Personal ads! They’re … personal! Very.
So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.
Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.
Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.
And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!
Let’s do it.
Thing 1: Finish the next chunk on this project I’m working on.
Here’s what I want:
We’ve been gearing up to announce Stage 2 of the big party that is the Fun Brewing.
And there is so much left to do.
I need all sorts of things.
In the hard, I need sit down and do the work.
And in the soft, I need to believe that there will be enough windows of time. I need faith. Faith, resilience, love, support, certainty and a big dose of sovereignty.
Ways this could work:
I’m not sure. That’s kind of why I’m asking.
Hoping that this week will show me how it could work.
My commitment.
To stay open to possibility.
To pay attention to what I need and when I need it.
To remind myself that I don’t have to figure everything out right away.
Thing 2: Windows! But figurative ones.
Here’s what I want:
To find bits and pieces of time for my fun brewing project. To create windows and then use them for good.
If I can squeeze in four to five hours on this in the next couple of days, we can announce all sorts of exciting things. And I would like that.
Ways this could work:
By committing to my intention to carve out this time, the windows might just appear.
Or maybe I’ll just get better at noticing what a window looks like.
Or I could put on my sovereignty boots and let magic happen.
Or I could make wise, capable decisions about what other things have to go.
Probably a combination of these would be good.
My commitment.
To pay attention.
To meet myself with love when I can. And to be understanding about it when I can’t.
And to picture all my chickens jumping in and out of windows with grace and ease.
Thing 3: To be cool with the not knowing.
Here’s what I want:
There are still so many unresolved things right now.
I’ve gotten way better at trusting in the timing of everything, and not being on the anxiety rollercoaster.
And now I’d like to just get to the point where the not knowing isn’t such a big deal.
Ways this could work:
The usual suspects: yoga, meditation, Dance of Shiva.
I could untangle some stuckified patterns around this. Or just come to an understanding. Or talk to the me who cannot bear to not know. And find out how I can help her.
My commitment.
To be curious about every aspect of the process
Thing 4: Shivanautical epiphanies
Here’s what I want:
There are several … challenges I’ve been dealing with lately.
And by dealing with, I mean: pondering, mulling over, chipping away at.
And it’s as if I’m on the cusp of some understandings that will help me with this situation, but not quite there yet.
So I could really use some help from the thing that charges my crazy superpowers (and yes, that would be Shiva Nata).
It’s time to deconstruct some patterns so I can see what’s really going on here. And to do that, I need to change up my practice.
Ways this could work:
Super fast. Super slow.
I could go back to some levels that I don’t do very often. Like Level 6.
Devote more time to it. Work with an intention. Do some writing with it.
Create rituals.
Dance it up.
My commitment.
To do the Dance of Shiva in every single room in my house.
And at the Playground.
And in the woods. And in the park.
Under the sky. In my head.
To dance dance dance until this is done.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.
I asked for help trusting the timing of things. And that went significantly better this week so yay for that.
And then I wanted to close the doors for Camp Biggification, which didn’t happen. Which was very interesting. Looks like I have some internal stuff to sort out about this program before I can do that.
More about that later this week, probably.
My third ask was about movement with the Shiva Nata website. And it totally happened. Still a lot to do, but progress. Yes.
And then I wanted a perfect, simple solution to a complicated problem. And I don’t know if I’ve received it or not. But I’m feeling weirdly confident that it’s going to be okay.
All in all, useful asks.
Comments. Since I’m already asking …
I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.
Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):
- Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!
What I would rather not have:
- Reality theories (can we avoid words like “manifest”?)
- Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
- To be judged, psychoanalyzed or given advices.
My commitment.
I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.
Thanks for doing this with me!
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Confidence that it’s going to be okay is great. Yay! And good wishes for everything.
I have finally closed out a couple of Big Things, so here’s my VPA report of sorts: I found housing for next year. I think it has a lot of potential to be the place I was looking for, so I am very pleased about that. I also wrapped up the last dangling thing from the graduation business this morning, yay! Now it’s time to get on to the next thing. Speaking of which…
What I Want: Planning and preparation and setting up of stuff to make the next three months easier on me, so I don’t go stark raving mad. This comes in two parts: stuff for now, and stuff for later.
Ways this could work: For the stuff that must be done now, I am not sure. I can’t do it all by myself, because there is stuff that is not mine to do. So there’s going to have to be getting people to help me and trying to be patient and accepting that some things are going to affect me but can’t be controlled by me. All of which is hard, but I’m looking at it from every angle and can’t see a route marked “easy” that will work.
For the stuff that must be done by three months from now, I am thinking of making a little mini binder thing, to which I can add more or less at leisure when I think of things that need doing, where I can write little notes to myself about them, and so on and so forth. Or other ideas not yet thought of.
My commitment: To breathe. To try hard to listen and make sure that I’m communicating with them in a good way. To find a way to be firm if I have to in order to convince people to get things done. And to get enough rest.
Happy Sunday everybody! 🙂
Havi, I wish you the very best of luck. If there’s anything I can do to help, I feel certain that you know how to reach me. 🙂
An ad and some updates:
Thing One: Faith in myself.
Here’s what I want:
I have a hard time believing in myself. Part of it is the depression, and part of it is that, well, I’ve spent most of my life not being very successful. And that’s my thing, and I own it, if it’s not too gauche to say that. I had a serious epiphany on Friday talking to Naomi, and I’m really dedicated to being a Delight Specialist, but in the back of my mind I’m convinced that this is yet another thing I’m going to screw up. I’m not sure which monster it is yet, but one of them is telling me that I shouldn’t even bother because I’m not going to succeed anyway. It’s probably Indolent Me, who really needs a name so I can distance my core self from him, but I’m not quite sure yet. There’s a “wouldn’t you rather be…?” to Indolent Me that isn’t showing up here.
Ways this could work:
Honestly, having a client (as last week) would really help. External validation that yes, I can do this would do a lot to bolster my faith in myself.
I could have a conversation with my monster, whoever he is. Or go to court, as you so eloquently suggested this week.
My commitment:
Being a Delight Specialist is important to me. I will remind myself of that in whatever way is necessary to help buttress my core self against the monsters raging outside.
(I have an image, now, of my Core Self as a grand Gothic cathedral, with flying buttresses and gargoyles and bells up at the top that I can ring when I’m excited about something.)
Updates:
Clients. On the one hand, I still don’t have any Real Clients according to Betty (I’ve done professional work for Pace and Kyeli, and I’m volunteering for LibriVox, but since they’re not through the website they Don’t Count). On the other, I am doing professional work and volunteering my skills where there’s a need, and that helps.
Goals. I was still having a hard time with that up until Friday afternoon. Then I talked to Naomi. We came up with the idea of my being a Delight Specialist – someone who focuses on helping people do little, unexpected things for their clients/customers/visitors that increase loyalty and happiness – and at first, I was afraid that people would think it was deeply woo-woo and kind of dumb, because that’s what some of my monsters were saying. But I told people and without exception they said, “that’s freaking awesome, good luck!”.
So that’s actually completely turned around in the last 48 hours, which – heh – delights me.
Love to all, and again, let me know if there’s anything I can do to help out. <3
.-= Chris Anthony´s last post … New offerings =-.
Havi, wishing you faith, support, love, certainty, sovereignty and everything you need to bring your beautiful work even more fully into the world right now.
My VPAs this week:
1. For rest and recovery after the recent spate of website hackery.
My commitment:
To play with my friends, get a massage, take naps whenever I need them, and give myself lots of loving care this week.
2. Clear connection and communication. With my sweet website, which is my home on the web. And with my Right People, who have been so extraordinarily patient while my website’s been hacked, taken down, put back up again, rehacked, down again, and now, finally, clear, safe and secure.
My commitment:
To give my website love and appreciation for its beautiful being. To keep it safe from harm and held in a field of blessing. To create a space of love, connection, communication and safety for my Right People to connect with me.
Happy weekend wishing, everyone. May each of your VPA’s draw on the great stream of miracles…
.-= Hiro Boga´s last post … In the Center of my Crown… =-.
Not knowing is hard. -hugs- Good luck.
Thing 1:
Here’s what I want:
I have so many little things I need to do. But the big things cloud them.
I want to get these things done in good time, with as little stress as possible. So many things feel out of my control, but doing these tasks is within my control. I too want to find the windows of time and use them well.
Ways this could work:
-Shiva Nata.
-I could wake early – feleing alert and ready to tackle a task.
-Good night’s of sleep
-Taking a breath and just going for it
-Multitasking
My commitment.
To be open to new ideas. To work with a friend. To dance it up.
Thing 2:
Here’s what I want:
I noticed a pattern I have about finishing projects. I wnat to learn more about this pattern, so I can reform it as a healthier habit.
Ways this could work:
-Shiva Nata!!
-Meditation.
-Finishing small tasks and reflecting on how I feel
My commitment.
To dance it up, to keep writing about it, to keep moving forward.
To be patient if I have to move slowly.
My previous VPA is still in-progress, though I’ve survived week 1/14. I got a good night’s sleep, which was part of my ask. Many thanks to the powers who answer these.
.-= Rose´s last post … A Link Edition: Depression =-.
Asking for:
* stepping out of the Fear = Confusion Illusion thing that I’ve been doing lately around marketing.
* Helpful suggestions for some other word that I could adopt for myself that means basically the same thing as the word “marketing” but that does not make me gag. I have a strong sense that the word itself is the trigger point. I like biggification, yet somehow it doesn’t feel like “my word.” There’s something in there around wanting full ownership. Hmmm.
* The commitment to take the vacation that I have planned for myself in a month. I can already feel myself wavering. Wanting to renegotiate. Wanting to change it up (“Well, maybe I’ll only work part of the time…”). No no no.
* Making myself open for new friendships/connection. This has felt wonky as of late. Shape shifting.
More hmmmm.
~ loving your post, Havi ~
MY VPA: I need better health
I have been ill for more than a month now with the worst Chronic Fatigue/ME crash I’ve had in several years. I feel like sobbing when I even think about it.
How This Could Work
I honestly don’t know, I’m trying to do everything right but nothing is working.
My Commitment
To keep listening to my body
To accept that this is taking time
To accept help whenever it’s offered and ask when it isn’t
.-= Kirsty Hall´s last post … A Collection of Random Things =-.
Good work on the timing/trusting process!
I have a several of VPAs this week.
VPA #1: I want to make some closer connections with other people. Right now it feels like there’s only one or two people in my life who I can really talk to at length & about important things, or who I can really connect with. And I’m feeling increasingly isolated.
How this might work:
– I might put some effort into building back some of the trust/closeness in a couple of relationships that *have* been close in the past (spend some time together, make the effort to talk properly).
– I might find the nerve to follow up on some potentially positive, but so far only brief/casual connections that I’ve made recently.
– I might go somewhere new and meet someone I really hit it off with.
– Something magic might happen!
My commitment:
– to ask one particular friend to spend some time hanging out with me.
– to do the communication practice my partner & I have been trying out.
– to think about how I might make it feel safe/non-scary to follow up on other connections. (maybe interact with my monsters on this issue a bit?)
– to be open to new connections.
VPA#2: To rediscover my sense of focus: in work, in my non-work writing, in my activism, in my gardening.
How this might work:
– I could use my to-do lists in a more productive way.
– I could deal better with my tendency to avoidance.
– I could interact a bit with my avoidance and work out what’s actually going on there.
– I could be a bit more gentle with myself.
– I could miraculously have a really awesome couple of days which give me the energy to keep going.
– My thumb could stop hurting! (Seriously. I broke it, and it’s really aggravating!)
My commitment:
– To remember that being half-a-hand down is genuinely quite an irritating and painful experience, and that perhaps this is part of why I’m feeling rough and undermotivated right now.
– To lay off the wine with dinner for a couple of days (it does tend to make me a little down sometimes).
– To do the next bit of Shiva Nata (start getting it wrong again!).
– To do my Shiva Nata practice and morning pages every morning.
– To use the techniques from Hiro’s Internet Hangover class.
– To try out some of the monster-techniques from the colouring book to see what’s going on with the avoidance.
.-= Juliet´s last post … gah =-.
Happy thoughts for everyone’s VPAs~
What I want:
My parents are coming this Thursday to visit me! It’s the first time I’ve seen them in awhile, so I’m excited. I want to have an awesome vacation with them while they are are here!
How this could work:
Everything could just magically go perfect. Our tour goes without a hitch. No one gets lost and confused in a foreign country. Most importantly, we all get along for the whole weekend and have fun.
My commitment:
I’ll do all the prep work I can. I won’t expect this to be a perfect vacation and be disappointed when it’s not. I won’t stress myself out and blame myself for every little thing that goes wrong. Having fun with my family is key, not ‘the perfect vacation’.
not knowing not knowing not knowing.ay yi yi. pudding.
im with you. here’s to…a week of light and abundance…
specifically hoping for my connector mice to come forth and do as they said and help me video some stuff for my blog without any money to hand!..to not worry if that falls through. To finish reading Naomi’s marketing book(just focus on one book at a time woman!)To make some space in my flat for more of meeee….To notice that I am getting there slowly, in bits, in stops and starts…
to finishing the draft of my first ever product…to hoping it’s playful and warm and light…to not worrying that I don’t yet have SEO conquered or a blog following…at least I’ll have something to offer soon…I think!to get better at taking time off from creating ideas, to practise Owl Eyes via Larisa. It’s sooo amazing. But doing it alone is harder. http://www.larisakoehn.com/ebook/
hugs and thanks to allll!
xx
.-= Leila Lloyd-Evelyn´s last post … Live your ideal life of fun right now! Play, doodle, creative sweets for all! =-.
I’d like some clarity. Lately, I’ve noticed what in Fluent Self parlance would be monsters, except that I TOTALLY agree with their strategies. We’re all kicking back in front of the tv watching our favorite Magnum P.I.’s with some cookies and having a mellow good time. And that makes me think patterns.
I’m changing old patterns by completely avoiding the arenas in which they occurred. So in that sense, things are different now except that they aren’t really when it comes to my head and perceiving those arenas and how I might interact with them. Even knowing this, withdrawing still seems eminently reasonable. There’s just this small part that thinks I can do better or should or maybe my approach isn’t the healthiest long-term.
So I want to better understand this relationship between non-monsters and patterns, so I can see what comes next, if anything.
Ways this could happen: Not sure. Perhaps it’ll just come to me as I continue to mull it over.
I might read something on the web or elsewhere or see something that gives me insight. The web’s preeminent monster/pattern expert might write about it (but only if she feels like it).
Commitment: to keep pondering it. To breathe. To give myself credit for the progress that is noticing my monster buds and related patterns. To be patient as this probably won’t sort itself out in a week. And to be compassionate with myself as I learn more and decide where I do or do not want to go.
.-= claire´s last post … Sketchbook, page 28 =-.
After enjoying weeks of VPAs here and in my head [and sometimes scribbled on the back of an envelope] here’s my first stab at going public with one. [kinda]
What I want: To find ease and spaciousness around the big change that is coming. To feel the dread time- crunched aspect lighten up and to have feelings of hopeful possibility increase.
How this could work: I’m thinking magic because all my conscious and anxious efforts aren’t helping too much. Perhaps it could blow in via cottonwood seed?
My commitment: To treat myself as lovingly as I do my best friends. To enjoy outside everyday if even for a few minutes and to be very kind to my muscles.
-[beloved] former lurker
.-= mary´s last post … weekly rituals =-.
Havi, I’m wishing you faith, resilience, sovereignty and everything you need. And I’m sending you love and support.
In fact I’m wishing it and sending it to everyone here.
My VPAs:
VPA 1: I’d like to get in front of my most Right People. My most Right People are at a point in their business where they need, want and are able to make a financial investment in building their business’s legal foundation.
How this could work:
Some one here could say, hey, I know someone who could really use you.
A helper mouse could show me the secret door to where my most Right People play.
The KT could brainstorm all kinds of helpful goodness.
It could just happen one day.
My commitment:
To stay open. To look, listen and hear, see possibilities.
To work with my Monsters that say I can’t serve those bigger business people.
To learn as much as I can about my most Right People.
To help my helper mice.
.-= Rebecca Prien´s last post … An Open Letter to Bootstrapping Entrepreneurs =-.
mine are related this week:
thing the first: insight (and confidence) into thinking about the end of the year for my 9th grade history class.
what i want: clarity and insight into developing some kind of end of the year project or program that will help them leave the year with a sense of mastery and accomplishment, a sense of how much they’ve learned and accomplished. AND, this project should ideally take relatively little planning time on my end and relatively little prep time for them, since finals are a-coming. so: something that offers reflection, growth and a sense of graduation for my students.
how this could work:
it just could!
magic!
i could ask my mentors and more experienced teachers for advice.
i could do shiva nata and try and aim it specifically at this ask.
my commitment:
to ask for help and advice tomorrow.
to remember that this ask is about them, not about proving my perfection as a teacher. so, a mini-ego check.
to be gentle with myself either way: if a creative solution can be found, or no.
thing the second: to approach the end of the year with some relative calm, patience and humor.
aaaaaahhhhh the end of the year! sooooo much work and so much potential for squicky, stress-filled insanity. my ask: a stress-free or less-stress end of the year, and a removal of my self-imposed pressure cooker of a “perfection or bust!” mindset. Peace. Humor. Respect for myself. Taking off the weight.
How this could work:
it just could!
magic!
i could do shiva nata, to see what the basic pattern is here (in terms of the self-imposed pressure cooker building up inside my head) and then try to lovingly help the steam vent.
I could meditate, and give myself some quiet space.
My commitment:
Gentle, gentle, gentle with myself. This is a tender little bruise of an issue.
Ask for outside perspective: how did i really do this year? how am i doing now?
And maybe, maaaayyyybee, find something to be proud of.
Oh my gosh. I just read every single VPA here and they’re all so beautiful. I wish for all of you good things toward having what you most want this week. You are totally deserving and entitled and worthy.
What I Want:
Inner glowing. Inner glowing that fuels everything else I do and helps me feel light and flowing with my life instead of heavy and resistant.
How This Could Happen:
– I could do some Mental Decluttering. Looking at the stuff (drama) covering up and distracting me from this Inner Glow.
– I could visualize this Inner Glow and give it to myself.
My Commitment:
– To remember that I already have this Inner Glow.
– To remember that I am supported. I have so many helpful things in my life and I know how to use them.
– To make a list of the drama I’m experiencing around me and in me. This way I can see what I’m dealing with.
.-= Mona´s last post … Trip Reflections: Friday & Saturday. Tiny Part of Sunday =-.
What I want: To establish a daily practice of working on my dissertation. Three pages per day, minimum, 6-7 days per week.
How this can happen: Could there be a perfect, simple solution? Like, I just say, “Okay, I’m doing this,” and then I do it?
My commitment: To listen to my heart. To take care of my body. To allow for slip-ups, and just keep going.
.-= Kathleen Avins´s last post … It is enough. =-.
Last week’s VPAs worked amazingly well, I forgot how much I enjoy taking photos and playing with them, even though it’s not something I get paid for and therefore somehow indulgent to be spending time doing..hmmm..something to work on there! Anyway, this week
Deadlines. I have a big deadline looming. What I don’t want is to end up a frazzled, burnt out mess crying into a 3am cup of coffee. What I do want – grace, calm, and getting the work done!
How this could happen – Remembering that this big thing is made up of lots of tiny things and work my way through the list I’ve drawn up. Allow myself time to rest and relax, and do the things that I know help me work better – yoga, shiva nata, taking a walk, talking to my favourite people. Stop working when I know I should, rather than when I think I should. Remembering that 2 hours of good work is better than 5 hours of mediocre work.
My commitment – To remember what I know about myself. To remember that I don’t need to do it all at once, right now.
Hi Havi,
I’m asking for
Patience to see my ideas through.
In the hard- I too need to sit down and do the work, make material the ideas in my head.
Ways this could work
Taking mini steps instead of trying to conquer mountains. Doing this in my own time but with purpose.
Having faith in divine synchronicity.
My commitment
To be gentle with myself without making excuses.
To trust my gut feelings and follow my instincts.
Wishing you all that you require for fun-brewing!
besos x
.-= Nats´s last post … Sacred Sunday – meditation & the beauty of words =-.
Here’s what I want:
More compassion for myself as I do some hard stuff and take some big risks. (They feel like massive risks to me.)
How this could work:
I could do some yoga or Shiva Nata.
I could write some stuff in a journal. (I don’t have a regular journal.)
I could spend some time creating a Book Of Me.
I could spend a couple of minutes each day just noticing how I feel about myself and what I’m thinking.
My commitment:
To pay attention to how I’m treating myself.
To try to be compassionate about my lack of compassion.
To stay as curious and loving as I can manage.
Sending everyone here much love!
.-= Lucy Viret´s last post … People who rock: Havi Brooks. =-.
Hi VPAers … I’m late to this party. Again.
The things I want this week are the same things I wanted last week.
Thing I Want #1: A new job
On Monday, I found a posting for a job that would meet and beat all of my requirements. It’s across the street from my gym! Which I neglect going to because it’s so far from my current office! And, I’ve worked for the president before in a volunteer sense and she’s awesome!
I applied last Monday night. This week, I will write a love letter to this job (and to my perfect right employment in general). On Saturday I bought 2 new interview suits since my current work environment is super casual and my wardrobe has lapsed. I have my portfolio ready, and I will courier some work samples over this week. And I will work on networking, because I have people who know people here.
Updated VPA: I want an interview for this job.
Updated VPA 2: I want the Universe to deliver more jobs like this into my lap.
And I will keep my heart and mind open for this to not be the exact job I get. And I will do the PSYCH-K stuff. And more shiva nata.
Thing 2: A solution to the perimenopause stuff going on.
Well, I found out that this is not perimenopause, but rather something is WRONG. Which is scary, and terrifying and my Monster Who Jumps To The Worst Possible Outcome is throwing a party inside my head and scaring me even more. So I did some shiva nata/Metaphor Mousing on it and discovered that it’s a lot less scary to think of this as a hardware vs software issue.
I found one of my Right People, an herbalist, who has been awesome in helping me reboot the operating system using herbs this weekend. And my therapist has been awesome at helping me find the metaphor and write a letter to the scared, and to Let Myself Off the Hook.
Updated VPA: A hardware diagnostic with a technician who listens and looks carefully instead of blowing me off
I have an appointment with an ob/gyn on Friday. I am committed to being open and having faith that she is one of my Right People who will listen and investigate. I am also committed to Letting Myself Off the Hook about my reaction to whatever news is to come, and also to be OK with Not Knowing.
So I guess that’s the new VPA: To be OK with Not Knowing.
And I’m committed to breathing deeply when the Jumping to Conclusions monster starts throwing parties, simply asking him to keep the volume down, and maybe showing up with a bucket of Mojitos then leaving after 5 minutes. And then sitting in my own quiet space with my headphones playing relaxing music.
Time to join the party, albeit late:
What I want:
To deeply believe that I deserve to be graduating with a Ph.D. Graduation is this upcoming weekend, and I want to feel pride while wearing my cap and gown (and hood!). I won’t want to deflect positive comments. I want to own that I earned this, and it’s my accomplishment alone.
How this could work:
-I could journal about my graduate school journey so I’m more clear about what I’ve accomplished.
-I could list the classes I’ve taken and think about the work each class entailed (and that I accomplished).
-I could read old journals to remind myself of the challenges I faced – and conquered.
-I could talk with friends about how I feel and have them remind me that I did this, and I deserve this.
My commitment:
-To try to make graduation day as special as possible.
-To have my gentleman friend (who is also a freelance photographer) take professional studio photos of me in my cap and gown to honor the occasion.
-To really immerse myself in the graduation experience, to stay present.
-To not worry at all about expectations on me during graduation. I don’t have to prove that I’m smart or that I deserve the degree; I’ve already been there, done that. Now I get to relish the reward.
.-= Dawn´s last post … Being Stationary =-.
I’m late too.
@Dawn – Congratulations on EARNING your Ph.D. Relish in the day! I hope to be there myself in 2 years if my current coursework doesn’t lead to an early grave 😉
My ask:
To let go of the past. It is done. It is over. I can’t change a single thing that happened.
How this could work:
I can stay focused on the future. There are so many things that I can change for the future of my program. Dwelling on the past doesn’t help, but accepting what went wrong and then setting out to improve the processes does.
My commitment:
To stay in the present moment. To gently bring myself back when I start going into that bad place in the past. To remind myself of all the positive energy that is starting to flow under the interim director.
My VPA: For my mom to have a brilliant recovery from surgery, and for me to know it’s all going to be okay.
How this could work: I could call her each day at lunch to check in and say hi. I could engage with my guilt about not being physically there. I could plan a trip to visit her soon.
My commitment: To remember that she’s well taken care of. To allow space to feel sad and guilty. To remember that it’s about her, not me.
.-= Kylie´s last post … you’re perfect. just as you are. =-.
I’m a little for the personal ads, but, hey, that’s me–working under pressure (I’ll save that issue for another personal ad).
Wanted: Me.
Requirements: Ability to be free of conforming to the expectations of others and released from fear of looking silly, stupid, ridiculous or age-inappropriate. Adept at releasing creativity without presumption of reward or acclaim.
Compensation: Having a really good time.
And, if I may quote Steve Martin in “The Jerk”: That’s all I need!
Thank you, Havi, for offering me a portal to the Universe!
Here’s my VPA, and it’s a big scary one.
I need to find a dentist. Again. Someone who is kind and not-scary and won’t tell me I have 5 cavities when I don’t and won’t be mean and rude like the last one. **Deep breath** Yes the last one was not nice at all and now I’m procrastinating horribly but my insurance is about to run out. I need to go get a cleaning so I can go a few more months before I get insurance again.
My Ask: A nice, gentle, non-scary, non-mean dentist who can see me in the next week.
How this could happen: I will research “gentle dentists” in my area and try to find one that got really good reviews.
My commitment:If you are nice to me and don’t scare me I will come regularly and you will be my dentist forever.
.-= Serena´s last post … Epiphanies about epiphanies =-.
Late to the party too, but I loved reading everyone else’s VPA’s this week.
My VPA: For this big scary biggification thing to happen to my business in a healthy and natural way for my business, and to learn to accept that it will take time and can’t be forced. I’m starting a new business this week, and I’m really struggling with the whole biggification/monster/stress process of it.
How this could work: I could sit down and talk to my monsters about what they are telling me and why. I could talk to my new business partner and work out these things together. I could get outside and step away from the computer to try and get some perspective on the process, and learning to be patient with it (and myself!).
My commitment: To listen to my fears instead of pushing them aside. To go out and experience life, despite all of the business stress. To trust that my talents, reputation, and hard work will pay off the way that I hope they will.
.-= Holly Jackson´s last post … How to get tagline results at a rest stop in three easy steps. =-.
I love reading this VPAs. They always inspire me to think bigger. Now I just need to take the action too 😉
.-= Katy´s last post … Allow Yourself to Be =-.