The wall is not the impediment to the destination.
The wall is not the distraction keeping you from the destination.
The wall is the thing that contains vital information to help you arrive at the destination.
And this.
How you interact with the wall is directly related to how you will find your destination.
The more time you spend finding out what the purpose of the wall is, the more ease and support there is on the way.
Get on board with the secret mission of the wall,* and discard the mechanism,** and you will change the wall forever.
* It wants to keep you safe.
** Its various attempts to paralyze you with fear or keep you stalled.
Because of this.
Every time you change how you approach your walls, you change how you end up at the destination.
And how you will feel when you’re there.
This is true for projectizing. It is true for destuckifying. It is true for biggification. It is true for relationships. This post brought to you by what happens to my brain when I do Shiva Nata.
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Beautiful. Timely. Essential. Gratefully received.
Easy to grok. Hard to remember. For me. Sometimes. Not always, thank goodness.
Practice. Practice helps. I will keep practicing.
Kindness. I think kindness, somehow, must always be the right choice. That means kindness to myself, practiced mindfully, is not a cop-out. It is not avoidance. It is the thing that helps.
It helps me. It helps everyone around me. And that helps me.
There’s more, of course. Stopping here for now, though. Want to keep this comment shorter than the post that inspired it. 🙂
ok, maybe I will open 1 eye for a minute. And I will breathe. Thank you Havi for inspiring courage and faith.
Just this. 🙂 Need to go talk to a wall now… thank you.
“The wall is the thing that contains vital information to help you arrive at the destination.”
I had to read this like 15 times. and six different ways. But when I finally got it…it sunk in to me like my head sinks into a feather pillow.
“this is your brain. this is your brain on shivanata.”
thanks havi’s scrambled egg brain! 🙂
This is probably the shortest blog post you’ve written and the most direct message you’ve sent.
Thanks. I needed to read that.
Aha! The thing I thought was a Huge Non-fixable Character Flaw is actually a Wall. And Walls can be talked to. Because Havi says so.
Brilliant. Thank you!
Oh Havi, this is awesome. I love when you post while you’re still brainscrambled from Shiva Nata. It reminds me of that anecdote you told about the artist whose paintings came out different and better when she’d just been doing Shiva Nata. I’ve seen you express worries a few times that your brainscrambled posts are incoherent. They’re not. They are *concentrated coherence.* Each sentence is a paragraph. I love it!
Thanks, I needed that too. So much better to start thinking of walls rather than reasons why I can’t do things.
I intend to carry this around with me and pull it out to re-read when needed. Sometimes may be hourly!
Thanks again, Havi.
Thank you, Walls.
Dear Havi,
Thank you for writing this, and for sharing it. I think it may be the post I connect to most, out of everything I’ve read and learned here.
This really touches me.
Thank you.
Oh my goodness, sometimes I forget this, in my bullheaded, stubborn way of persistence and I just keep pushing. How very tired I get. Thanks for this, I too may print it out and carry it around. I might even laminate it. Deep thanks Havi.
Oh my goodness, ‘concentrated coherence’ yes! It’s like the yoga sutras of the fluent self.
Whoah!
xx
The thing I thought was a Huge Non-fixable Character Flaw is actually a Wall. And Walls can be talked to. Because Havi says so.
I think you might, just, have quite genuinely saved my life at some point in the future.
Thank you and thank you. I must come back to this; I’m all outta grok, but thank you pink for starting me on one of the many zillions of grok points. Grains! (I’m all about grains at the moment. Granulated everything. Also, it rhymes with BRAINS. Ah – what do vegan zombies eat?…)
This… is brilliant.
LOVE this.
I’m with Claire P. and the “yoga sutras of the fluent self,” only, my first impression was actually “Yoda” –and I mean that in the very, very best way. Thank you, Havi. xx
I’m putting the first three lines up on my computer monitor right now.
Maybe next time it will help me get past the wall that keeps me from even wanting to help myself when I’m stuck…
Wait, starting over.
When the Wall gets in the way, I know I have lots of tools to help myself. But when the Wall is in the way, I don’t even want to use those tools. I don’t want to get unstuck. I just want to go to sleep.
I guess that’s a wall too.
Maybe this post will help me get past, um, talk to this wall so I can do all the things I know, starting with meeting myself with compassion.
Yoda, yes!
Imediment to your destination this wall is not.
Information it contains!
Get you there it will Jedi, if interact with it you can.
Hmmm, zzzzz
TOTALLY in the best way!! xxxxxx
Hehehe… The Yoda Sutras of the Fluent Self.
Now THERE’S a title for an awesome new product Havi!!
Ack, must stop commenting and get back to detangling my patterns and getting destuckified now, but in a lovely compassionate way.
😉
Um, yeah, Havi-Yoda. My goodness. Maybe I will dance on this today. Dance class this week has BECOME the wall.
Time to dance with the wall.
I keep thinking that I need to quote Midsummer Night’s Dream when you talk about talking to walls.
‘Thou wall, O wall, O sweet and lovely wall,
Show me thy chink, to blink through with mine eyne!’
and
‘O wall, full often hast thou heard my moans…’
AND
‘Thus have I, Wall, my part discharged so;
And, being done, thus Wall away doth go.’
🙂
Also, if I see my wall Midsummer Night’s Dream-style as a nervous amateur actor standing awkwardly in a dorky homemade wall costume, it makes it much easier – or at least much funnier – to talk to it.
Sarra, I don’t know if you’ll come back to see this, but I just wanted to say thank you. I’m usually hesitant to let my bizarre ramblings out into the universe, and it means a lot for you to say it helped you.
Great! You remind me to ask myself, “Am I going to defy my mechanism today?”