Because it’s Friday AGAIN. And because traditions are important. In which I cover the good stuff and the hard stuff in my week, trying for the non-preachy, non-annoying side of self-reflection.
And you get to join in if you feel like it.
Oh boy oh boy oh boy.
Busiest Friday ever.
Actually, I’m about to get on a plane. But enough about today. Let’s review the week. Yallah.
The hard stuff
Buying music.
I was buying music this week … some of it for me, some as presents for people I love … and whenever I find something I like, I want to share it with my friend who killed himself.
Because — of course — despite the fact that I spend so much of my time missing him, talking to him, yelling at him and crying over him, I still manage to forget.
Every single time I somehow forget that he’s gone until the very moment I think about how much he’ll like hearing some new song I’ve just discovered.
And each time I remember, it seems equally sad. Equally unfair. Equally incomprehensible.
Some of what I can’t share with him? Calvin Marty. Ian Lawler. John Vester and his song Lucky You which I can’t stop playing.
Family issues.
I don’t really want to go into it, but let’s just say there’s a family crisis happening back in Israel right now and I feel crummy about not being there. And of course at the same time I don’t want to be there.
Actually I should at least make some calls, but the whole thing is just getting me down.
Hardest part of the week: still ahead of me.
We’re taking a trip to visit my gentleman friend’s parents and sisters. It’s easier than visiting my family, yes, but it’s still high stress.
They’re lovely people. Who live in a very, very small town. And pretty much everything I would ever speak about is off-limits, conversationally speaking.
Also I suck at pretending that things that mess with my routine are okay with me.
Selma is coming along as a stowaway. I am going to do my best.
The good stuff
Oh this is so great.
Every time I get an email that makes me go “Whoah, best testimonial ever!”, the next one is even better.
This one — from the charming Nathan Briggs over in Scotland — made me laugh more than most. He kindly agreed to let me share it with you.
Just a quick (ha – yeah right!) not to express the following sentiment:-
HOLY SHIT THIS HIPPY CRAP WORKS
I haven’t even go through your Procrastination Dissolve-o-Matic course fully once yet (and I’ve already got a load of ideas for stuff I want to cuddle up and get all fluffy with), but in the last month alone I’ve:
- made several phonecalls, including many I’ve been putting off for months
- done a few little coding jobs, and one pretty big one (yay, monies!)
- got a great rep at a private marketing forum by doing little coding jobs for members, and coding a great tool for their free use
- got approached by someone I admire very much to joint venture on programming and selling a tool – with me getting to keep most of the monies (he just wants the tool to use on his own sites)
- got approached by another person I admire loads to do a number of jobs & joint ventures, and he’s offered support on selling anything else I come up with in the future
- did I mention I’m getting married on Saturday? 😀
I’m rather happy. And panicky, but – here’s the huge thing – COPING WITH IT and not being pissed at myself. Wow!
*bounce bounce bounce*
Exactly. Coping with it. Not being pissed at myself. Getting stuff done. Happy sigh.
Everyone cheer for Nathan. He deserves it.
Naomi calling me. On me being a jerk.
So I have this weird disease that causes me to be terrible at goodbyes. Even symbolic non-goodbyes like your favorite person moving to England next week.
So in my head I know that Naomi and I can keep doing our talk/complain/commiserate/cheer-up thing that we do a few times a week. Even if she is in England.
I mean, it’s just a time difference.
But my weird disease says that this is a parting and as such I should do the awful thing I do which is to disappear and ignore the person I love until they feel hurt and hate me.
Naomi doesn’t put up with that kind of crap, thankfully. Also she might be my cyber-stalker. Because she just keeps calling every single number that might reach me until I pick up.
Anyway, she assured me that she will still be stalking me and insulting my duck from afar and that my mental health as well as hers needs us to be talking several times a week. End of flare-up. Disease is either gone or in remission.
I love Naomi.
Space.
Jen did her awesome Office Spa Day thing where she reminds you that if you stop feeling guilty about the piles and go make sweet sweet love to your workspace, everything about your life will be better.
I’m addicted, so I show up every month. And beat people off with sticks so they can’t take my spot.
Anyway, fun! And I did away with a certain pile who shall not be named. Life is good.
Even better: as I was soaking up all that delicious spaciousness and love, Jen called and asked if I’d be a guest destuckification expert on a special holiday version of Office Spa Day.
Would I ever!!!
Right. So it’s five hours to practice making peace with your office space and getting stuff under control. I’ll teach an emergency calming technique or something wacky and destuckifying. And Jen will do her magic.
And we’ll all clear out some space and feel safe and supported and loved so we can get better at doing the stuff we’re really supposed to be doing in the world.
I tried to talk Jen into charging about five times as much but not only would she not listen to me, she’s throwing in her Wish Kit as a present too. Sigh. You can’t have my spot (I have a stick!) but there are a few more.
It’s December 13. I’ll see you there, right?
That’s it for me ….
And yes yes yes, of course you can join in my Friday ritual right here in the comments bit if you feel like it.
Yeah? Anything hard and/or good happen in your week?
And, as always, have a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious weekend. And a happy week to come.
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Cheers for Nathan. I’m glad I’m not the only one that calls it Hippy Crap and means that in a positive way. Magic!
Good stuff: talking to Havi and really getting some calm about my business biggification plan. Good ideas. Good calm. Now I need to work on making those ideas real.
Finished a handmade present for my mom. Got new embroidery books in the mail and they are fantastic. Crafty things are happening in my house (and my kid is baking up a storm, of gingerbread and sugar cookies).
Hard stuff: non-specific anxiety that I think is just related to Christmas approaching and my parents coming to town. I don’t do Christmas day with them and my brother. Too stressful. But someone it’s stressful anyway. Trying to work out how to blog about it as an alternative to therapy (none of them read the blog, so that isn’t the problem).
Empathy for the family difficulty.
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Totally feel you on the “everything I usually talk about is off limits”. I go through a visit with the programmer’s family with my tongue permanently bit. Sending you good vibes as you deal with family “fun”.
Hey Selma and Havi!!
Loving you guys’s writing! lovin’ it. I just found your blog this week (I forgot who referred to it). Definitely best new blog on my blogroll this year.
Gonna work on loving my office now and not being mad with myself for a) not being completely finished with a paper and b)not being completely finished with a ton of other stuff.
Have a great weekend!
Havi,
Sending love and prayers for healing for your family in Israel. And for a real, heart-centered, honest connection with your gentleman friend’s family this weekend. (You create miracles everywhere you go, so maybe your magical fairy dust, and Stowaway Selma, will make one happen here as well.) 🙂
Your tribute to your friend (which I read when I clicked on the link) made me cry. And call my own friend, whom I love.
And then I signed up for Jen’s holiday spa day! Wow–what a treasure-box of a blog-post this turned out to be. I feel like I’ve just been given a basket-full of goodies to nourish my heart. Thank you so much!
Love and hugs to you,
Hiro
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I love my flat. I do. Its a mess, and my parents will be here soon. But still, I love it. But not as much as I love my blushing bride 😀
So have you registered wackyhippycrap.com yet? Never know when these domains might come in in handy.
Hugs for you on the tough stuff.
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I’m really sad for you about your friend and the family issues. Just remember not to feel guilty about not being there, because if you were there you’d probably just be doing the same thing you can do over the phone, and you’ll feel helpless for not being able to do more. And I’m assuming they understand that you’re very far away and you want to be there with them.
Yay for Nathan! It’s always good to hear people are productive, even if I’m not. =)
I’m glad you have Naomi, and I don’t blame her for stalking you. 😉
I’m sending out happy thoughts for you while you’re with your gentleman and his family.
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Good things this week: Office Spa Day and the discovery of Jenn who inspired me to clean out The Closet of Insanity. It took me all day, but it only took A DAY, and now my office is all zen and stuff. We like.
This is also the year that DH and I don’t have to travel on the holidays, so I’m actually looking forward to Xmas, and celebrating, just us, next to our tiny little tree packed with the presents we wrapped and shoved in the back of the closet over a month ago so we’d forget what they were.
Not so good: Bummed that I’ll miss the Office Spa Day Extravaganza b/c I have plans I can’t get out of, but hopefully I’ll be making good contacts and accessing my inner quiet with the covert Emergency Calming Techniques while I meet all the new people, and will therefore be giving love and support to my office/business anyway.
Havi, many hugs to you and yours. Good luck with your gentelman’s friends family visit. And big hug to Naomi too for kicking ass.
That Office Spa Day sounds like just what I need, except my office isn’t at home so I’m not sure if I’m her clientele. (I just sent a msg to Jen to ask).
The hard: calling my mom for her birthday (twice, because the first time was really late and I was super-tired) and then setting the time boundary I needed to (both instances) but not knowing how to set another one that came up.
The good: Being given a really nice compliment today from someone who is not at all known for them, and the feeling of appreciation I have for the (very unexpectedly positive) motivation that person has inspired for me lately. Working through a stuckness moment today. That…I took the plunge and started a blog this week and am even tempted to link it here even though I’m still not quite ready or even sure about having it associated with my real name.
And, I cannot go without saying I’m so sorry Havi for your loss, for the pain that is brought up when you remember, and whatever is going on for your family in Israel. I’ve never had a boreka, but they sound delicious.
This is going to be icky but whatever you say in your blog, I always seem to feel better after reading it. I’m going to check out the procrastination thing now.
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This post was chock-a-block for me, too. I have a feeling you’ll be just fine with GF’s family–each post I read, I’m more inspired by you. I read the link about your friend and I’m so sorry. For me, Sonia’s response really got to me. I’m inspired by Nathan, too. I’ve begun the Non-Sucky Yoga but I’ve been procrastinating with hippy shit. 🙂 The absolute best thing for me in this post is the music! CDBaby is great! And, new to me. Music has been my life since I blew all my Christmas money on a record album when I was 11 and got yelled at big time. There’s nothing better for me than to have someone turn me on to some neato music and you did! New music soooo makes my day. When I first heard the first few notes of “Lucky You,” I thought, “Uh oh.” But, it’s great and since we might have the same taste in music, and I’d love to return the gift, you really must hear Marte Wulff’s album “Jacket.” Melodic and smart. She’s Norwegian but sings in English and “Jacket” is available in the States.
http://www.last.fm/music/Marte+Wulff/Jacket
And, Joely, I couldn’t have said it better. 🙂
Friends, I checked and http://www.wackyhippycrap.com was free. Was. Past tense *grins* 😀
How’d you do that, Nathan?? Cool. 🙂
You’re all the awesomest. Thanks for crossing fingers for me or whatever it was you were doing.
The good:
— hanging out with Jane, the mother of my gentleman friend who is the sweetest ever and I love her.
— schnuggling and playing with the various dogs (Phoebe, Penny & Samson), cats (Olive & Hobbes) and nephews-in-law, especially three year old Jesse who made a shocking Declaration of Love to me and then turned bright pink. So so cute.
The hard:
Oh, everything else.
Anyway, must crash. *blows kisses to all*
@Karen – I’m a web coding geek, so its easy. Register the domain (with namecheap.com) and setup a redirect to here with my host. Simple 🙂
Instead of “cool” I should’ve written LOL!! You gave me a good laugh. 😀 I’m working up to web coding..