very personal adsPersonal ads! They’re … personal! Very.

So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.

Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.

Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.

And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!

Let’s do this thing.

Thing 1: For my blog to not completely die on me.

Here’s what I want:

I’m in Monterey, California teaching at my Destuckification Retreat.

So obviously this is my entire day every day all week. Which means I can’t write blog posts.

And of course I didn’t plan ahead. I mean, I thought about it but things were crazy busy and blah blah et cetera.

Now it’s time to make some decisions.

Ways this could possibly work:

Hmmm.

I could post some Unpublished stuff that I’ve written but never put up for whatever reasons.

Or some Shivanautical posts.

The Item! post is already done and the Friday Chicken will pretty much write itself. Chicken!

So it’s probably not going to be as complicated as it is in my head.

My commitment.

To let my gentleman friend decide what should get posted or not posted.

To not have to edit everything obsessively.

To love this space and everyone who is a part of it.

To recognize my own shoulds and interact with them at my own pace.

To acknowledge that I do love the regular practice of interacting with this space and that I really don’t want to go on blog vacation so I’m just not going to.

But that I also don’t have to write or create this week either.

Thing 2: follow-up.

Here’s what I want:

I record everything I teach.

With video (just of me, yes?) and audio. And back-up.

Because every once in a while I say the most genius things ever and so it’s useful to have this stuff so it doesn’t get forgotten and my people can use that information later.*

* Obviously I don’t ever share the video or audio — I just use it to gather ideas and concepts.

Theoretically.

But then I never upload it to my laptop. Or if I do, I don’t do anything with it.

I want a practice of organizing these files, remembering that they exist, getting transcriptions, going over them with a highlighter …

And for this practice to not take over my entire life.

Ways this could work:

Uh.

??????????

Maybe I’ll hire Cairene to help me work out a Useful System.

Maybe my gentleman friend can take it over.

Maybe …

Oh, I don’t know. I’m open to miraculous things that aren’t complicated and annoying.

My commitment.

To consider different options.

To laugh.

To give this time. After all, a couple of years ago, this whole thing would have completely freaked me out.

Thing 3: quiet. And peace of mind.

Here’s what I want:

For no one to have emergencies while I’m gone.

For the group leaders at the Kitchen Table to keep tabs on things.

For stuff to work. Smoothly. Effortlessly. Without me being around to take care of things.

Ways this could work:

Magic?

Trust?

It just could?

My commitment.

To remember that my business isn’t a baby anymore, and that it’s totally earned the right to borrow the car keys.

To breathe. To dance. To cry. To trust when I can and ask for help when I can’t.

Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.

Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.

Okay. I wanted to make good use of the Iguanability Deguiltified Chicken Board thing and boy did I ever.

I posted stuff every single day and it was awesome. I seriously credit everything I got done this week to the Iguanas.

We also posted a VPA for Riin who wanted someone to take her metal clay and gemstones and stuff. I peeked at her blog and it looks like there were some likely takers so yay. I hope.

And I wanted restfulness. Which I’ve been working on with my Thirty Days of Relaxation practice and it’s been addictive and fabulous.

Also I did mad Dance of Shiva all week — really, really badly — and had moments of bing all over the place and it was the happy.

So wow. Good stuff on all of these. That’s terrific.

Comments. Since I’m already asking …

I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.

Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):

  • Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!

What I would rather not have:

  • Reality theories.
  • Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
  • To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
  • Advices.

My commitment.

I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.

Thanks for doing this with me!

The Fluent Self