Personal ads! They’re … personal! Very.
So my itty bitty personal ads made me realize that it’s time to make a regular practice of trying to feel okay asking for stuff.
Even when the asking thing feels weird and conflicted.
Ever since I posted the first one asking my perfect house to find me, which united me with Hoppy House, I have been a fan of the madness that is personal ads.
And now it’s my Sunday ritual. Yay, ritual!
Let’s do it.
Thing 1: Using the Deguiltified Chicken Board. With or without the board. Or the chicken.
Here’s what I want:
So at my Kitchen Table program we have this Deguiltified Chicken Board that’s all about the Iguanaccountability thing. As you know.
Either way. The idea is zero-guilt non-scary space to announce what you’re working on.*
* No one makes you feel bad if what you thought would happen didn’t, but you do get support to help you regroup.
I hardly ever remember to use this board when there’s something I’m working on that’s getting semi-stuckified.
But when I do? Extreme getting stuff done all over the place.
Last week I used the Board to write the last Very Personal Ad. And got it done in 30 minutes (it usually takes at least an hour). And it works even when I’m not online (!)
So I know that if I use it, stuff will move. But …
Here’s how I want this to work:
Maybe I’ll just remember.
Or when I’m reading someone else’s thread, it will remind me that hey, I have stuff to chicken too.
Maybe I can come up with a list of Things I’d Like To Make Progress On, and use that list as a guideline for things I can bring to the board.
Or? I don’t know.
My commitment.
To work on trusting the thing that I know works.
To do Dance of Shiva on this.
To play. To experiment. To take notes. To Chicken.
Thing 2: Someone who loves metal clay (or might love it)
This one is for Riin who is @happyfuzzyyarn on Twitter and a Fluent Self commenter mouse regular.
Here’s her situation:
“I don’t want to make jewelry.
There. I said it.
I used to make jewelry years ago. I stopped because it was killing my wrists.
Then last summer I stumbled into a site about metal clay, which looked like about the coolest thing ever invented, and went into OCD mode and checked out a bunch of metal clay books from the library, read a whole lot of tutorials online, and ordered about $900 worth of gemstones, silver wire, metal clay, tools and equipment.
I made a few things with the gemstones and wire. And I realized I wasn’t enjoying it so much. I never even opened the metal clay packages.
I’m totally addicted to working with fiber.
But jewelry? Meh. I don’t even wear jewelry anymore except for earrings. Really simple earrings. Earrings that I just leave in my ears all the time and don’t bother to change.
So. Yeah. I finally faced the fact that I just don’t want to make jewelry.
And now I’ve got a bunch of gemstones, silver wire, metal clay, tools and equipment just sitting there, taking up space in my studio.
Anyone want to buy it? Because I could really use that space.”
Ways this could work:
Someone here could read this and go yay! And make her an offer. Or write to her and ask how this could work.
Someone here could know someone who could really use all this stuff and come up with a creative, wonderful idea.
Magic. Surprises. A great big web of surprising possibilities.
Ideas, thoughts? Anyone?
My commitment.
If I get to be a connector mouse here for this one, that will make me pretty insanely happy.
Thing 3: Restfulness.
Here’s what I want:
I have serious resistance to all things relaxing and restful.
This is not news.
I want this to change.
Ways this could work:
Okay. This kind of terrifies me to write so please don’t hold me to this.
But I have been toying with a wacky practice of A Month Of Relaxation.
Where I commit to doing one relaxing thing each day. For a month.
Obviously I am not unaware of the ridiculous amount of irony involved, since things that are “relaxing” tend to really stress me out. So actually it’s like a month of tension
I know. Hilarious.
What I’m being drawn to though is some kind of slow, gentle, intentional practice to help me interact with my resistance around relaxing, and to develop a healthier relationship with it.
My commitment.
To give serious thought about ways this might work.
To be playful. You know, while being serious. Right.
To give myself permission to take things slow. To stay at the edges if that’s where I want to be.
To remind myself that my body has a lot of trauma around relaxation (some really not-good things have happened when I’ve been relaxed), and that if this takes time, it takes time.
To be the crazed scientist and experiment experiment experiment. And take notes.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.
The tax thing: huge progresses.
The Gentleman Friend and I had our two hour meeting and it wasn’t as painful as I’d thought it would be.
Though there may have been half an hour of crying in the bathroom.
My new bookkeeper Jennifer is amazing.
The asking for a miracle thing: some stuckification of my own on that one. Will report more later.
The “treating the study like a study” thing: taking Lisa’s Love That Room class is definitely helping.
I went to a cafe to do some of the homeworks and when I came back, my gentleman friend had hung the curtains. It changes things.
So. Slowly slowly. But movement. Movement is good.
Comments. Since I’m already asking …
I am adding to my practice of asking for stuff by being more specific about what I would like to receive in the comments.
Here’s what I want (just leave them in the comments):
- Your own personal ads, small or large. Things you’ve asked for. Or are asking for. Or would like to ask for. Or updates on last time!
What I would rather not have:
- Reality theories.
- Shoulds. As in, “You should be doing it like this” or “That’s not the right way to ask for things — instead it should be like x, y and z”
- To be judged or psychoanalyzed.
- Advice.
My commitment.
I am committing to getting better at asking for things even when asking feels weird.
Thanks for doing this with me!
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Great thing to start off Sunday with a VPA (and a mug of café latte).
What I ask for:
– Strength to finally bring up a big family issue from 3 years ago with my therapist tomorrow after a few sessions of preparation.
– Acceptance of the fact that this will result in imminent temporary breakdown.
– Not feeling guilty when I am going away for a week on Tuesday just doing stuff for me.
– Invitation for a job interview shortly after my return
– Appointment at my favourite hairdresser tomorrow who is always full
How this can work:
– Some shifting has happenend over the weekend which gave me a (good) feeling of what finally getting to the core of this family thing will feel like. The therapist is great and will help me exploring this.
– Knowing about the relief it will bring. And relief is better than tension or withheld tears.
– Going away for a week after the session will help things to sink in.
– I will put candles in the “every-time-I-put-a-candle-in-this-candleholder-I-got-the-job-I-hoped-for-candleholder”
– Hairdresser will have a cancellation when I call him tomorrow which will get me a slot
My committment:
– Be open to working on the family thing. Be ready to do or say things that have so far made me feel uncomfortable because of guilt or a sense of duty.
– Be open for a process and collecting ideas for a ritual that will eventually help me to finish off the process.
Building relationships (this kind of leads on from vpa’s for the last two weeks). I want to work on building positive relationships with people around me – people at work, fellow students and also people who are already friends and family.
Things I could do:
– don’t judge people (oh, so much easier to say than do!)
– let myself be aware of intuitive feelings about people without getting swamped by it
– listen to what people are saying
– reach out
I also want the promotion (for which I’ve already passed the interview) I’m on the list for to come up, and for it to be a Personal Adivsor in the branch I already work at.
Things I could do:
– realistically not a whole lot, apart from making sure that I’m doing a good job in the role I already have
.-= Jane´s last post … Friday Gratitude =-.
O Riin, I can only nod in sympathy for I recognize the buying binge that preceeds finding an exciting new craft. I don’t do jewelry either, alas. I’ll keep my ears open for potential buyers.
Havi, huge inappropriate internet hug for dealing with the relaxing and restlessnes hard.
I have some commitment issues with my previous VPAs, therefore they are not working. I’m probably asking the wrong things if I have such resistance to commit. I’m probably asking for the Universe and Everything to take care of my shoulds for me.
So this week I’ll ask for a bit more clarity on the practice of the Ask, so it will be easier for me to commit to doing whatever it needs to be answered.
Havi, if you decide to do your One Relaxing Thing Each Day For a Month and want a friend to do it with you, let me know–I’ll happily walk this trail with you. 🙂
My VPA for this week:
I’m flying to California for the Great Havi Retreat later this week. I feel anxious because even though my leg is much stronger after hip surgery, it’s still not strong enough to manage long periods of standing in line-ups, and trekking across miles of airport terminals.
My ask: For all of the travel–the flights, the schlepping through three airports, the line-ups at customs and so on–to be easy, fluid and filled with grace. For the Angel of Travel to be with me the entire way. For my body to have the support it needs to travel comfortably and arrive feeling relaxed and rested.
My commitment: To check in with my body, and to give myself all the support I need. To ask for help in getting from the check-in counters to the departure gates. To book a massage before I leave. To be loving and mindful.
Wishing you all a direct flow from the sea of miracles in response to your VPA’s this week.
Love, Hiro
.-= Hiro Boga´s last post … Sunday Poem: Buddhist Chronicles 8 =-.
Havi, thank you so much for these VPAs every week. It is weirdly comforting to read other people’s as well as write my own – which I usually do in private. This week I’m feeling the urge to share in public so let’s role with it.
What I want 1: A name for my new blog. I already have a blog about triathlon and now I want one for my WRITING. But I’m hung up and stuck on what to call it. I have a million names whirling round in my head and it’s stopping me (or I’m stopping me from actually Starting.
How this could work: I could just know. Or someone could suggest something. Or I could pick one I’m happy enough with without it having to be perfect
My commitment: To begin writing even if I don’t have the Perfect Name.
What I want 2: The means and opportunity to work PART TIME. I love my job and the people I work with, but working full time is eating me alive. I want to be more of a mother to my daughter and have more time to spend on my writing and creating.
How this could work: My husband could find a job and a part time position could arise either in my current place or somewhere else fabulous. Or my writing could take off so I could work from home.
My commitment: To stop complaining about having to work full time and be grateful that I have a job with really lovely people and trust that a way will become clear.
Happy Sunday!
.-= Shazza´s last post … Mother of all cock-ups* =-.
Progress! It has been made.
Last week I asked for two things: 1. Some direction on my Thing and 2. A wintertime hobby or distraction for my partner so that I could work in peace. I’m getting deliciously closer on no. 1, and it has been exciting. And I had one full morning AND one full afternoon to myself this week. Hooray! I also made major progress today on my 2010 VPA which was about bringing attention to how I communicate.
This week I’d like to ask for a better relationship with time and how I use it. Specifically, I want to be able to get things done without needing someone to set a deadline for me. I also want to be conscious of the ways in which I fritter away time (hello, Internet) and then get all annoyed at myself.
How this could work: For getting things done, I could try out the Chicken Board, even though the things I want to get done sound really ridiculous to me and not worthy of a Chicken. For needless Internet time-frittering I could implement the online meditation bell idea, and set myself some limits.
My commitment: As usual… I will try not to beat myself up over these things. I’ll remind myself that paying attention to this will help me get closer to the good things I want.
Wishing you all a warm and toasty week.
Is it lame that every week I feel like I need to thank Havi for doing this? Seriously, THANK YOU!
What I ask for: Some real timelines and honest communication about our adoption wait time from the owner of our agency. Whatever her answers, I’d like to feel like the process is real (we’re so disconnected right now) and fair (they closed the office 20 minutes from our house and now we have to get a new caseworker 75 minutes from our house) and that we’re supported (totally not feeling it right now).
I’d also like to not get mad (my emotion of choice) and I’d like to not cry in public (because I hate crying in public).
How this could work: We have a meeting with the owner of the agency on Wednesday morning. Figure out what questions we would like answered before we go. Write out the questions. Bring a notebook and take good notes while we’re there. Ask everything and wait patiently until we get an answer, but don’t leave until all questions have been answered to our satisfaction.
Remember I’m not in this alone.
Do a long yoga practice in the morning before we leave. Include lots and lots of deep calming breaths. Remember to breathe while we are there and that it’s ok to cry.
My commitment: Be kind to myself. Breathe.
.-= Tami´s last post … Yoga+Music365 (day15) – Townes by Steve Earle =-.
One relaxing thing per day for a month? I would join you (and Hiro), but first I would have to figure out what I find relaxing. I’m not sure I really know. (Relaxation stuff? I has it.)
My ask for this week:
– To work out (with ease) the final remaining details around the course I’m creating.
– To get the tedious supporting stuff done that needs to get done.
– To find the perfect name for it.
– For my right people to find it once I announce it.
How this could work:
– I could have a shivapiphany about it.
– I could just know.
– I could have better-than-usual amounts of focus to get the tedious parts done.
– I can ask for support.
My commitment:
– To do a little Shiva Nata everyday before sitting down to work on this.
– To make time to get in my body and ground and center everyday.
– To listen to my inner wisdom.
– To ask for support only after I’m connected to myself.
– To stop to ground and center again if I start getting anxious.
.-= Victoria Brouhard´s last post … Noticings on the Hiking Trail and Elsewhere =-.
I’m feeling sluggish today, and am having a hard time knowing what to ask for. It’s a cold, rainy day where I am, and the urge to hibernate is strong.
How’s about this, then: this is me, asking for acceptance. Asking myself to accept the gentle pace I’m craving today. Asking those around me to accept the way I’m feeling today. Asking (and suddenly, in a flash of clarity and hope, believing) that acceptance may lead to acceptance, that sluggish movement may lead to gentle steps in the right direction, which may lead to good things happening, without stress, without angst, without anguish.
@Riin — I will spread the good word about your jewelry-making supplies, and hope that someone responds!
.-= Kathleen Avins´s last post … Dramatis personae =-.
Yay for connector mousing! I just left a comment on Riin’s blog. I’m the market for a PMC/enameling kiln. 🙂
.-= Lori Paximadis´s last post … Best of 2009: Place =-.
Curtains! Yay, I love curtains – yes, I agree – they change things in a big way. Our living room was bereft of curtains for about 6 months when we first moved into our little house of madness because we couldn’t find the right ones. Then I found some and *BAM!* we had a LIVEing room. Wonderful stuff. Happy dances for Havi, Selma and the Hoppy House.
VPA:
My new job seems to be making me very miserable and confused. Confused because I don’t understand the misery that much – lovely people, lovely company, free climbing etc etc. Miserable because my shifts have left me feeling even more lonely than before. I am struggling to adjust to the change in routine more than I thought possible and it is this which I suspect is making me miserable.
Therefore, what I would like is a peaceful resolution to this misery and lonliness. Which is a big ask I know, but seriously – I have a rash on my tummy in a stress reaction to this. At least I presume it’s in reaction to this. So I think it needs to be asked.
How this could happen:
I could come to terms with this change in my normal ways, somehow, magically.
I could find another job, which has normal hours. If this is the resolution then I would like it to a superbly right job for me.
Someone could turn around to me and say, “I will pay you enough money to pay your rent(or vastly more) if you make this dress for me.” and this could snowball into wonderfulness, or something along those lines.
A wonderful, unthought of opportunity could present itself with a wonderful organic resolution to this.
Magic – I’m always keen for a little magic.
I could fall in love – that always takes my mind off everything else! 🙂 (Um, that’s the dark side of my humour showing through)
Anyway I haven’t thought of.
My commitment:
To be gentle with myself. To allow myself to feel what I am feeling, knowing this doesn’t define me, but also knowing when to act in my best interests.
To keep looking for a solution.
To keep on cutting out one pattern at a time – my plans aren’t racing ahead but I’m slowly, one step at a time,keeping committed to doing my thing.
To try not to run away screaming in the other direction if a wonderful opportunity does show up.
.-= Wormy´s last post … In Praise of the Negative =-.
Havi, your #1 has elements that sound really useful to me. Going to mull them over.
As for #3 and your month of relaxation experiment, I have a suggestion. Suggestions aren’t advice, are they? Hmm, maybe they are. Never mind. Best of luck to you.
My ask this week: Mostly, I just want Massachusetts not to screw up on Tuesday.
ways this could work: Everybody registered to vote in MA could go vote in the special election to fill Kennedy’s senator seat.
Failing that, just all the democrats, progressives, liberals, and assorted non-republicans could remember to vote. Or a preponderance of them.
my commitment: I’ll make sure everybody I know well in MA votes. Tweet a couple reminders. Maybe a blog post.
dude, why does comment luv hate me?
Claire’s last post… 2. Ruin: Photographs of a Vanishing America
You know, I come here and write VPA’s and over half the time I totally forget what they were and so I don’t know what all could have happened to answer some of them. Now the biggies like Marty’s job and collectors for my work, I remember, still waiting on those. Where’s that line between losing hope and non-attachment to the outcome?
This week, I would like a good way to write my comment rules for my blog. I had someone come by and be rude (I’m sorry, calling other people’s practices “silly” and “a waste” is rude), and while I got blog fodder out of it, there was a secondary comment which was another shoe. Right now you can only comment if you have a google account (I set it that way after the second comment) because moderation wouldn’t help me, I’d still have to see them. I expected to have several weeks if not months of regular posts down before something like this, if at all. It kind of knocked me for a loop.
Ways this could happen: I could read others’ comment rules and morph them into something that is me.
I could have a dream like Elias Howe and the sewing machine.
I could be goofy and riff a Dr Seuss comment rule list and figure it out that way. (Do not comment in a boat, do not comment with a goat, do not comment with some spam, we do not like that Sam I am)
My commitment: to keep blogging anyway, because I realize that it was that commenter’s stuff, and that my Right People still benefit from what I can do to help through the blog.
My second ask:
Two different people approached me about doing a class/demo for them. I need some clarity about if/what to do.
Ways this could happen:
Pro/Con list
Talk therapy
The answer could come to me in a flaming pie (you shall be “Beatles” with an “a”)
I could Shiva it up and then free write for the answer
My commitment:
To only say yes if it is something I really want to do, and not just for the money. (See I’m already pretty sure about the answer, I am scared about the money)
To trust that these will not be the only great opportunities that come my way, and if I choose “no” that something even better will open up.
Whew.
.-= Andi´s last post … NVC in Practice =-.
I have a couple of asks this week – one literal and the other all about me.
Ask 1: I have a bunch (12-ish pots) of Procion MX dye (for fabric or screen printing) in black and red. And a pound of soda ash to help it set in fabric. And it’s been sitting here for nearly a year. Unopened. Because I ended up donating away the dresses I thought I might dye. This stuff needs to go. I’d be willing to ship it anywhere if someone wants it and could pay just for the shipping.
Ways this could work: Someone on here could email me that they want the stuff. Or I could list it on the SF Freecycle and it would find an owner.
My commitment: To have this stuff gone to a good home before next weekend.
Ask 2: To face my fears of participating in the Kitchen Table.
Ways this could work: I could Shiva-it-up with the intention of slowly easing myself into the program. I could answer the replies to my scared post in my little group. I could read more of the forum posts and the Twitter contacts for the people in the KT to get a feel for the new people I’m hanging out with online.
My commitment: To talk to my resistance. And my overwhelm. To not force it. To give it time and to accept the comfort and support people have offered.
.-= Casey´s last post … Dave’s Top Ten Rules of Business =-.
I love the Iguanaccountability thing, if I haven’t said it before — deguiltified Chickens ahoy!
Update on Previous: Some uneven sleep, but the last few days have been pretty good, and I even let myself have a nap when it all got to be too much on Thursday.
What I Want: Some Biggification for Antemortem Arts, sans guilt please.
How This Could Happen: People who have been contemplating buying something could get it. I could destuckify around posting and put up someone’s just right piece. Hints could come my way about how to make the Etsy shop return the investment of time I’ve put into it. Advice I’ve already gotten could come unstuck and make sense. Something else could surprise and delight me.
My Commitment: I will try to stop berating myself with charitable shoulds and acknowledge that my own needs count, too. I will keep linking and posting and being seen even when all I want to do is hide. I will try to let my own judgements fall away and keep making and creating even if there’s no tangible support.
.-= Amy Crook´s last post … Buy Some Art, Be a Cartoon =-.
@Casey, just tweeted about the dye 🙂
.-= Andi´s last post … NVC in Practice =-.
Hey, lots of people interested in my jewelry stuff, which is great! I’ll take pictures of it later this week and find a link to the torch thingie (it has a better name than torch thingie, which might better describe what it actually is, but I can’t remember…). Right now I’m too exhausted to think or move. I spent several hours today going through my gentleman friend’s friend’s late mother’s belongings and bringing home an entire carload of yarn and fiber. Wonderful stuff, and I’m happy it found its way into my life. But I am so tired.
.-= Riin´s last post … Hey! I can see! =-.
Very Personal Ads! Yay. These are just lovely.
@Tami – aw. That’s so sweet. I just love that people do these with me. It is the happy. Plus reading them is really fun.
@Riin – alright! I’m so happy that there’s interest. Awesome.
And did I just see Casey and Andi hooking up on Twitter to solve Casey’s VPA? That is EXCELLENT.
@Claire – what’s your suggestion? I’ll take a suggestion from you!
@Wormy – curtains!
@Leocadia – sending love for all the hard … hope everything works out great.
Big love all around. These are just wonderful. Thank you!
I am delighted I came across this post today!
What I need: a place to live. in Portland. by Friday.
I desire a space with an abundance of natural light, within walking distance of a fabulous coffee shop, with quiet neighbors!
Ways this could happen: One of my friends could email me with a housesitting opportunity, one of my friends could know someone who is looking for a housemate, I could be walking around Portland with my sister and find a For Rent sign on a darling apartment.
My commitment: I commit to anticipate my intuition working, following my intuition and to letting people know I am looking for a space. I commit to being an owner in this situation and letting go of my love of being a victim.
Thank you for the ability to share this need!
.-= Jen*´s last post … I remain, =-.
Yup! Having total bead love, and hoping to schedule a time to go over and look at the sparkly beady goodness and perhaps even adopt some of it for my very own.
Update: finding ways to choose when I love everything on my list. Slowly, but movement. 😉
VPA: To return to being a commenter mouse, especially here.
Ways: remind myself that this is a mode of ‘working’ that I really enjoy, and just because I enjoy it doesn’t mean it’s not fun/useful/A Good Thing.
Could be spontaneous.
Maybe patterns are changing.
Commitment: watching the Stuck (especially around The New Project) and just doing what feels safe.
Remembering that there is no pressure to comment on everything someone I like writes.
Remembering: it’s not High School. Hyuh.
.-= Andrew Lightheart´s last post … My Year of Opening =-.
I’m so late to the party!
Havi, I would love to join you (and Hiro and Victoria) in a restful-thing-a-day month. I’m so bad at it. Anxiety!
1. What I want: To actually do the Creative Everyday Challenge
How this could work: I could suddenly find commitment to myself. I could take another look at my schedule and plan for it. I could spontaneously just start.
My commitment: To continue trying to commit to it. To be patient with myself. To give myself room, space, time.
2. What I want: Monies to do a program with a business coach I really admire the last week in Jan.
How this could work: I’m not sure. Money stuff is a hard relationship for me. I could work on finding financing for growing my business. I could borrow the money from my brother. I could look for a part-time job outside my business. I could close some prospective business.
My commitment: To keep open to money coming in for this. To meditate. To keep looking for opportunities.
.-= Rebecca Prien´s last post … Non-Scary Law Question No. 6: How Much Emotional Energy Is Your Law Stuff Taking Up? =-.
I would really like to make some tiny tiny step towards a very big goal: stop believing that something is fundamentally wrong with me. Sigh.
How this could work:
I could have some insight about a great quality of mine
I could receive some surprising compliment from someone
I don’t really know what the tiny steps are, but I know tiny steps are what have gotten me to other goals…..
Cheers!
Ok, so a couple things came to mind re: your month of relaxation idea:
Maybe throw out the word ‘relax’ and its derivatives because they seems real triggery for you.
In that vein, how about spending a chunk of time each day (however long works for you without being stressful) with something that makes you laugh? Comic strips, silly books, music, shows/movies, webclips of puppies skateboarding, a bath time battle with pirates and duck, anything that makes you laugh…
I realize the quality of laughter is different from restfulness, but they have a well-being and less guardedness in common which sounds like part of your aim. And laughing reduces stress, so laughter & silliness might put you at ease to be restful for a bit. But if not, just enjoy the well-being and restorative nature of laughter itself.
It’s a theory, but hey, that’s what experiments are all about testing. I hope you find it helpful or that it sparks other theories of relaxation for you to test, but if not, that’s OK too. Thanks for being interested.
Hope everyone’s wishes are coming true. I’m asking the universe, as nicely as I know how, to give me a boundless, deep, and peaceful calm that will keep me afloat during a very hard time, while the apple of my eye and darling of my heart lingers in the worst depressive episode she’s had in a long time. Or, alternately, she could just get better. That would work, too.
.-= Melynda´s last post … Homemade Oreos (for my people) =-.
@Havi, just reading this, and really really REALLY don’t want to give Advice … but I was thinking, if I had relaxation issues (I don’t, more like the exact total opposite, actually) and the whole “Month of Relaxation” was too scary to tackle, maybe there would be a way to apply Leo’s 6 Changes Method to it somehow? I mean, the breaking it down into baby steps part? Just my fist thought upon reading this.
Best of luck to everyone with their VPAs!!
.-= Holly´s last post … My Stuck is a Bear! and other Cold Margarined Epiphanies at 4 in the morning =-.
I decided to dip my toe in the public VPA pool after reading for quite some time. I am inspired and validated by reading all of your lovely posts. I’ve played with little floaty VPA’s in my private wading pool, but felt one come on as I was reading Shazza’s post and figured it wouldn’t hurt to just throw it out there:
Wanted:
Clarity and trust about the name of my Thing.
Naming is one of many things that keep me stuck. My stuckness asserts that Figure It Out is not worthy and I should keep racking my brain.
How this could work:
-I could just feel the clunk of knowing that I sometimes get after flailing about with Shiva Nata.
-someone could totally get why I’ve chosen that name and tell me so.
-another name could pop into my awareness that just clicks without any hesitation and fretting on my part.
My commitment:
To stop fretting about the name for awhile. It can just sit there and not be picked at by me. Nothing horrific will happen by leaving it alone. And of course I will keep flailing.
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and best wishes for your naming too,
Shazza!
Warm wishes to all of you who share here, thanks.
CJ