also what a schmoo-face!

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I’m playing with…

Adding more alligators. Applying alligator to every possible situation until it is either funnier or less annoying.

Thing 2: Writing about the 8 rules that are not really rules.

Here’s what I want:

To get this material out of my head and onto paper/computer in some form.

Ways this might work:

Talking it out with Harmony. Or with Marisa. One of those people is real!

Maybe doing some stone skippings.

I’m playing with…

Setting the wish here. Finding out what I know about this.

Thing 3: The next steps in a perfect simple solution.

Here’s what I want:

The not-amicable situation has become a significantly-more-amicable situation but there is still a lot to hammer out.

And I don’t have any bandwidth for this right now because I’m deep in preparation for Crossing the Line, the eight day event that I am leading.

So I need a perfect simple solution to reveal itself please.

Ways this might work:

I don’t know.

I’m asking.

I’m playing with…

Doing yoga on it. Sleeping on it. Putting it in water.

Thing 4: The shavasana year.

Here’s what I want:

I’m going to embark on an experiment that has to do with emptying out and replenishing, deep exit to prepare for entry.

And I want to investigate what that might entail.

Ways this might work:

I plan to take this question and this desire with me into the Crossing.

And let it unravel and reconfigure.

I’m playing with…

Legitimacy: wanting the thing that I want even when it feels counterintuitive or problematic.

Presence. Patience. Simplicity. Pleasure.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

Huh. Last week’s asks were remarkably effective.

I wanted a home for the Wishing Hour, and now that home is Fridays. This also solves my ask from two or three weeks ago about changing how I do Fridays.

Then I wanted to stay true to the Vision, and while that happened in kind of a weird way, it has absolutely been happening. Everything that is not part of the vision is just dropping away.

Next I wanted a swift and loving resolution to a tragic misunderstanding, and that is well on the way. We’re still sorting out details, but the deep anger that was directed at me has subsided, and been replaced with curiosity, compassion and a willingness to negotiate. Thank god.

Then I wanted stuff to change with Thursdays, and actually metaphor mouse helped me figure out the perfect thing.

And I wanted to shorten the Embarking Anthology, which did not happen at all because of the giant emergency that took over my life last week, but I have thoughts about how I want to do this. And it is related to adding alligators. So there.

Playful playing. Shelter for the comments.

What’s welcome: Your own wishes, gwishes, visions and personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.

Here or on your own or in your head. It’s all fine. Or call silent retreat!

I’m receptive to warm wishes for the things I’m working on and playing with.

If you’re looking for suggestions or heart-sighs or anything else related to your wish, you will need to ask for that because our default mode is giving each other space and spaciousness for the process.

This is a place of safety for creative play and exploration, with a very non-dogmatic approach. We don’t tell each other how to ask for things and we don’t give unsolicited advice. We make space for people’s wishes.

That’s it. Let’s throw a bunch of things in the pot!

As always, amnesty applies. Leave a wish here any time you want.

xox

The Fluent Self