Personal ads. They’re … personal! Very.
Each week I write these Visions of Possibility and Anticipation to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.
I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!
Wishes from the Vicarage….
The quality and superpower of Succinctness.
The situation. And background.
I have recently become obsessed with Succinctness as a quality.
Which is hilarious, because I am an indefatigable storyteller who likes to use all the words.
I like to take the scenic route. Sometimes I need to visit a long, winding path to arrive at the secret truth of what I am trying to say.
And my deepest fear is that of Being Misunderstood (and then Great Doom Resulting from the misunderstandings), so I have a tendency to overclarify.
What I want.
A paring down.
An explaining less.
Letting my words and actions sit, resonate, radiate out.
Releasing the urge to over-explain.
Trust.
Trust in slowness. In the protection-blessing of red lights.
The qualities inside of the wants:
Trust. Treasure. Presence. Patience. Blissful Steadiness. Clarity. Shortcuts. Resonance.
And the superpower of knowing that this is enough.
What might help?
- I asked five of my favorite people to tell me what they know about Succinctness. Maybe I will collect this information into a document.
- Delete.
- Undo.
- Cut it in half.
- Ask over and over again: What if this is enough?
- Upon my return from Vicarage I shall play with the giant pink blow-up sword at Stompopolis that I have dubbed the Sweet Sword of Succinctness.
Anything else?
(just a smile)
I’m playing with…
Discovering what I already know about Succinctness.
What I want.
Some of these are secret agent code and some are taking a silent retreat on.
Some are qualities and some are dreams. Some are re-asks and some are pre-wishes: tiny seeds for future processing.
- Everything that is mine returns to me.
- Shared conducting.
- Sharing, in general.
- This process is easier than I think it will be.
- I can feel the good news before it arrives.
- Everything I need is somehow right here..
- This moment is new.
- Ahahaha I am an accidental genius! SOLVED.
- Time expands as I need it to.
- This is right.
- A different kind of patronage.
Repeats from last week.
They’re that good!
- Breathe.
- Rest into miracles.
- Choosing quiet
- The labyrinth, each day new.
- Perfect simple solutions, suddenly visible!
- Operation Rest Well.
- Respecting the Seven Wells, while remembering that the First Well always comes first.
- What do I need? What do I want?
- Welcome, fears. Come this way. Straight to the hugging room! We have it all set up for you.
- Sweet blissful steadiness.
- Things that need to exit now exit gracefully.
The qualities inside of the wants:
Quiet. Shelter. Pleasure. Confidence. Permission. Alertness. Glow. Serendipity.
And the superpower of seeing exciting options that were invisible before.
Again again again. Seeing the secret holiness of everything.
Ways this could work.
I’m asking. And paying attention.
I’m playing with…
Imagining what this would feel like.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
I will silent retreat on last week..
Playing. Shelter for the comments.
What’s welcome: Your own wishes, gwishes, visions and personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like. Things sparked for your own process.
I’m receptive to warm wishes for the things I’m working on and playing with.
We ask for what we need, and we give each other space and spaciousness for the process.
This is a place of safety for creative play and exploration, with a very non-dogmatic approach. We don’t tell each other how to ask for things and we don’t give unsolicited advice. We play.
That’s it. Let’s throw a bunch of things in the pot!
As always, amnesty applies. Leave a wish here any time you want.
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Snickersnack! The Sword of Succinctness! <3
Thing 1: the lists
I have a few lists to compile, and one to work through this week. I’ve been meaning to get around to doing them for, oh, just a few months now. Now is the time. (Unless, of course, it isn’t, but really, it probably is).
Invocations!
Qualities of: accuracy, completeness, completion, possibility, containment-as-a-door-to-expansiveness.
Superpowers of: focussed attention, desire, courage, ahimsa, fightlessness (effortlessly entering the moment where effort is required).
Ways this could work
Floop it. Find an accountability buddy. Make it public??? An hour a day. Do it by feel. Magic burst of all the qualities and superpowers and bam, it’s all done! Stationery: the perfect tools that allow the work to be easy.
I’m playing with… writing it down. Taking notes on my process as I’m IN the process. (My so-bleeding-obvious-I-never-saw-it-til-now epiphany of last week….)
Other things…
* creating a haven
* taking myself for restorative adventures in the haven
* preliminary thoughts about June
* update the calendar
* three tiny things every day
* wall of qualities
* getting specific
* channeling the energetic flows
****fairy dust****
Update on last time: made the basil toner. Being patient.
Gwishes:
* a just-right hat for everyday summer wear
* or perhaps two? (am I asking one hat to do too much?)
* ease with erasures and drawing lines
* respect (both from self and others) for my body’s limits
* mystery bumps to dissolve sans complications
Qualities: health. balance. smelling the roses as I move along.
Playing with: thanking Past Me for the supplies. accepting assurances from Future Me that hoarding is unnecessary.
Warm wishes to all y’all.
I envision the Sweet Sword of Succinctness and smile a smile of “of course.”
Warm wishes for everyone’s VPAs.
Thing 1 – Doneness
I want the gig project that has been hanging over to be done.
I want the volunteer project that has been hanging over to be done.
Qualities – Relief. Acceptance. Peace. IncorporatedLearnings.
Superpowers – Focus. Confidence. Efficiency.
Ways this could work
-Investigating if the Guilt and/or Fear Monsters are at work here.
-Block off the my gig calendar and wear headphones to reduce interruption and distractions.
-Apply proven productivity tools to both – Rally! the projects with compasses and stone skips. Then set up hours of 50 minutes of doing then 10 minutes of break/rest/next stone skip.
-Ask for help to get mailing label templates + mail merge + not screwing up the printer working.
I’m playing with…asking what if music helps? Pretending Wednesday is the end of the week. Projectizing everything.
Thing 2 – Resolution to the [silent retreat] situation
Qualities – Ease. Peace. Calm. Agreement. Understanding. Respect.
Superpowers – Force Field. LovingKindness.
This time I’m going to try
-Explaining with confidence and kindness in words, on paper, on whiteboard. and then silent retreating on the subject from that point forward.
I’m playing with conversations with future me, who already knows this outcome.
Now: Force Field – Activate!
Other people’s asks resonate so much with what I want to ask for this week. Sometimes the way they say it is more clear than the way I’ve been saying it. Here are some of the things I want:
Listing the lists (Hi, Claire! *Waving*)
A couple of things that Claire wrote that I totally want too:
“Magic burst of all the qualities and superpowers and bam, it’s all done!”
And:
“The perfect tools that allow the work to be easy.”
Doneness (Hi, Pat! *Waving to you!*)
And:
“Qualities – Relief. Acceptance. Peace. IncorporatedLearnings.”
Iguana extermination (I’d have all the relief and peace if I could just eliminate them!)
Unpiling the piles
Asking each moment What do I want now? What is right for me in this moment? With the superpower of Finding the Right-for-Now Answer to My Questions.
MrB to cooperate with the plans.
I’m playing with Chickening on the Floop Coop, sovereign scheduling, and being impulsive. Also wearing power clothing (never mind if it looks odd). Invoking quietness.
Havi, warm wishes for your wishes. And for everyone else’s asks.
What I want:
Force fields down. To be at ease. To let the world in. To feel all the feels. To lay them both down, sword and shield. To write the things that need to be written and not worry yet (or ever) that they have started letting comments on Modern Love and how will the internet react to this.
New paths open. I’ve bought my tickets. Now to see what trains come. Not just hopping on the first one.
I will play with:
More writing. More force fields down. More letting the world in. More feeling of all the feels. More being the soft underbelly of a cat, without the claws.
More love. Evey where.
Succinctness is sweet.
Situation/background: I have been thinking about systems and routines that might support me in keeping things running smoothly on the home front, in ways that feel supportive rather than overwhelming. At the same time, I don’t want to set up anything so rigid that it will set up my patterns of resistance. I also want to remember a little epiphany I had the other day — hard to put into words, but it involves setting up systems in such a way that allows plenty of room for flexibility.
What I want: To experiment, in the coming week, with a particular collection of rhythms and routines that I have written down in my journal.
Qualities inside the want: Creativity. Strength. Ease. Smoothness.
What might help? I think my journal is going to be my best ally here. When in doubt, write!
I’m playing with… Letting this be a game — and not the kind with winners and losers, either. Just playful. The play’s the thing!
Asks for this week:
Headed to visit family, and feeling both delight and apprehension, so: asking for strong (but gentle) force fields.
Qualities: sovereignty, joy, calm, grace, safety, presence, courage, and celebration.
Questions: what do I need to feel grounded? what’s from then? is this stuff my stuff?
Superpower: interrupting the patterns with laughter.
Love and warm wishes to all!
Ah, the wells! Seven wells for Havi – as in Be’er Sheva? I really love the idea of wells right now.
I think I have eight. But I’m investigating carefully, because there might be more I haven’t uncovered yet…
Things for this week:
Thing A: My house is a container for grief this week. My grief, everyone’s grief. I’ll let things be clues towards healing: The sound of rain outside the window, a couch and pillows. Letting things be what they are.
Thing B: The Horrible Scary Thing is over. And now it is time for healing. It is ok to leave the dishes, and the laundry. It’s ok to not go to yoga. It’s ok to let writing and blogging be on pause (paws!) for a week or so. It’s ok to ask for as much time as I need for cocooning, and resting and hiding.
That’s it. Just those two. Warm wishes for everyone’s visions. <3
Accidental genius *boom boom*
Accidental genius *boom boom*
She was a
She was a
ah, ah, ah,
Accidental genius!
so, everything
up in the air
everything
so precarious
everything,
sadness
endings
failure
shame
so many gifts
squandered
hoping that the turnaround place
is near
I love you guys.