Friday chicken

Where I cover the good and the hard in my week, visiting the non-preachy side of ritual and self-reflection.

It is Friday and we are here.

{a breath for Friday}

REMINDER…

It ends Sunday night! Operation SUSTENANCE. Password: fredastaire

What worked?

Congruencing

The thing that nearly always happens after Rally

No matter what my mysterious Rally project turns out to be, it invariably reveals all sorts of areas of my life that are not congruent with how I want to be living.

And then during the weeks after Rally, stuff has to move around. It actually starts moving itself around. Insistently!

Organizing and reordering happens. There are reconfigurations. Of small things like sock drawers, and larger things like my relationship with time, or with people.

Sometimes a fit of congruencing — making the necessary shifts, changes and adjustments — is invigorating, and sometimes I fight it.

This week I was able to just recognize it for what it is: ah, yes, I’m congruencing. Like scratching an itch. I let it feel good. Yes, everything is moving and being moved. Yes, this is hugely important.

Next time I might…

Look at the almanac.

The Alamanac is for notes about how I tend to react to different parts of the year.

It tells me how I like to celebrate the various Holy Days Of Havi Bell, which days I need to hide, when I am most likely to fall apart.

This week I was down about everything. Everything.

Until it hit me: this is my annual week before birthday slump. I can experience it as an Existential Fit Of Hating Everything, or I can experience it as Useful Intel Thanks To Heightened Awareness About What I Want And What Isn’t Working.

Turns out I have lots of notes about this, as well as about how to take care of myself while I’m in it. Almanac! And maybe a pop-up reminder on my phone?

Eight breaths for the hard, challenging and mysterious.

  1. This week was straight-up miserable, both for me and pretty much everyone I know. Blame mercury in retrograde, blame whatever you want. A breath for waiting this out.
  2. OHMYGOD. My neighbors decided Wednesday was a good day for two chainsaws and a wood chipper. The noise was unbearable. I am wildly HSP and can’t handle loud noises. I couldn’t leave the house because of my sprained ankle, and my housemate was out running errands in the car, so there was no escaping. I basically just curled up in a ball under a pile of blankets and cried all day, and then when it was over I cried some more because it was still loud and jangly inside of me. A breath for the pain of this.
  3. Working impossible hours trying to get everything ready for the Floop launch. Dry Dock is always rough — and busy, and this year I cut it in half to give everyone an extra two weeks on the Floop. The software upgrade is a nightmare, but only one of many. Too much to do, too many decisions to make, everything breaking. Richard was up until 2am tearing his hair out. The usual. A breath for patience.
  4. The ballroom and the Fluent Self and the Floop and Rally and writing. It is too many jobs for one person. A breath for solutions.
  5. Got some financial news that is on the one hand terrible, and on the other hand, the least terrible financial news of the past [period of everything sucks, aka the last two years]. We high-fived. We high-fived about terrible news. Because it was better than it has been. So depressing. A breath for sustenance.
  6. Thanks to the virus from hell and then my sprained ankle, I have been completely sedentary for TWENTY FOUR of the past thirty days. Movement is my sanity. And I have missed all the dance workshops I have been looking forward to all winter. If I can’t dance soon, I might explode. A breath for every aspect of this.
  7. There is more of me now, in the sense that I am visibly larger than I was thirty days ago (see above), and I cannot fit into any of my clothes, and I have a wedding to go to tomorrow night, and each of these things is disproportionately frustrating for me right now. A breath for this too.
  8. Inhale, exhale. Goodbye, mysteries and hard moments of this week.

Eight breaths of good, reassuring, delight-filled.

  1. A long talk with TJ about a mission dear to my heart. A breath for confluence and for sparks of ideas.
  2. Against all odds (and despite everything going ridiculously wrong), the Floop is ready. The new design is beautiful, the new boards delight me, everything feels right, and I am proud of what we built. A breath for about to embark!!!
  3. The spy who loves me kept me company during the hard, reminded me to go have a yoga and Love The Ground, brought sweetness to the scary. A breath for comfort, for being adored, and for Loving The Ground.
  4. I am enormously happy about the 25,000 words I wrote for Operation Say Everything Twice. Those of you in last year’s Year of Emptying & Replenishing, and in this year’s incoming Year of Emerging & Receiving, will get to read it soon! A breath for the beautiful thing that is process.
  5. The shellbacks (the graduates from my 2012 Crossing the Line retreat). So much love and appreciation. A breath for companions in deep internal voyaging.
  6. I’m doing the best I can. A breath for trusting, deeply, that nothing is wrong, even as I walk through some hard places.
  7. Last night I walked TEN WHOLE BLOCKS, which is SEVEN MORE BLOCKS than I could the day before. I am healing. I am getting there. A breath for this.
  8. Two sweet letters from my mother, postcards from Agent Prairie Blue and my favorite uncle and my father. My red flannel hot water bottle from Germany is, still, the most magical thing. I have the most amazing friends. Also: Patsy Cline! A breath for everything that is good, everything worth appreciating, so much.

WHAM BOOM! Operations completed.

The phrase Whoosh Ha Mastodon Boom is secret agent code that means: this thing is done! It is often shortened to wham-boom. You may also shout (or whisper) other joyous words if you like.

My op this week was to let go of the three ops-in-progress and back-burner them, and then start over with Operation Say Everything Twice. Not only did I start over, I am almost done! WHAM! BOOM!

Next week? Probably a ton of Editing (whoops I mean, Decorating) Everything Twice, and also to skip more stones regarding Operation Houston It Is The Vicar.

Superpowers!

Powers I had this week…

The powers of Nesting and of Releasing Through Words.

Superpowers I want.

The powers of Remembering That Shit Is Not About Me, of Saying Thank You Twice, and easy letting go.

Salve. The Salve of Readying Under The Surface.

This is the salve for Winter, also known as the salve of rest, the salve I need to remember when I have a sprained ankle, or when it is cold and dark out, as it is here.

Instead of trying to describe it, I will give you this poem by N.P. Van Wyk Louw. Thank you, The Living Chicken (Agent!) for pointing me here, and thank you, Eleanor for reminding me how much I need to remember this.

The earth now lies through nights drenched
in the still dark benediction of the rain
and dusky houses and branches stand out bleak
each day in mist, in white, and in the rustling wet.
All, all is rich and restful, with heavy
and secret and rich growth finding its way
through warm soil to every leaf and shoot
and binding everything – near, far – mysteriously
with moisture, fruitfulness, and great desire
– till one clear afternoon suddenly we see
the glistening grass, the tenderly rising grain
and know that life is served by rest.
How could I ever have thought of summer
as richer than this season’s mystery?

– N.P. Van Wyk Louw (South Africa, 1906-1970)

These salves can’t be seen, but the production factory delivers enough for distribution by way of the magic of the internet, so help yourself. There is enough.

If salve does not appeal, you can have this in tea form, as a bath, cocktail, whatever works for you. Not only is there enough salve, there are also enough ways to receive it.

Playing live at the meme beach house — the Fake Band of the Week!

My brother and I make up bands, which are all just one guy. The Meme Beach House is the venue.

This week’s band plays zydeco hip hop fusion. The band comes via Kathleen, it is called It Will Think Up A Z, and actually it is just one guy.

Attenzione! Attention, AGENTS.

You guys! THIS WEEKEND is your last chance to get cool stuff from our sail/sale, because it ends this Sunday.

We only have a few calendars left….and the Floop (my private online community of agents, entering its 6th new year) begins this weekend. So we are closing out Operation Sustenance, this is the last chance to get stuff this year.

To get cool stuff and/or read about the cool stuff: https://fluentself.com//sustenance

PASSWORD: fredastaire

You can join any of the ops through Sunday night when we shut it down.

If this is the time, much rejoicing! And if not, I trust that we will play together some other time, and I am invoking the superpower of All Timing Is Right Timing.

Come play if you like…

Join me in the comments. Some of us share hard and good, some of us say hi, or maybe we’re on silent retreat. My ritual doesn’t have to be your ritual. Whatever works for you. Almost three hundred weeks of this and there still isn’t a right way.

Everyone belongs. We let people have their own experience. We’re supportive and welcoming. We don’t give advice.

Wishing you a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious day, a restful weekend and a happy week to come.

Shabbat shalom.

p.s. It’s fine if it’s not Friday anymore. There’s complete chicken amnesty — join in whenever you like, it’s no big deal. And I am blowing kisses to the Beloved Lurkers. I love that you are here too.

The Fluent Self