We’re rallying at the Rally (Rally!), projectizing our projects.
And one of the things we’re doing while we work and play is this:
We’re noticing how we are what the patterns are.
We’re taking notes.
We’re asking WHY LIKE THIS? Yes, Israeli-ism.
But without judgment. Just pure curiosity.
We’re gathering information. More usefulness for the Book of You.
And here’s the section of the Book of Me that I’m working on this morning, in case you want to play too:
The Book of Me. In times of overwhelm and transition!
- Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because…
- It really helps to remember:
- It really helps to try:
- What you really want to avoid:
Play with us?
I’m going to be taking notes on this all day.
On the questions. On my relationship with the questions. On what happens if I get overwhelmed while thinking about the questions. On what happens when my project and I aren’t getting along.
Just to find out what’s there.
You can rewrite the questions. Or make up your own. It’s all play. There’s no way to do it wrong, because it’s an experiment.
Just like on Rally (Rally!), we cheer for each other, we don’t give unsolicited advice, and there are lots of snacks. Whee!
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Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because… you are expecting waaaay too much of yourself as usual
It really helps to remember: you are not alone. this will not always be so hard. you are doing better than you think you are
It really helps to try: take just one little step today. it’s enough !
What you really want to avoid: more pressure. and beating yourself up.
Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because…you have used that rich, active imagination of yours to create stakes that are very, very high. Somewhere inside, you are imagining that things should or must be a certain way, or else terrible consequences ensue!
It really helps to remember: you are the author of your inner story. You do have a lot of power to change those interior perceptions!
(To be continued…)
Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because the overwhelming to-do list is still only in your head, and that’s part of why it seems way too long.
It really helps to remember: you can compartmentalize so there are some parts of the to-do list you don’t even “see” yet. That works best after you create the urgent list in written form. Writing them down makes the to-do list long; but not writing them down makes it monsterous, in the most scary way.
It really helps to try: writing the list in a compartment-friendly way. For example, action folders with a specific little list on each folder.
What you want to avoid: forgetting that you can see behind the curtain, to where the fuzzy list-monster is operating the fire and brimstone effects.
Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because…you think you have to do 12,000 things NOW.
It really helps to remember: no matter how much you get done in a day, you’ll never be done. There will always be more to do. Do what you can and relax.
It really helps to try: focusing one one thing at a time. Only this. Only here. Only now.
What you really want to avoid: thinking that you have to be superhuman in order to succeed.
It really helps to try: bringing yourself back into your body. Breathing. Stretching. Touching things.
What you really want to avoid: over-identifying with dark thoughts and feelings. They happen. They may come from you, but they are not you. In fact, a lot of them don’t even come from you at all; they’re just extraneous gunk that tries to attach itself. You can play with these ideas if you want to, poke and prod them, recycle them if you can, but don’t be fooled into believing that you are them. They’re just raw material. You are the artist. You can choose.
Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because…you’re not getting enough sleep. Or introvert recovery time. Or both.
It really helps to remember that you deserve rest. That you’re worthy of your definition of luxury. That you’re 95% likely to feel all better after a good night of sleep.
It really helps to try going into your bear cave. With tea, tomato soup and grilled cheese.
What you really want to avoid: Shoulds. Scary deadlines. Social situations. A jam-packed calendar.
Sweetie, when you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s probably because you are bewildered and worried about the enormity of your task(s).
It really helps to remember that you will want to hide forever but you are capable. Infinately so and no, that’s not big headed, and that what you need is a cunning plan!
It really helps to try getting out the big pens and writing lists and drawing secret treasure mind maps. Just one list, just one mind map. It is enough.
What you really want to avoid: doing everything but what you need to do, hating yourself for wanting to hide and endless comparissons.
Cunning timing as I am, indeed feeling overwhelmed right now. Right now it’s because something is going rather dramatically wrong and a)there’s nothing I can do about it except wait it out and b)it’s happening because I screwed up. And then I’m laying guilt on myself and building a sceanrio of doom for the future and getting all anxious and scared and obviously it’s all my fault. Argh!
Blimey, no wonder I’m feeling overwhelmed.
What’s helping to remember (if that makes sense) – this is not going to last forever, that it’s not actually my fault – I wasn’t to know that doing what I did would have this effect because it shouldn’t have. (Er, that makes sense to me.)
It really helps to: drink water, eat food, be gentle.
Avoid: less screaming at myself, less Why is it like the universe clearly hates me?!, not get sucked into thinking about how the worst could happen and keep on happening.
Phew – needed.
Sweetie, when you feel overwhelmed, it’s probably because you’re not listening to yourself and respecting your capacity. Or you’re worried and scared of what’s about to happen.
It really helps to remember that we have unlimited potential and capacity. That we CAN do it; whatever it is. I wouldn’t have agreed for it to happen elsewise.
It really helps to try and schedule in resting time and to USE it for REST.
What you really want to avoid is negative self-talk, as this shapes your moods, perceptions, intentions and actions.