Yes.
Yes.
And we begin.
Me: So, you’re my blog.
My blog: Yes.
Me: I wish you had a name I could call you.
My blog: Okay. Pause. If I think of something I’ll let you know.
Me: Isn’t it a little weird that we hang out six times a week and I’ve never asked you if you have a name?
My blog: Not really.
Me: I have some questions for you.
My blog: Yes, I gathered that when I read the title of the post. Thanks for letting me know it wouldn’t be too long.
Me: Right on. Can we start?
My blog: Go for it.
Collecting information.
Me: Sometimes I have so many things to write about here that it hurts. Bursting! My hands hurt from scribbling ideas. And other times I don’t know what I want to say. And all those scribbled ideas just get on my nerves.
My blog: What’s the question?
Me: Well, I wonder why that is. I don’t really understand what’s going on there.
My blog: You’re not asking permission to write a post about not wanting to write a post, are you? Because we don’t do that.
Me: No. That’s not really my style either. It’s more like, I want to know as much as possible about you and how you work, so I can solve this problem myself. Right now I’m just collecting information.
My blog: Okay. What do you want to know?
What do you know that I don’t know?
Me: What do you know that I don’t know?
My blog: A lot.
Me: I thought as much. Are you going to share any of it?
My blog: Listen.
Me: I’m listening.
My blog: Okay.
You don’t know how comforting it is to people that you don’t have all the answers.
You don’t know how reassuring it is for them that you work on your stuff in public.
You don’t know what it’s like to encounter a wizard and go ohohoho ohhhhh a wizard.
Me: You mean like what Isabel said? About how every time she goes to my blog she runs away, because it’s like skipping through the forest and all of a sudden you’re at the wizard’s house and it’s just too scary?
My blog: Okay. Also like that.
What do you wish I understood already?
Me: What do you wish I understood already?
My blog: That you are enough. That you have always been enough. That everything you do is enough.
Me: That isn’t what I thought you were going to say. I thought you want to encourage me to do more and do better.
My blog: Why would I want to do that?
Me: I don’t know.
My blog: Neither do I.
Me: What am I supposed to do with that?
My blog: If you keep acknowledging the enoughness of the people who read, without telling them that this is what you are doing, enoughness will just become one of the qualities that lives here.
Me: Like safety and sanctuary?
My blog: Yes, and like permission and sovereignty and playfulness and grounding and radiance and ridiculousness and delight.
Me: I had no idea so many qualities lived here.
My blog: That’s because you’ve been friends with them for so long.
If you could give me one piece of advice, what would it be?
Me: One piece of advice?
My blog: I already gave it to you. You are enough. Stop trying to be what Hiro calls the shepherd. Be in your enoughness.
Me: How do I “be in my enoughness”?
My blog: By saying that what you do is enough.
Me: But how can it be enough?
My blog: ….
Me:I f it’s true that what I do is enough … then wouldn’t that kind of imply that I am done? I don’t want to be done. I’m not ready to be done!
My blog: No. There is no done.
Me: Good.
My blog: Just be in your enoughness.
Me: What does it look like, this being in my enoughness?
My blog: Talk to me. Talk to the enoughness. Talk to the you-from-later who already knows how to do this because she learned it.
Me: So … more interviews?
My blog: There may be some more interviews. You can also just have casual conversations. And go horseback riding together.
Horseback riding?
Me: Horseback riding?
My blog: It was just an example. You don’t have to. I just meant that it doesn’t have to be so formal. Why don’t you have a gratitude picnic and see who shows up?
Me: You totally remember every post I’ve ever written.
My blog: Yes. I spend a lot of time in the archives. You should visit. There’s some good stuff in there.
Me: There’s also a lot of terrible stuff in there.
My blog: And yet, you are enough. See? That’s how it works.
Me: “And yet, I am enough.” That’s how it works.
My blog: Yes.
Me: So I need to learn more about this enoughness thing. And, in order to do that, I need to: have picnics and ask questions and declare that I am enough.
My blog: That sounds good.
It’s all connected.
Me: How does enoughness relate to sustainability and queenliness and Bolivia and throwing Rallies and all the other stuff I want to write about?
My blog: It’s all connected.
Me: What’s that supposed to mean? I mean, in this context.
My blog: The more you are in your enoughness and connecting to this quality — this experience — of enoughness, the more you will see how the enoughness grows everything else you want to do in the world.
Me: So it’s okay if I don’t write about these themes just yet because they need to come from the me who already knows about enoughness?
My blog: I knew you’d understand. You’re so quick. It’s why we work so well together.
Me: We work so well together?
My blog: Six hundred and five posts and you hadn’t noticed that?
Me: I guess not.
My blog: That’s why you need to spend more time experiencing enoughness.
Me: You’re probably right.
My blog: Of course I’m right. That’s why you interviewed me.
And comment zen for today.
Enoughness is a difficult quality. Having conversations with one’s blog … as it turns out … also difficult.
No advice please. Just permission and space to experience things the way I experience them. And of course the same permission and space extend to you. Love to all the commenter mice, the Beloved Lurkers and everyone who reads. I appreciate you all tremendously.
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Oh my goodness this cracked me up. Looks like I have an ‘enoughness’ theme going on at the start of my week too. Your blog knows so much! *look who knows so much* 🙂
Oh, your blog is one smart cookie!
I think there’s something floaty (as in, floating in the air, floating over our wires, and just generally floaty-making) about “enough-ness”…I’ve been thinking a lot about it and have been reminding myself (and my people) that I am X enough (cool, smart, disciplined) to do X (big scary unnamed thing).
Also, that’s enough with the (parentheticals).
.-= Tara´s last post … Asking for it =-.
Ah, Havi, the Enoughness of You. The More-Than-Enoughness of you.
I love the way in which you share your process and model what it means to live in a flow of curiosity, receptivity, openness, acceptance and enough-ness.
The heart is restless. It wants this, but not that. It wants this much of this, and that much of that, and none at all of the other.
Enoughness settles my heart. It lets me be with the wanting and not-wanting without getting pulled into either one.
Thank you for this post!
Love, Hiro
.-= Hiro Boga´s last post … There’s Wholeness in Holes =-.
One of the things I love best about the blog which has no name is that here is a place that constantly reminds us that we are enough.
You tell your people in so many different ways that they are smart enough/ experienced enough/ creative enough/ etc. And you do this by giving reminding us that we always have to start where we are and by giving giant reassurances that this is exactly the right place to be right now.
So I find it sweetly amusing (though not at all strange) that your blog would be gently reminding you that you are enough. After 605 posts, it would know!
Raising a glass to enoughness for all!
.-= Liz´s last post … Back to School- Without Losing Your Cool! =-.
boy, Enoughness is a hard one for me- I spend a lot of time feeling like whatever I do isn’t enough, and when I final say “this will have to be enough” because I can’t do any more it feels like admitting failure.
On the other hand, I guess I don’t have any idea how to know what IS enough, or maybe even what “enough” actually is to me. Maybe that’s why I have so much trouble feeling like I’ve done enough – I’m not sure I’d recognize enough if I smashed into it.
wow – this requires additional pondering – perhaps with tea.
Thank you and your blog for bringing this up, and sharing it so graciously.
Be well!
Andy
.-= Andy Dolph´s last post … Projections for The Planets – A look behind the scenes =-.
So timely all the enoughness speak. Thank you, Havi, for having this talk with your blog, for stepping into enoughness, and letting your readers know that we are enough.
You’ve inspired me to have a conversation with my blog and my enoughness gauge.
.-= Lydia´s last post … Supportive Insights =-.
love you Havi.
I so hope to meet you one day and the commenting mice and lurking community here too.
I love it so.
Thanks for your sharing of enoughness. Nourishing yum yum.
x
.-= Leila Lloyd-Evelyn´s last post … Noticing the moment & pockets of inspiration =-.
WOW. Such a good reminder, you! We are all enough. It must be something in the water, I keep hearing this from all over.
Kisses to you and your blog, who knows just how many words are enough.
Part of the reason why people are drawn to you, Havi, is your authenticity. We trust you because you’re not TRYING to grab our attention, and in this way demonstrate your enough-ness. Lovely.
I read in the paper yesterday an announcement for something called The Gratitude Festival (Maybe somebody was inspired by your Gratitude Picnic? :)). It’s sponsored by the Hawaii Forgiveness Project, which I know nothing about, but the idea is so nice:
Forgiveness. Gratitude. Enoughness. And lots of dancing.
Big hugs to you and your Blog.
.-= Rupa´s last post … My Husband Knows How to Knit =-.
Oooff because I remember my first encounter with your blog and yes I ran away screaming in fear because you / it offered such permission to be enough that I couldn’t handle it. At. All.
So the enoughness has always been here, hiding in plain site.
I wasn’t ready for that kind of permission and yet I knew I wanted to be ready for it.
It took several months for me to come back here and even while I
couldn’tdidn’t want to show up I was telling people about – the blog, and you Havi (and I didn’t know Selma yet but I’m sure I would have told people about her too).There aren’t words that say the kind of Thank You I’d like to say, or to show the deep and abiding gratitude I feel.
How do I thank you for this, Havi?
Enoughness is THE biggest, most painful issue I deal with regularly. There have been so many times that I look at your level of productivity and want desperately to be there (meanwhile I have people telling me they strive for *my* level of productivity and hard work ethic). I am in constant terror of not doing enough, not being enough, of needing to do MORE THINGS. If I don’t, I’m a lazy goodfornothingyouknowwhat.
I love the strategy you model above — it reminds me there are many creative ways of taking a look at sticky issues. I must admit, I used to run the other way when I saw that you were posting about Talking to Things. Walls, monsters, whatever. I’m starting to see the genius technique hidden therein, though…
Working toward being in my enoughness…
Breathing into the idea of Enoughness.
Thank you, Havi.
I love you, too, Havi. (Not in a Gentleman-friend-threatening way. You know what I mean.)
Thank you for this. ♥
.-= Chris Anthony´s last post … Lessons of Delight 1- We are unique =-.
I am sitting here, thinking about being enough.
But flabby and heavy and…
I am enough.
But hiding and avoiding and…
I am enough.
But anxious and insecure and…
I am enough.
But beautiful.
But strong.
But kind.
But wise.
But creative.
But loving.
But beautiful. Because it’s worth saying twice. Because it has layers of meaning.
Enough.
.-= Kathleen Avins´s last post … An experiment =-.
Thank you! This interview was such a rich mine of “Ahas” with which to counter my self-critical self.
How is it that the simple small stuff is so hard sometimes?
Hi Havi,
Wow, your blog sure knows how to rock an interview.
I’m so tired of being promised ‘Everything!’ all the time. “Be in your enoughness” is like a comforting mantra calling me home.
Thank you for the post.
.-= Dave Rowley´s last post … The Air Is Thick With Muses =-.
The concept of enough. It’s a hard one for me. A really really hard one /sigh
Maybe I can work with accepting that trying to accept that I am and it is enough, can possibly be enough…
It’s a start, right?
.-= Heidi´s last post … Inspirational creativity & some Beaded fun-brewing =-.
This is wonderful.
And I spend a lot of time in your archives too. And I’ve yet to find anything terrible, as everything’s been useful & given insight or perspective. 🙂
.-= Rose´s last post … Preparations for a Party- The Baby Shower =-.
Being enough- it’s a curious concept. As I read, I really didn’t feel that I am because enoughness felt tied so much to other people. What is the measure after all?
On the other hand, if I alone believed I weren’t enough, I would’ve stopped blogging long ago.
So… internal and external enoughness. At least for me, and wildly out of balance at that. Uf.
.-= claire´s last post … Sketchbook- page 40 =-.
Thanks for such a wonderful post. I’ve been having a good “enoughness” week, although it’s a concept I lose my grasp on regularly. I’m grateful for when I do get it in focus, just before it fuzzes out on me.
You rock. 🙂
I love this! I am slowly being destuckified in my life, and hearing that I am enough is just what I needed for the next little oomph. Till now being enough has been right up there with allowing; “Great concept, but how do I do it”? Now I see that question answers itself! Don’t “do”. Allow. Be. Enough. It’s so simple I wanna cry.
Your Adorable Enoughness,
What a very Sovereign title that is.
It could SO be engraved on a crown.
Of COURSE you write a post on enoughness after my coaching session just hours earlier that oozed with the topic of enoughness and really, truly feeling it. Recognizing that I don’t have to pretend to be someone else I admire or look up to, that I get to be me and they get to be who they are and we are all, beautifully, wonderfully, fantastically, enough. Deep, grateful breath.
Thank you Havi.
.-= Lisa´s last post … Welcome to the World =-.
Oh, yes! Enoughness. Permission to be enough. Teh Awesome. 🙂
Thank you again for sharing! Your blog is right – it is so healing to read your Journey. So much wisdom in the midst of all the learning.
Is it like a Dance of Shiva thing, but w/o the yoga part? I don’t know the Dance personally, but it just occurred to me from what you’ve spoken about it here, that the breaking down the pattern into nothingness, the doing it badly is the way to to it, it feels like there are similarities there.
.-= Birdy Diamond´s last post … Marketplace Monday – Fight Mediocrity =-.
This is one of those posts that came with the perfect timing.
“And yet, I am enough.” That’s how it works.
So much goodness (and enoughness) in this post – thank you!
.-= Victoria Brouhard´s last post … What Makes Decision-Making So Damn Hard =-.
@Tori — oh, yes, I agree, that would be wonderful engraved on a crown! Hmm, I wonder if I can persuade anyone to address me as “Your Sufficiency”…
.-= Kathleen Avins´s last post … An experiment =-.
So… I’m new around here, but I think I’ll be sticking around. Sometimes you just come across the right words in the right way at the right time. This is one of those times.
Much obliged ma’am. Much obliged.
Thank you, Havi, for each of those six hundred and five posts. I appreciate YOU tremendously!
Thanks for a wonderful post!
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And I appreciate you tremendously too.
Hi Avi,
I’m a new reader–just found you from a tweet in my Twitter stream from another blogging friend. I’ve not read your other posts yet. This post hit me right between the eyes. There is something about timing in our lives–and your post found me at the very right time.
Enoughness is a difficult concept, yet one that would lead us into such grace and comfort (I don’t mean sloth and laziness) if we would just let it! If we can accept this concept, then we can free ourselves from inhibitions and wrong ideas about ourselves, and find our way so much easier, and enjoy the trip along the way!
Thanks for this interview with your blog–it has truly been most enlightening!
Have a great day,
Sher :0)
.-= Sher´s last post … Pizza and the Farmers Market =-.
Enoughness. Wow, this post really hit me like a ton of bricks. Good bricks, I mean.
Havi, how is it that your discussions with your monsters, your blog, your… your *things* keep flicking the lights on for me? Last year you spoke about sovereignty just as I needed to hear it, and this time it’s enoughness. I may very well adopt it as my Rosh Hashanah resolution.
And now I’m thinking of Dayenu, it would have been enough. Whatever we do, whatever we are, is enough. Although I wonder, is *nothing* enough? I don’t mean occasional nothing, I mean never ever doing anything. That doesn’t seem like enough to me, but then, that isn’t my problem, it’s for everyone to decide for themselves. Maybe nothing is enough for someone else.
I do enough, even though I want to do more. I am enough, even though I want to be more. It’s okay to be where I am right now.
.-= Pirate´s last post … In Which the Pirate Begins Mom’s Socks =-.
Havi,
This is so genius–I so need to have a conversation with my blog because it’s definitely been causing me a lot of distress. Thanks for the idea.
Synchronicity–I love this. I wrote a blog post on June 8 about Being Enough and yesterday commented on Charlie Gilkey’s blog where he was talking about the concept of “having enough”–which as far as I am concerned, is the first cousin of “being enough”. So “Enough” is really in the air lately.
And I would like to say that everything you do is MORE than enough. Thank you for all of the brilliance that lives here.
xoxo
Well, you are so brilliantly enough i love it, and can’t wait to get more enoughness of you.
It’s interesting that in this challenging pregnancy, I can’t be more than just enough, cause well, that’s all i have, is just enough, and i imagine that i might find that in parenthood? Who knows, a few more weeks till the crazy journey begins!
big hugs, and much love.
l.
.-= Lisa Pijuan-Nomura´s last post … Vida Beads and Other Preparations before the Boy Arrives =-.
Havi,
I can’t get enough of the Enough of You. Stay the you that you are, the you that you are becoming. A lot of us love and relate to you and find you (in all of your varieties and flavors) a blessing in our lives.
Just remember, a straight line may be the shortest distance between two points, but it’s also the most boring. All of the fun stuff is in the little nooks and crannies that we never knew we were going to explore when we first start a path. Going where you know is a trek, going where you’ve never been is an adventure.
Keep the faith, tell Selma I said ‘Hi’ and Stu that I miss him. Rabbit dodging blisters.
Ooooh, enoughness. Looking forward very much to your thoughts on that. Enoughness feels like something I completely recognise and know, but at the same time something that’s usually distant – it doesn’t actually live here yet, at least not most of the time. I think listening to you talk about it will help to make more of a space for it here. Thank you!
.-= Jennifer´s last post … Systems- people and the death of Khyra Ishaq =-.