Because it’s Friday AGAIN. And because traditions are important. In which I cover the good stuff and the hard stuff in my week, trying for the non-preachy, non-annoying side of self-reflection.
And you get to join in if you feel like it.
It’s Friday. Really, truly. Here’s the chicken.
It was an odd little week. I’m tired and cranky and want to go back to bed but I can’t because I need to catch a plane.
Will catch up soon. In the meantime, here’s the hard and the good.
Tell me about yours too. It will make me feel better.
p.s. yay, Friday. 🙂
The hard stuff
Gaaaaaaah. I’m so sick of people asking about my arms.
Or even having conversations about it.
Seriously. I know everyone means well. I just don’t want to talk about it anymore.
I already explained that my arms are on my side and that the pain is useful because it is helping me transform my business into one where I don’t have to be there all the time.
My situation has improved a lot. It’s good. I am no longer in agony. And I can now even send a text message if I have to.
But I need people to let me have the rest of my process.
I’m really working on allowing the pain to be there when it needs to be there. Because it’s that pain that is keeping me on track with my “rebuilding my business so I never have to be a workaholic again” practice.
Freedom. It’s good.
And all these conversations about how we can get rid of the pain and how the people in my life wish it would go away are not useful for me at the moment.
I just want a hug. And that’s it. xxoo
System changes!
I know. And yeah, I’m still completely loving having a pirate crew.
It’s just that changes are hard. And they mess with your head.
And we spent an inordinate amount of time this week just undoing all these things that had already been done.
So I pay people to spend time doing things. And then I was paying someone else to spend time undoing it. And then I was spending time trying to figure out what the new rules are so that this doesn’t have to happen again.
Sunk costs, I know.
But it was completely annoying. And expensive. And frustrating. And aaaaaaaaagh.
The good stuff
System changes! There’s a good side!
Like the day my assistant and I realized we had not spent 45 minutes of our day looking things up and tearing our hair out.
Because the system was finally working.
Because we were saving time.
Because people were communicating more or less in the ways I was asking them to.
Sigh of relief.
I can see the future. And I like it.
It was sometime in August that I realized it was really time to do whatever it took to turn this thing into a business instead of a job.
I had a lot of the elements in place. A staff. More products than services. Group trainings and programs. A very famous duck as a business partner who doubles as a mascot.
But when it came to imagining something crazy like only working twenty hours a week (or — gasp — fewer than that), my brain would turn to mush.
It just didn’t seem plausible. I couldn’t picture what I would be doing in so little time and who would be doing the rest of it.
So I started taking steps. I went (as some of you will remember) to Michael Port’s Beyond Booked Solid training in Vancouver, which planted some seriously fantastic seeds and set me off on the right path.
I started working with Hiro Boga.
All this systems work with Cairene.
But now — for the first time ever — it’s completely clear to me how this thing can work. I can actually imagine what it would be like to work very minimal hours. And what would be happening during those hours.
And what amazing good-for-me good-for-the-world things I’d be doing both during and outside of those hours too.
I finally got it. And this just feels so completely huge.
At the post office.
I’ve been mailing out the last of the gifts I’ve been sending to my Kitchen Table students.
And it is just the loveliest feeling in the world to show up at the post office with an enormous bundle of presents, feeling like Santa Claus.
Looking at the all the places my people live. Australia, New Zealand, India, Austria, Ireland, Scotland, England. All over Canada and the States. Looking at the familiar and loved names.
So completely wonderful.
There are so many times when it’s hard to remember why I do what I do. This was a really powerful reminder.
My arms are really doing much, much better.
When I made bread this week? Didn’t even have to ask my brother to come stir the flour in.
And I can scrub the stove without wincing.
And I twisted off a bottle cap.
It’s not like I’m done. There’s still enough pain to remind me not to work too much. But it’s completely bearable and I can work and it’s good.
And … STUISMS of the week.
Stu is my paranoid McCarthy-ist voice-to-text software who delights in torturing me misunderstanding me. I can’t stand him. Because he’s an acetyl .
There are only three little Stu gems this week because he was (astonishingly) behaving for once and also because I didn’t need him as much.
- “On the Tweeter instead of on Twitter
- “Ask Hobbies” instead of Ask Havi
- “about Steve’s typifying the general” instead of about destuckifying in general
I don’t know what his thing with Steve is. Honestly.
It reminds me of the time he asked Naomi “What Steve think?” instead of “What do you think?”
That wasn’t awkward at all.
That’s it for me …
And yes yes yes, of course you can join in my Friday ritual right here in the comments bit if you feel like it.
Yeah? Anything hard and/or good happen in your week?
And, as always, have a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious weekend. And a happy week to come.
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This is the first time I’m doing this, but I’m (slowly!) learning to come out of the woods…
The bad: Sciatica (enough said!) And the pills that were supposed to help with the pain making me sick and throw up. Aaaaargh!
The good: Rest. I was forced to, and it was good. Yoga: Would you believe I am pain free (even though it is right under my skin–do I make sense?) after something made me do 1 hour of yoga 3 times a day for 2 days? Don’t ask me how come, it did work, and I am still in awe…
Hugs!
PS: Sunk costs for a pirate queen ? How appropriate! :p
Oh, I am so happy that your system is working and all your hard work and frustration is having a useful and visible outcome! Hurray!!
[arm comments deleted and replaced with hugs]
Good in my week – my hair. Can I go on about my hair? It’s absurd and small and ridiculous when compared to the trials and tribulations of the world, and I don’t caaaare! I -finally- found a styling product that makes my hair look happy and healthy, a product that is actually GOOD for my curly hair, and a product that does not cause an allergic reaction.
This is important, because I spent 4 months last year not being able to breathe without medical help (inhaled steroids) because I was allergic to a new shampoo I was using.
So this week I am very very happy about my lovely curly hair being curly and not a giant ball of frizz, and being able to wear it down and not be itchy or wheezy or anything bad like that. Hurray!
I’m just thrilled you’re seeing the future and that it’s all coming together for you! YAY! So….so….happy for you!
For me?
The good: My biz partner has taken on more of the corporate stuff, so I can do more stuff I like. (Yay!)
The bad? I received some criticism that…well….let’s just say….I didn’t deal with as well as I’d have liked & let it take me down a few notches for an evening.
But really, that wasn’t bad in the long run because it lead to……
Even more good: There’s nothing like asking for help (something I’m not always fabulous at doing) & finding out you have truly awesome friends who are happy to do what they can!
Overall, though, it’s been a pretty amazing and wonderful week!
All the best!
deb
Deb Owens last blog post..it don’t mean a thing if it ain’t got that zing (what to do when life sucks or even is a little dreary)
The hard: Way too much work, way too little sleep. In that funky rushing around to get things done to take time off mode.
The good: Stood up to my boss when he zinged me on my preformance review for a problem that another department caused. Claimed I should have been overseeing them. Huh? I stayed calm, stood firm, presented the facts and got it corrected. He is the “monster” in my life. Still trying to sort out how to deal with him. Milk and cookies is NOT the route to go.
The very good: Spent a LOT of time in the destuckification station this week! It REALLY helped. Thanks, Havi!
This week’s hard:
Forcing myself to get an email list started, with sign up forms on my website and blog to boot! This has been on the ‘back of the brain’ to do list for months. Trying not to engage in the conversation when my wonderful husband explains to me how if I could make a “whole bunch” of these little mosaic plaques he’s sure I could sell them, because somewhere in that huge heart of his he knows that’s not what I’m about.
This week’s good:
The email list and sign ups are done, and a draft email is ready to go first of next week. Yay! And the mosaic I have been working on for a year now is only about 2 hours away from being finished. And I realized how grateful I am to have found your blog when I inisited my daughter needed to sit down and read it. All of it. 🙂
Lee Anns last blog post..Brain Vacation, or Busywork *but I like brain vacation better*
Bottle caps? Stoves? Bread? YAY!
The hard:- not having 10% of the energy I’d love to have’; accepting gratitude and complements has been hard for me this week, still working on it
The good:- the complements! The gratitude! Helping Tablefolk! And I’ve been outside. By myself! And ordered glasses. Yay!
The bad – realizing I don’t trust very well and that people can see that I don’t trust very well and that I don’t want them to see me not trusting very well. In other words my mask is slipping and I feel a really strong urge to replace it with a new, improved, better hiding mask.
The good – my mask is slipping and I’m getting signs from the universe that are a little woo-woo and they aren’t actually freaking me out instead they are bringing me into awareness of exactly how many places and in how many ways I wear chose to wear the mask.
(hugs) 🙂
The Hard:
Sinus headache/hamthrax that kicked my butt til Thursday. I’m thinking severe allergy business, because I started feeling better when the rain washed the pollen out with the spider.
The Good:
The car is fixable and insurance is paying for it. We should have Ed back late next week. Yay State Farm and Mr. Goodwrench 😀
Seeing Kim Addonizio give a lecture/reading yesterday on campus. She opened up my eyes on a project I’ve been percolating. Her book on writing poetry is also very good.
Vegan coconut cake with organic strawberries on top. Wow. 🙂
My jumbo wisteria are starting to bloom.
Had a really nice conversation with Kevinn yesterday at Donkey. Friends outside my head are good.
Spent 7 hours in the studio this week and seeing major progress on my work.
Had a nice conversation with Mary at the Canton Museum of Art about my show that opens on May 15.
Yeah, lots of good this week, for which I am most grateful. Wishing you all a great weekend!
Andis last blog post..Thoughtful Thoughts, Thinking
This is my first attempt at a Friday check-in:
The Hard Stuff
-All the people I love seem to be fraying around the edges right now and while I was feeling significantly more stable this week compared to last week I was not expecting my mysterious good mood to act as a signal to the universe to unleash a bunch of hard stuff on my loved ones and expect me to be supportive person to three people at once. It’s too much and my response to the situation seems barely adequate.
-I’ve been trying to meet a moving deadline of this weekend, getting off from work, and packing until midnight, and then getting up and going to work the next morning. I’m beat and still behind.
-A huge project that I’d been put off because someone else was working on a crucial piece of it just landed in my lap and I’m suppose to have it done ASAP if not sooner.
The Good Stuff
-When I finish the part of the packing I need to finish I’ll be over halfway done with the moving process.
-When I finish the monster project it will be an enormous psychological weight off my shoulders.
-My blog is going really well. I even got real live commenters the last few days. It’s funny how excited I am about that because when I started writing the blog I honestly couldn’t decide if I wanted anyone else to read it.
-The people I love are doing better. One of them definitely hit the nadir earlier this week and is already starting to bounce back and it’s a huge rush of relief hearing their voice grow lighter and lighter. Another seems very unlikely to kill herself at this time which, given her situation, is really the best I can ask for.
That’s my week.
Keely H.s last blog post..Creative Juices
Havi, I’m so glad your arms and stuff are getting better! I’ll offer nothing but hugs and goofy grins.
Hard:
-My art show last weekend wiped me out, as they always do. Instead of beating myself up over it, I just took it easy this week. I’m getting better at accepting my limitations.
Good:
-That scary letter I got two weeks ago from the government agency that shall remain nameless but has the initials IRS? Taken care of. Huge relief!
-I’ve lost 9 pounds since March, which is about halfway to my goal. Folks, counting calories works!
Barbara J Carters last blog post..Come to Calabasas for some art
Big squeezy hugs to you, Havi!
This week’s hard: Divorce sucks. Allowed ex to get under my skin. Two round trips between Portland and Chicago in two weeks with an 8 year old is really hard (even if that 8 year old is a seasoned traveller).
The good: Realized that I don’t need to listen to my ex anymore and I can let go of my victim persona. Such a relief. Sooo much happier! Got to spend a little bit of time (never enough) with my 11 year old daughter. Told the universe that I need friends right now – the universe sent me emails from two old friends in two days! It was seriously woo-woo.
Jessicas last blog post..Slackermom’s Number 1 Blogging Rule: No whining!
I echo Renmiri…
Sunk costs = sunk treasures, to which, you’ll no doubt apply the Ukrainian and universal principle “There is good experience … and then there is useful experience”, and do what pirates do with sunk treasure (dig it up later and party).
Thanks for the lesson
The Good: Workin on my stuff…
The Hard: My husband says he’s going to make a decision on whether he wants to work on our stuff tonight. This brings up a crapload of Fear and wanting to control the situation. I’m spending the day reassuring myself.
The Good: Being able to reassure myself effectively now. (Thanks Havi!) I’m not just telling myself to ‘deal with it’. I’m showing kindness to myself. Yeah, kindness! Talking to my Fear a lot. It really is helping. (Most of the time… and then I just try to accept myself where I am instead of forcing myself to be ‘ok’.)
I love this ritual. Good stuff from you this week, Havi, especially the bit where you upset the self-help world by pigeon-holing them into three bitesized categories! ^_^ Var useful.
Hard: well, yeah. Uh, tensions with my boss remain unresolved. My bike, which was cool and special and the best bike ev4r got stolen. Tried to make it into work on Thursday but had two crying fits before I even made it out the door, so I gave up.
Good: I’m taking it easy. Not making myself do stuff, just doing the stuff I want to do. This does mean stuff I kind of would have thought I might have done before this weekend haven’t been done. There’s less crying though.
I appear to have developed a “freelance” folder in my bookmarks. Weird. Like I’m trying to tell myself something or something. O.o
And my new book is out this weekend! Well, it’s not my book, I’m just publishing it, and it’s only 24 pages, but still, yay!
Wow, that’s actually more good stuff than bad stuff. Unexpected.
Willie Hewess last blog post..Brand New Book Soon!
Hugs to you, Havi, your pirate crew and all your readers.
Here’s my week.
The bad:
The first half of the week was horrible. My degree deadline was approaching and my project for design school was still just a few lines on paper (and not very good lines, either.) I was totally blocked and desperate about it. I could not think clearly and wondered whether I was depressed or something. Also, I could not bring myself to work despite trying several of your destuckification techniques. I cried myself to sleep on Tuesday.
The good:
On Wednesday I woke up determined to make the best of this situation. At least I would learn more about myself if not about design. I relaxed. Some ideas started trickling. And then–BOOM! On Thursday, just a few hours before meeting my supervisor, I was inspired and came up with the concept that had eluded me for almost two months.
I’m still in a creative mood and hope to stay that way. I’m pretty sure that Dance of Shiva had something to do with it. I have practised diligently for about a month. Today, during practice, I had a monkey mind full of great ideas. Come on, Shiva, get those creative juices really flowing!
@Willie – oh no! Your bike! That sucks! And a yay for the good stuff. Good stuff. Sigh of relief. Thank goodness for the good stuff …
@R – wow, that’s a lot of hard. Sending you support. SUPPORT!
@Keely – that’s a hell of a week there. Good grief. Thanks for chickening with me. I love that.
@Nathan – hey there! You’re sounding exuberant! Nice.
I adore you all madly — all of you! — and am so glad you do this with me.
Thanks @Sanders for the inspiring story and thanks @Vaughn & Renmiri for making me laugh. Of *course* pirates have sunk costs! Fabulous.
The hard
A cold which wasn’t that bad but just made it kind of hard to focus on stuff at work. The tube. Not really having any fun stuff set up here yet and being tired anyway.
The good
I have somewhere to live and with nice flatmates. The new job seems to be going ok (if not the most exciting). I got to catch up with some friends I haven’t seen for a while. Yesterdays fluent self blog post.
Definitely more good stuff than bad. Though I’m wondering where the comfort book buying habit started. (Not that it’s necessarily a bad thing).
Big hugs, Havi, for you, and yay! for all the good that flows your way! 🙂
My good this week: I made a big (and long overdue) change in my life. Thanks so much for your loving support and superpowers, which helped me get there. I can’t quite talk about it yet . . . just soaking in the “after”.
Amazing, brave and beautiful clients made amazing, wonderful changes too. 🙂
Writing . . . writing!
Spring sunshine. Herons resting on the sandbars in the bay outside my window. Hummingbird sipping at the violas on my deck.
The amazing Richard Miller(CalyxDesign.com)made me a newsletter template as gorgeous as my website, which he also made.
Hard this week: not really.
Love and big hugs,
Hiro
Hiro Bogas last blog post..On creativity, bees & flying fruit . . .
Big hugs!
I’m going to be all wacky and alternate today, because my stuff seemed to come in pairs this week.
The Good: Saw Wicked! Visited Cask and fondled the whiskies, but didn’t buy. Had pub dinner. And saw Wicked! So good it deserves to be mentioned twice.
The Bad: Climbed about 3 storeys of steep non-working escalators in 3″ heels. Knees have yet to fully forgive me for this. The phrase “oh holy crap ow” comes to mind.
The Good: This week was full of great connections and future prospects. Met with my favorite client and talked about a bunch of upcoming new stuff. Went to a networking lunch that was really pretty cool. Sent a proposal out to a whole new client with a nifty custom kitchen biz.
The Hard: Social exhausts the introvert. Intermittent sleep didn’t help. Spent Thursday in a haze of meh and uselessness.
The Good: Launched a very long-running project on Tuesday night, and the client is getting great feedback on her cool new site.
The Bad: Didn’t get a whole bunch of other stuff done that was on this week’s list.
The Good: Cats still happy, healthy, and getting along as well as can be expected. Putting up with all this me-going-out stuff reasonably well.
The Bad: Lack of daytime attention means teenage kitten wants to play as soon as the sun comes up, when I’ve only been asleep for a few hours.
Bonus Good: The farmer’s market is back! I have no idea whose idea it was to have an afternoon farmer’s market two blocks from my house, but I will love them forever and ever for it.
Amy Crooks last blog post..It’s Good to be Small
The hard: signing papers for $400k in mortgages even though I know it is fine. Still hard. Mild anxiety stuff about money consequent on that.
Also trying to figure out all the bits of my business that need figureing out before my big conference thing. Feels a bit like I’m leaking cash to get stuff printed and to get the help I need to maintain my sanity (you are right about Charlie and the maps).
The good: Charlie is really helping. He forced me to write down processes on big pieces of paper. And then he talked to me about it. Not as hard as I thought.
I now own a 24 acre farm! (with some help from the lovely bank people) I’m sure that is going to entail more hard but for now it is counteracting the anxiety from the bank thing the day before.
someone phoned me up to buy my services when she didn’t even know if I did the thing she wanted (I do) but had heard I was good from a friend. Hurray!
One of my big clients paid their bill really fast thereby alleviating some of the cash flow anxiety.
JoVEs last blog post..Congress of Humanities & Social Sciences, May 24-30
This is my first time commenting on your blog too! I’m coming out of the woodwork like Sanders up there.
The hard this week:
Realizing I’m not spending enough time recharging, and that I’m running myself ragged again. Did not realize this until I was already feeling crummy, of course. Feeling a little dumb because I spend a lot of energy helping other people de-stress, so I feel like I should “get” this by now. Ha!
The good:
Hosted the first meeting of my new Meetup group, and met someone who’s doing something very similar to what I want to end up doing. And he’s a qi gong master to boot. The guy’s in his eighties and looks sixty- amazing.
And I bought a bougainvillea bush for my front entry. It’s bright pink, which is so not me, but it’s very VERY pink and for some reason I like it for that.
You are loved and adored and pretty awesome on top of that! Have a fabulous weekend, wherever you’re off to.
This was the hard and the good all wrapped up into one.
I went to a professional photographer today, as another part of my, “Make my web site less amateurish,” campaign.
He asked if I was feeling nervous, and I admitted that I was, and he sternly told me that I should NOT be nervous.
“Sorry dude,” I told him, “this is where I’m at right now. It’s okay, nothing personal about you. Even though I feel nervous, I’d still like to proceed, okay?”
We did (proceed) and it was (okay). Awesome!
hugs Havi – just hugs to you and your crew.
Well, tonight I saw a car’s bumpersticker that said DON’T BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT YOU THINK. That was a pretty definite “whoa” moment for me.
This week’s hard: standing up for myself and my decision to sit a few things out this summer . . trying to find a substitute . . all kinds of awkward fussy conversations. (And here I thought I was pretty easily replaceable.)
The workplace is full of budgetcrisis/layoff/unpaid-furlough issues and rumors, and I’m not scared of it but it’s still tiresome.
I am still trying to make progress on like five different fronts, and my positive rituals and routines aren’t exactly routine yet. Hit-and-miss is more like it.
The good: one day I saw my mom walking home from work, and caught up with her, and we had a spontaneous middle-eastern-food-dinner out and it was a lot of fun.
The flowers in the garden are growing.
It’s the weekend and only one of my two days will be busy.
First of all: {hugs}
It’s so great to read that you can see the future *and* you’re happy about what you see! Yay!
My week:
The good:
– finally getting my blog started, and immediately having great and encouraging comments, mostly from people I’ve met through you – thanks!
– feeling my sternum and ribcage pain going away; it’s still fragile, but it’s so much better now! Interesting thing: even though I’m still not very good at talking with my stuff, the two times I tried talking to this pain (and not *with* it, because it’s not really answering), it almost immediately got significantly better.
– your teleclass!
– seeing a friend I hadn’t seen in months, and realising that she left feeling a little more hopeful about her future
– making my business project move forward, even if it was only by a little – at least there was movement
The hard:
– feeling like I was spending a lot of time in catch up mode
– getting some bad news health-wise; I’m doing ok and the impact on my quality of life isn’t as bad as it could be, and I’m really grateful for it… but still, it’s kind of destabilizing and hard
Josianes last blog post..Extra-curricular learning
The hard: finding out that my special cool project is already being done by someone with more resources and authority who doesn’t like working with me. Shoulder more painful then last week. Mother panicking that her friend collapsed at her house and must have swine flu. Worried about leaving pets alone for three days next week. Dentist and physical therapy both hurt. Broke the sculpture I was working on.
The easy: mom’s friend is ok – she just forgot to eat that day. Got all the loose ends tied up at work before taking next week off. Vacation. All next week!! Massage today did not hurt as much as it helped. Figured out where some of the health stuff is getting stuck. My little herb seedlings from earth day are all growing like mad.
Stacys last blog post..Meeting the Little Girl in me
Tons of great stuff this week, working with Naomi and other excellent things, and all that good Twitter love which makes me very happy.
But then I had to take my nice mood to Nordstrom and spend an hour and a half trying on undergarments, helped by a perky small person. So now, unfortunately, my self image has been destroyed to the point where I’ll have to shoot myself. It’s been lovely knowing you all, though.
Sonia Simones last blog post..What I Love About My Job
Consider yourself hugged by me, too.
I’m so happy your systems are working! It can be a serious uphill battle to get stuff working the way you want it! Woo Hoo!!!
I, too, have ongoing, colicky pain that is also here to assist me in following my path and taking really good care of myself in the process (which is SO easy to forget to do!) – I had a particularly bad night last night, so THANK YOU for the very important reminder that “getting rid of it” isn’t the answer – continuing to listen is.
Buon Viaggo!
Everyday Yoginis last blog post..Everyday Parenting: Sometimes I have moments of clarity: Post Two of Three
Hugs to Havi and to the rest 🙂
Hmm, the week in review. Let’s see [closes eyes] three, two, one [jumps]:
The bad:
Having this huge lack of energy all the time.
Not progressing on my destuckification program. What can I do about the problem of “procrastinating-the-dissolve-procratination-program”?
Not being able to do the most normal and tiny things my business requires: E.g. I should be happy when a customer needs something – so, why is it so hard to write that little offer and just to keep in contact with him? He is a nice and not at all scary person.
The good:
Working on a customer’s project that will not bring in money (at least not in the near future and only if the customer sells his products successfully) but is very exciting and nice.
Realising that I can put some stuff off my list – finally – that was residing on my list of things to do for more than a year, such as finding a tax consultant, going to the dentist … Ridiculous, normal life stuff, tiny little things that grew huge while sitting on that list – got all done during the past few weeks!
Had a very nice evening going to the ballet with a friend. I am not a big ballet knower, but this was so inspiring and special. Realising that I should do such things more often.
Getting to think about my business and my structures. Well, I am definitely not a pirate queen, but got inspired to think about what might be right for me (thanks Havi for sharing).
The very good:
My cat lying beside me, sleeping and snoring and just looking so peaceful and cute.
Next week’s challenge:
I have this little event upcoming for friends and customers. Some of the customers even travel a few hours to take part and that makes me nervous about their (too high?) expectations. Uaaggghhh.
Okay Havi,
Jumping right in here. Been following you and Twitter and reading your blog, but just in a lurking kind of way. : )
And even though it’s Saturday technically, here goes:
The hard:
I’m trembling with all-out scaredness because I agreed to be interviewed about storytelling and content marketing on a radio show and have visions of pulling a “Walt Disney,” as they say on the movie Bruce Almighty. In other words, frozen solid. I’m having nightmares every night, similar to the ones I had repeatedly as a kid, where I’m a woman in a wheelchair and I’m paralyzed from the eyebrows down. Can’t move, can’t speak, can’t blink my eyes. I’m a WRITER for a reason, for God’s sake.
Okay, that was the hard. Guest appearance is NEXT Friday, 1pm PST.
The good:
I’ve been asked to be on a radio show. Oh, wait. That was the hard. Okay, another good: I am back in a critique group and have restarted the memoir I put aside when my mom died. And I am loving the bonding with other writers!
That’s it.
Judy Dunns last blog post..Good Karma Edition: Taking Care of Our Customers
Sadness…
The bad:
A disagreement with a good friend/business partner. Both of us feel the other is acting selfishly. She wants to talk, I don’t. My fear is telling me to run and not talk because there is nothing to talk about. We don’t agree and we wont agree.
I’m so sad and don’t know what to do about it.
The good:
This disagreement and my feelings about it have put a light on an old pattern that I thought I was done with. This is good but also making me very sad.
Suddenly, I feel very stuck. I’m sad and angry with myself because I’m in this situation AGAIN and AGAIN I don’t know what to do about it. So, I am honoring my feelings and giving myself permission to feel how I feel. I just don’t know what is next.
Thanks so much for making this a safe place to tell it like it is. I have a huge amount of love and gratitude for you.
Vicki