Personal ads! They’re … personal! Very.
So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.
Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.
And now it’s my weekly ritual. Yay, ritual!
Let’s do this thing.
Thing 1: remembering that there are many forms of support.
Here’s the situation:
I have this sticky pattern that I’m working on.
What happens is that I encounter a financial challenge or set-back-ey thing that forces me to reevaluate certain plans.
And then I feel anxious. And then I use my sneakified Let’s Go Make Some Monies technique (it’s very sensible, actually and not woo-woo-ish). And then I start to feel better.
Which is great, yes.
It’s just that the thing I’m trying to work on right now is building a different pattern.
And the new pattern I’m working on involves being able to remember that there are many forms of support and sustenance, and that not all of them involve me actively making something happen.
I’m trying to remember (in my body and in my head) that Making The Monies Under Duress — while a very useful skill — is just one of the many ways that support can come into my life.
I can still use my technique. I just want to stop relying on it so much.
Ways this might work:
My eyes will open to all the support that is already around me.
I will have big crazy realizations while doing Shiva Nata, and the resulting epiphanies will be swift, hot and buttered.
Something astonishing will happen and this something will be full of grace and coolness.
Simple changes. I’m open to surprises.
My commitment.
I will continue to be totally grateful for this skill I have, that I learned the hardest of hard ways and that has saved my ass on more than a few occasions.
I will even teach my technique at some point (so far I’ve only given it to private clients and my Kitchen Table people).
As new forms of support come into my life (or: as I get better at recognizing the many forms of support that are already there), I will wave to them happily and say hi!
I will practice trying to experience what it’s like to be joyful and playful with this theme of support.
I will be kind and patient with myself when hard, hard memories come up from those times when I felt completely bereft of support.
Thing 2: I need a new server. And a perfect simple solution.
Here’s the situation:
I never, ever thought I would complain about this — and yeah, I’m not complaining — but this site is crazy popular. And I have a lot of sites.
And my Kitchen Table forum is ridiculously active, and the upshot is that it really, really needs its own server so it can stay speedy.
And of course this is not the best timing since I’m off to teach in North Carolina this weekend and then flying off to Berlin for two months of giving workshops.
Here’s what I want:
Perfect simple solutions.
I already have the perfect person to set everything up for me (thanks to a past Very Personal Ad that brought me the fabulous Tech Pirate Charlotte.
But I want everything else to go smoothly. And I want a chunk of money to cover tech support expenses, which have been pretty out of control this year.
Ways this could happen:
I don’t know.
I’m just asking for a happy, easy resolution to this situation.
My commitment.
To be appreciative and patient. Or try to be.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.
Last time I asked for recommendations for places to hold a retreat. And got some thirty plus suggestions.
One of my pirate crew is going through them and figuring out which ones can work best. So that was cool!
I also learned that a lot of retreat places have appallingly confusing websites and also seem to be fond of having their “about our rates” pages actually be Error 404 pages.
Oh how I give business lectures in my head when I’m hoping to bring someone a huge chunk of income and they don’t let me.
I don’t know if there is news on Chrisandra’s ad from last week, but she wrote a more thorough ad and it’s awesome and I will post it here as a comment.
And I am still mulling things over with the title of the Shivanaut’s Manual. But we got some super interesting suggestions and I have my thinking cap on. So that part is awesome too.
Comments. Since I’m already asking …
I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about I would like to receive in the comments. And that way, if you feel like leaving one (you totally don’t have to), you get to be part of this experiment too. 🙂
Here’s what I want:
- Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for.
- Thoughts or ideas about ways any of the personal ads listed here could come true.
What I would rather not have:
- Reality theories.
- Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
- To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
My commitment.
I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird. To give time and thought to the things that people say, and to interact with their ideas and with my own stuff as compassionately and honestly as is possible for me.
Thanks, guys!
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A more in-depth Very Personal Ad for Chrisandra!
Remember last week when I said that Chrisandra was coming to Portland and that she’s an amazing yoga teacher and that she needs some Very Personal Ad love?
So she wrote a more specific ad and I’m going to put it on here so that it can have some extra love.
Havi
Okay, here’s Chrisandra!
Here’s what I want.
Income – money coming in – while I am in Portland, August 23-September 12. I want to have money coming in during these weeks that I am studying with my teacher, so that I can pay my rent and bills and have a little buffer when I return to San Francisco.
Beneath this is my desire to attain a financial steadiness in my life – all year long – so that I can do amazing things, like take 3 weeks to study and not come home to an empty bank account.
I also want for the money to come in a way that allows me to maintain a good amount of “being immersed” in my 3-week program of study.
I am also so excited about coming to Portland because I LOVE Portland! And I want to cultivate a situation in which I can come and share the thing I LOVE (yoga) in a place I LOVE with people I just might LOVE!
Ways this could come to me
I could offer my services in Portland for:
yoga private/semi-private sessions ($75/125)
I have a plethora of themes, sequences, and tips to share for anyone interested in the practice of yoga. We will identify your intentions for practice, observe any obstacles to your sense of freedom within practice, and explore the possibilities!
Yoga & Lifestyle Consulting ($75)
You want to take your practice to a new level, but aren’t sure how; You’re looking for a teacher training and want insight into trainings, teachers and approaches; You want to transform your relationship to food by Greening Your Diet, keeping a Well-Stocked Fridge, and learning how to Make Something out of Nothing in the Kitchen
Editing (hourly or on a project basis)
You are working on text for your website, brochure or workshop fliers. I can help you say what you want to say, clean up excessive language, and help you get your message across in a way that feels good to you.
I could also be available to SUB classes for yoga teachers who may be vacationing during those weeks, or who want to take some time off.
I could receive an opportunity for work or a project that has not yet revealed itself to me, one that I am open to and available for.
I could continue to promote my Transitions & Transformation Yoga Retreat in Brazil, Ilha Grande, Nov 29-Dec 5.
Here’s how I want to get it
I receive emails of inquiry and opportunities that abound in Portland for my services.
I register many participants for the Not-to-be-missed Transitions & Transformation Yoga Retreat in Brazil
I receive a lucrative opportunity for work that is not yet revealed to me
I am delighted and surprised by something that reveals itself to me!
My commitment.
My commitment is to show up and follow through – to come to Portland and to immerse myself in my course, remembering that beneath the fear, I am arriving from a place of love and trust. I am committed to staying open to the possibilities for work and for the possibility of being taken care of in ways I may not know are already happening. I am committed to continuing to grow the “biggifying” aspect of my business by working on my website and materials and maintaining what I call my “office hours” while all the wonderful work in my course sinks in and incubates. I am committed to trusting the experience, because it is the one I am choosing.
With Great Warmth,
Chrisandra
(email chrisandra AT gmail DOT com for the glorious details).
(read my bio : http://www.yogatreesf.com/teachers/chrisandra_fox.htm)
I hope one of those suggestions was in Portland – and that Crisandra finds the perfect opportunities. 🙂
I want:
to understand why there is so much stuckness in my throat and why it comes back and back and back.
Ways this could come to me:
during my BodyTalk session
during meditation or in relaxation pose after yoga
a random epiphany (on a walk, in the shower, .. I’m not picky)
My commitment:
to honor the understanding
to love myself even if I am not ready to act on it (oh dear, this made me cry, I might not be ready for whatever it is)
to celebrate it with a piece of cake (yay. cake. except if it comes after today, the cake may be gone.)
.-= elizabeth´s last post … fun, fun, fun =-.
I would very much like to thank you, Havi. These ads, saying what I’d like and what I’d rather not have have helped me with setting some boundaries and getting *a little* better at saying what my needs are.
I would really like a new way to think about this infertility thing and depression and what it means to me as a loving being. I would like to be mindful and present and allow myself to feel hurt and grieve rather than wall it all up inside and only let it trickle out at ‘appropriate times’ like during therapy sessions. This is a big stuck for me and I keep writing around the hurt and intellectualizing which keeps me from writing meaningful things. I just don’t know how to let it out. I am afraid of what it might look like when it is out. I am afraid of what I will do with the space that is left behind if I let it out.
I want safe and real energy to take up that space.
How this could happen:
Find a safe place (other than therapy) to let feelings out however they would like to come out.
Start an art project that doesn’t have to amount to anything, just release.
Someone says something that helps me connect to that grief and just let it be what it is.
I am committed to exploring all possibilities that would allow this to happen.
.-= melissa´s last post … Skunk! =-.
Yay personal ads! I find myself looking forward to this post each week, now. I wish you luck with the support thing (it’s so easy sometimes to go on doing the hard and awkward thing that works, rather than moving into unknown territory), and with finding a new and perfect tech setup before you leave on your travels.
This week, I would like to ask for permission to rest.
My situation:
I don’t take enough breaks. I haven’t had “leisure time” – which I think of as time when I can freely choose what I do rather than running through the list of super-urgent things and then sprinting towards the most urgent – in what feels like months. (It may actually be months, too, which is scary.)
When I rest, I feel guilty and anxious because of all the things I am not doing. When other people are caring for my children, I feel obliged to knock items off my to-do lists to “pay” for that time “off”. And of course I never go to bed until stupid o’ clock.
This is nuts.
What I want: As I said above, purely and simply, permission to rest.
How the permission might come to me:
* I could somehow find a way to give it to myself.
* Other comments on this post might hit on a turn of phrase that would bypass my walls. (These are massive and very old, I need hardly add.)
* Something else.
What I do not want:
To get sick so that I “have to” rest.
My commitment:
I am open to this. I am willing to be surprised.
.-= Lean Ni Chuilleanain´s last post … Sunday Stash, no. 1 =-.
I can’t find my last one, but I *think* it was about getting a real publisher for my next book. And you know, it’s working out about right. A really fun (=fun to write, fun to do) topic may not be the one the publisher picks, but that’s okay, because I have 9 more ISBNs to use 🙂 and the one they have asked for more information on? Totally cool, it will be a good one to play with with someone else taking photographs and doing book layout and design.
So now, my personal ad? Keeping on top of what appears to be my next *several* books to write. Grin!
.-= Amelia Garripoli´s last post … And the hunt goes on … =-.
Hi All!
Update on last week: I asked for help destuckifing “my Can’ts.” This past week was mostly a “can’t” free place, and that feels great. I am not ready to call this a closed case yet, but positive progress was made. So much so, I have another “ask” this week.
What I am asking for:
I want to diminish my desire for “gold stars” and other external positive feedback. I have let the external feedback I’ve received over the years dominate my self beliefs. I want to generate my own “gold stars” when I crave attention, comfort and recognition. I want to be my own best cheerleader.
How I this might happen:
I might shower myself with gold stars at every opportunity to head off the seeking behavior.
I could set aside time to really concentrate on how I feel (emotionally, physically) so that I can provide myself the comfort I need.
Someone might suggest a tactic to use for working on this stuck.
Another perfect simple solution could present itself.
My commitment:
I will relish being my own best cheerleader. I will still accept the loving feedback I receive from the world as a gift. But I will give myself gifts too — mine will be tied with big satin bows.
I’ve been lurking for ages, but the ad about the server upgrade enticed me to comment.
Good luck with the server upgrade! I know how scary it can be: “I invested so much time and money and effort and what if it doesn’t work or doesn’t solve my problems?”.
But you have a competent techie and I’m sure she does all the worrying for you, and you’ll have a simple and smooth upgrade and the new server will work miracles for you!
.-= Chen Shapira´s last post … You Can’t DeDupe Oracle DB Files =-.
Lauren:
Small suggestion for battling gold stars, since I’m also in this process.
A lot of my desire for gold stars come from the question “Am I succeeding?” or “Am I good?”.
Your first idea for “how is it going to happen” is about answering your own question instead of asking other people to answer it.
Another possibility is to try to change the question. Try to ask “Am I learning?”, “Am I having fun?” “Am I contributing?”. Since no one except you can answer these questions for you, they can also help to shift the focus inward.
.-= Chen Shapira´s last post … You Can’t DeDupe Oracle DB Files =-.
Havi, here’s wishing you much support that will, indeed, be totally cool and awesome!
What I need:
To find a way to financially support myself that will honor the current limitations of my physical self. I was in a car accident 3 years ago that has prevented my from being able to do the very physical work I did before. I used those 3 years to go to grad school. But now I need to pay my bills.
How this could happen:
I will find the right opportunity for me from LinkedIN, twitter, or my blog.
I will be able to recognize with clarity when this opportunity shows itself.
Something else will happen that I haven’t thought of yet.
I am committed to:
Keeping myself open to the universe
Being present and not stuck in that place of terror
Keeping an open mind.
Thank you so much for all that you do to give folks the tools to become “destuckified”
.-= Carole´s last post … A visit to Pat Sutton’s Garden =-.
Thanks for your suggestions Chen. I am glad you came out of “lurk.”
Here’s the thing:
I need income. As in money coming in. From my artwork. I have all these ideas, but can’t justify taking action on any of them without any income from everything I’ve already done. So I’m stuck. Also, money is a helpful tool. I trust Havi, so I’m trying the personal ad again. After all, the last time I tried it, it did get me a fabulous job. 🙂
What I want:
Sales. Regular sales. Specifically, I’d like a reliable income of at least $200 every month for the rest of 2009.
Ways this might work:
All those business cards I’ve handed out could reap phone calls and connections with buyers. My etsy store could suddenly become useful. People could go to my site and order prints through Paypal. I could make connections and sell my stuff at Last Thursday.
My commitment:
To update my Etsy shop. To order printing for Limited Edition prints. To make my portfolio on my site better, so that people will be more inclined to click “Buy Now.” To keep painting, even when I’m discouraged by lack of sales.
I haven’t looked forward to much this past week, except for finishing up my Giant Deadline of Doom, so it was a nice little surprise today to be reminded that it’s still okay to ask. *g*
Update on Previous Asks: Got energy back and managed to channel it where it needed to go, and still feel like I didn’t overdo it even with Big Deadline on Friday. Worked on the art commission from week-before-last’s ask finally on Saturday, to the happiness of the client who got her sketches. Which leads us to…
Thing This Week:
I need to get back into my creative space, and in the making-things-for-me habit as well as making-things-for-others.
What I want:
I want to make progress creating things! Writing, arting, commissions and doodles and stuff-for-me and stuff-for-others. I have several nifty creative projects in the pipeline and I’d love to make progress on those and see delicious returns (monetary and otherwise, depending on the project). Also, November is looming and I’d really like to be done with Novel #2 and Novel #3 before considering the start of #4!
How it could happen:
I could schedule in time for these projects and keep to my schedule. I could come to the end of the day and still have energy left for writing. I could keep to my self-imposed but poorly-enforced tv time limits. I could get encouragement from outside on specific projects that helps re-ignite the dwindling spark, or fan the current low flames.
My commitment:
To not fritter away all my time. To explore these new ideas. To not beat myself up when some time does get frittered. To make space, mentally and schedule-wise, for creative endeavors.
.-= Amy Crook´s last post … It’s Done, It’s Done! =-.
Hi Havi and friends.
Yay to Havi for creating this space and for being so beautifully, fully 100% present with us in her process. Wishing you ease in manifesting your ad/asks this week!
Here I go, jumping in to play in the personal ads…
my thing: I have an old belief that’s stuck around a bit too long. One that says I either work for myself and struggle to make ends meet or I “sell out” and work for an organization where I lose all my freedom and creativity (thanks Hiro B. for help with this today!). Yuck.
What I want: I want to bridge the working bigger with others with my desire for creativity and freedom and self-care; I want ease in finding the perfect partners and/or ogranizations to work with; I want fun in the co-creating of a new way with other folks
Ways this might work: I might get a grant I applied for; I might find yummy work with an organization that is looking to hire; I might “bump” into the perfect co-creator or collaborator who is eager to work along with me
My commitment: I will stay open to the possibilities; I will stay mindful of my desire and my purpose with my work; I will do Dance of Shiva when I feel stuck or icky or blocked; I will reach out when I see an opportunity to check out
Oh, this is fun!!
What I want:
8 new clients so I can leave my dayjob. They must be steady, full paying, just right clients. Ones who love and understand my work. 8 is only the beginning and other clients must follow. 8 is the magic number because it will replace the income when I leave said dayjob. Or it could be 4 if I doubled my rates (yikes-that feels scary- trying to be okay with that).
This will all happen in an easy way.
Ways this could happen:
-Just right people will see the article I wrote and call asking to become a client.
-Friends and current clients could recommend me to other just right people.
-I could meet people everywhere I go who are just right and need what I offer.
My commitment:
-To talk with everyone I meet and be fearless when I tell what my work is.
-I will consider raising my rates.
-In my spare time (because I will have plenty when I leave the dayjob) I will write, write and get my blog up.
Thank you so much for this space for these ads. I love reading everyone’s and wish you all the best.
Update on previous asks:
I found an apartment! A lovely one, with two very grounded and positive roommates. I’ll be moving in on Friday.
And now…
Want 1
A new server for Havi.
With all that brings with it – reduced anxiety for her and those close to her (and, though I’m absolutely not complaining, for me), a better experience for her users (that’s you guys!), and room to grow the site to be even bigger and better than it is now.
How it could happen
I’ll leave that one to the universe.
My commitment
I’ll set the server up in the absolute best way I know how, and quintuple-check to make sure I’ve done everything to optimize it and that things go as smoothly as possible. I’ll put a great deal of effort and love into making sure it’s got the best setup, best monitoring, and best support. I’ll do all the worrying. And then I’ll seriously dance for joy around my new living room when everything is set up and working correctly.
Want 2
Enough new clients so that I won’t feel anxious or need to put off working on myself when I leave my current job.
The situation
I’m leaving my full-time IT job working for an icky bank on September 18th. In order to be able to take the time I need to work on myself (i.e. in order to not have to take another job, and instead be able to put my energy into expanding my business and my yoga practice) I need some new clients for my growing tech support business.
How it could happen
Maybe one of my Right People sees my site or this Very Personal Ad and says “Wow! You’re just who I’ve been looking for!” Maybe someone knows someone who’s just getting started online and needs their site set up, or is having some problems with their current site and needs me to talk to their server, or just needs someone knowledgeable to help with technology planning.
My commitment
I’ll put all the energy I can into finding and helping my Right People. I’ll be patient and offer everything I can in the way of support, explanations, and understanding to my new friends/clients. And I’ll fix their stuff and try to help reduce the anxiety they might have been having over tech issues.
Thank you so much everyone for sharing of yourselves! Some of these Ads are very beautiful. I’d love to find someone I can help, since I’ve gotten so much out of posting here.
.-= Charlotte´s last post … The Whole “Scared To Be Me” Thing. =-.
Blessings to Havi, Selma, and everyone here for the space and the courage to ask.
What I Want:
To get better sleep. I have been having trouble with “early waking” for over a week now and it’s really starting to have an impact on my life. I go to sleep fine, usually around 11 or 12 which is normal, but I wake up around 4 am and can’t really get much more sleep. If I do fall back asleep, it’s not deep sleep, and I continue to wake frequently.
I believe this is because of an elevated level of both eustress (good stress, like being in a big musical and also doing a lot of great work on my one person show and building my itty biz) and also distress (aka not good stress, like relationship churn, toxic stuff at my day job, worrying about my mom, etc).
I know that my poor sleep is making the roller coaster ride that is life very bumpy, turbulent, and I’m white knuckling it rather than fully enjoying the ride.
So I want better sleep. At least 7.5 hours per night. Uninterrupted, or if I do wake, I go RIGHT back out.
Ways this could happen:
–It could magically just fix itself
–Someone could tell me a hack or a tip or an easy fix that might break the pattern for me
–I could stumbleupon a way to break the habit and return to restful sleep
–Any number of ways, as long as beating myself up or someone else “shoulding” me to death isn’t involved
My commitment:
–I will leave this as an open inquiry to myself “how can I give myself better sleep tonight. I will create the intention to heal myself of this pattern. I will look at my dietary and exercise habits to see if there’s something I am doing there that is mucking up the works.
Thanks again to everyone here.
What Lean said. Ditto. Exactly except for the fact that I don’t have kids. But yeah, I feel like I’m supposed to be productive all the time unless I have a migraine. I blame the Puritan work ethic. I’m trying to find ways to relax that are so enticing I won’t be able to bring myself to not relax.
And Lean, I love the phrase “stupid o’clock!”
.-= Riin´s last post … Amazing =-.
These are awesome.
I could read personal ads all day.
@Charlotte – I love that you found your apartment! Amazing. And thank you for the offer of server love. That is so incredibly reassuring I can’t even tell you. I am so completely one of your Right People!
@Lean + Riin – me too! Stupid o’clock!
@Tisha – *blows kiss*
Havi and friends – THANK you for this space full of awesomeness!
Some feedback: I got such loving feedback on my personal ad last week and am so full of gratitude for the love and support that is available – when asked for and when I choose to see it. Thank You!
This week, I’ve had another insight – I feel like my ask last week was MASSIVE and a wee small part of me with a very LOUD voice (which my son hears sometimes) thinks I don’t get to ask for anything else now!
Crazy, beautiful – the learning and growth exists even here… now should I be doing the Dance of Shiva??
Thanks for the space to ask, to grow and to be merry!
.-= Marilyn´s last post … Children’s Language Development =-.
Havi and Company,
Thank YOU!
Thank you for posting my Very Personal Ad. Just the writing of it alone released so much fear-based energy and brought me into a greater sense of “yes, I am co-creating my life in this great playground of the universe”.
And, to update you, I have decided to not come to Portland! I really was losing sleep about the financial strain (and I generally sleep through ANYTHING), so I wrote a new Very Personal Ad asking for peace of mind about my decision, and the “Stay in San Francisco For Now” option came shining through.
And I feel wonderfully terrific.
I’ll have an opportunity to touch in with my teacher in a more abbreviated way later this fall. I realized that a big part of making this decision involved contentment with what I already have, and the willingness to embrace a different pattern (a Middle Path, so to speak). Not my usual extreme, and *wow*, I have so many neural networks that travel down the Path of Extremes. Hurray to new neural pathways!
I am still committed to my commitments, with some revisions:
My commitment is to show up and follow through, remembering that beneath fear, I am arriving from a place of love and trust. I am committed to staying open to the possibilities for work and for the possibility of being taken care of in ways I may not know are already happening. I am committed to continuing to “biggify” my business in ways known and ways still to learn. I am committed to trusting my experience, because it is the one I am choosing.
Thank you, Havi, for this incredible support and community. I am so happy to be here with you all!
See you in Portland the next time,
(Because I LOVE, LOVE Portland)!
Warmth,
Chrisandra
You don’t need no steenkeen’ server! Look at Rackspace Cloud and Linode. Painless, scalable, cost-effective.
Sorry, I know, Havi, that was a “should.” And a brusque one.
But lord, please don’t throw money at hardware. Not in 2009.
.-= Mark V. McDonnell´s last post … Four Steps to Sports Success – What to strive for in training =-.
My husband’s start-up TileNetworks.com offers redundant virtualized hosting. Depending on how technical your tech-savior is, this may be a good solution for you:
A basic VM package is:
512MB RAM
unmetered 100Mb connection
storage @ $0.15/GB (20GB minimum, 10GB increments, discounts over 100GB)
$37/mo + storage.
Email supportATtilenetworks.com with questions. Warning — The website is really skeletal right now, but the service is secure and works.
@ Lauren, and anyone else thinking about the “I want gold stars!” phenomenon: a book recommendation:
Alfie Kohn “Punished By Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes”
really interesting about how extrinsic motivation interferes with intrinsic motivation, and yet how mainstream culture is so reliant on extrinsic motivation.
@Mark – We’re definitely going with hosting. No hardware purchases here. 🙂 Thanks for the suggestions!
.-= Charlotte´s last post … The Whole “Scared To Be Me” Thing. =-.
Whoo… this ended up longer than I expected!
The situation:
I had an incredible nurse practitioner as my primary care physician for years – so incredible that I was always happy to go in for exams because it meant we’d get to catch up. She decorated her exam rooms with tibetan art, and looked to alternative therapies in complement to traditional western medicine. She always talked to me like an intelligent person, even a peer. We hugged at the end of every visit.
Last time I called her office to set up my annual exam, I was told that she had shifted her practice and was now focusing on mental health issues. I’m thrilled she’s doing what excites her, but there’s a part of me that wants to stomp my feet and shout “but what about ME?” I don’t know how to go about finding a doctor that great again – I just lucked into her because my ex-husband’s family had seen someone else at the same practice for years.
I took care of that last exam at Kaiser, because it took the choice issue away from me. I was hugely put off by the exam protocol there (while I talk distractedly to you I’m going to type in a bunch of two-letter shortcuts to build a form-letter of standard recommendations). And now, after the way they’ve thoroughly mishandled my dad’s recent health issues, I’m determined not to give one penny more to Kaiser than I absolutely have to (hopefully that will mean no pennies at all). And I’ve had some things going on over the last month or two – like excessive sleepiness and recurring headaches – that are triggering my “you should talk to a doctor” flag.
What I want:
I want to find a new primary care physician for my annual exams and anything else that may come up. He or she could be a nurse practitioner or something similar, or a doctor who is actually willing to spend time with patients. They will be in my insurance network, and accepting new patients, and I’ll be able to get an appointment in the next few weeks.
I want someone who brings their personality to work with them, and who gets it that I’m intelligent and an individual and want to be engaged in my own health care. I want someone who looks at the research instead of blindly following things like BMI, and who doesn’t dismiss care methodologies just because they weren’t covered in med school.
Ideally, they’ll be located near my job (NE Portland) or my home (Beaverton) or somewhere in between, though I can be somewhat flexible on this.
Ways I could get it:
Someone in the Portland area could read this comment and know of (or be) the perfect person.
One of the friends I’ve mentioned my dilemma to could have a sudden strike of inspiration.
I could post a request to the local email list I’m on and get a great referral.
My commitment:
I will book an appointment as soon as I can once I find someone who feels right.
I will pay attention to my body and health and take an active role in my own healthcare.
I will book morning appointments or be okay with afternoon ones that run late because of my appreciation for doctors who take the necessary time with every patient.
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What I want:
To have at least 20 scheduled hours with students each week during this coming fall semester.
To figure out if improving my website at this time is where I should spend my money and/or time.
To figure out more ways to spread the word to my right people that I can help them or their children learn math via the internet and other ways.
I want my allergies to get better.
Ways this could happen:
referrals from prior students and from math teachers, people finding me on the internet, and from sources I can’t think of or imagine.
Website – Getting input from others or just coming to terms whether this should be a priority or not. Or this could resolve itself in some other way.
Allergies – the medicine finishes healing. The humidity could get lower – Santa Ana wind conditions are great for this. (Apparently, high humidity makes perfumes stronger and linger longer.) Someone could invent an invisible mask like the one on Eureka the tv show. Though it would have to be like oxygen. There to help breathing and yet doesn’t get in the way. Just a thought in case a scientist might read this…
My commitment:
I will work with each student to help them learn math and to enjoy it as much as possible with the least amount of stress.
I will appreciate being around people more when I don’t have to worry if they are wearing too much perfume.
This is my first personal add. Thanks Havi. This is helpful.
My ad (thanks Havi, great idea)
* I want to find my nest, the flat where I feel at last at home, where I can work easily and rest.
* I also want to find my perfect little car. it will be perfect for me as a little car, that I’m not afraid to drive, I can feel it’s reliable but doesn’t look too good so I don’t care if someone/I make a scratch on it. It will have 5 doors and a funky color, if possible.
* I want to take more care of myself
My commitment :
I will listen to my guts and ask for visit, take more time to visit the flat and won’t be shy to ask the questions I want to ask.
I will follow up quickly and try not to get stressed by these landlord’s papers to sort out
I will listen to my body and treat it right, giving a bit more love one day after the other.
So just wanted to say that this reader is keeping her fingers and toes crossed that a class on the Making The Monies Under Duress technique will sneak onto the site! 🙂
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Havi, if you’re awesome web person is comfortable “maintaining a Linux system on their own” (husband’s words), then we would recommend Servint for your server needs. We use it for all our sites and the hubs likes it SO much, he convinced his big time corporate head honchos to switch over to them. That’s got to say something.
Good luck in Berlin. And I for one, would love to know about your magical money making routine that you often tend to use under duress. While I don’t want to put it out there that I’d like to be under duress, I’d sure love to meet more of “my people” and make some money while doing so 😉
@kat_taf
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My Want Ad: I want to be offered a job as a small restaurant manager with an owner like Dan was. The restaurant will serve simple, flavorful, Mediterranean-type meals with fish and salads and brie and breads. We will be open lunch and dinner Thurs through Sat, and lunch on Sundays, giving me three days off in a row to do what I want. I will oversee ordering and food costs, the bar and menu choices, and training of waitstaff. I want this restaurant to be located in the Hill Country of Texas, near Sister Creek or Comfort or Boerne or Johnson City or Fredericksburg Texas. I want to be paid 17 dollars or more an hour or 36,000 dollars or more a year and be encouraged to wear what I want to wear. The owner will give me authority to market, promote, train, and run this restaurant as I see fit, and after three years he will sell it to me. It will be a calm, nice, casual atmosphere that draws wonderful friendly people in to sample our menus and praise our dishes. We will use solar and wind energy from panels and windmills on the property to help balance energy costs in our favor.
With this wonderful new career I will find a lovely little 2 room cottage to rent that has working heat and a/c, running water, is near where I work, has a super-nice landlord lady who just wants to rent out her cottage and doesn’t mind my hours or the artwork I do while I’m there. There will be enough space for my art projects and space for Rob when he comes to visit.
My Commitment: For the wonderful gift of a wonderful career and wonderful cottage, I will do my best as a manager to make the restaurant grow in a healthy way, take care of our employees, contribute to the town/city/area in a beneficial way, I will take care of the little cottage with minor repairs and loving attention.
How it Will Happen: I ask that this wonderful new career and cottage come to me in a delightful surprise via someone contacting me to offer me the job, by my finding it in a link or announcement while I’m looking at things for the Hill Country, by Pamela or someone in our circle on twitter asking if I’d be interested, by meeting the owner one afternoon as they stop in Midland/Odessa and we run into each other and know, or by a wrong number phone call that became the perfect right number to call.
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