Friday chicken

Reflecting on both the hard and the good in the week that was…

Hello, week: we are here.

{a breath for being here when we get here}

Thank you, week!

This is the 415th week in a row we are chickening here together!

Or “checking in”, if you prefer to enunciate.

What’s been working?

Asking for clues. I do this anyway because it’s a fun way to turn on the part of my brain in charge of Noticing and Wonder, but lately I’ve been specifically asking for clues related to something I’m working on, and this has been delivering so much delight.

Like the night I went to the bar to write about the theme of legacy — mine, this business, what is my legacy. Except I got there and was too scared to write about it, like maybe I’m not ready to be honest about what I want and other fear-whispers, so I opened my notebook and wrote Next Clue Please.

Skyler came over and asked if I wanted the usual and I said hmmm no show me the list, even though I never look at the list. Oh look, a Canadian blended whisky called Legacy.

I might try…

Ha. Last week I seeded taking more time to luxuriate in entry and exit. Am pleased to report there was lots of this in my week, maybe even mostly this.

What else would I like to try? Being more aware of background noise and its effects on me when it isn’t loud enough for me to hate it, because sometimes it is really messing with me and is giving me clues to exit, and I am missing them.

Naming the days.

I name each day the night before and I love how names change things and also how they become incantations.

This week was the week of doors into harmony and these were the days.

Melody opens. Hello exciting new day. Celebrating my way. Be free and pursue pleasure. Instinct says. PROWESS. Standing in my power.

Upcoming biopic if it were based on this week…

Cocooning Is Not A Terrible Strategy, As It Turns Out.

If you feel drawn to comment on aspects of my week, I will take love, hearts, breaths, pebbles — I do not need advice or cheering up, though presence and sweetness are always welcome

8 breaths for the hard, challenging and mysterious.

  1. Ugh cities. I am done with cities. It is hilarious that I am saying this. I mean, I moved to Portland from San Francisco, to San Francisco from Berlin, and to Berlin from Tel Aviv, so I don’t even really generally consider Portland to be particularly urban, it occupies a unique space in my mind as sort of a large town with spectacularly good food. And now I find myself spending the summer in a small coastal town of ten thousand people, and suddenly even this is way too much for me. But spending time in both Portland and Vancouver this week really made it clear that I can’t do it anymore. A breath for knowing this, and for wilding my way back to wilderness, however this happens.
  2. I craved connection and play this week, with people, and this showed up in various settings and circumstances, and each time there was no one to play with. And this is okay and the only important thing in life is how I connect with myself, and still, wanting is or can be painful. A breath for being tender with myself and letting things be how they are right now.
  3. It turns out that for the past four months I have been telling myself something that isn’t true, namely that the thing I do like in Portland, and miss being able to take part in, is a certain blues dance night at a certain venue. When my flight was two hours late this week, I got stranded in Portland and was able to go! Nope, it was THE WORST. And even worse than it being the worst was the sudden realization that I give away a lot of my time to feeling sad about missing out on things that it turns out I don’t actually want anyway. A breath for self-forgiveness and self-treasuring, knowing that this realization I am currently finding frustrating I will eventually find liberating.
  4. This week involved sleeping in five different places, and next week involves even more, as things are moving and changing, and I am enormously grateful to always have a place, and also I am craving sanctuary and routine and a bed that is mine-all-mine for as long as I want it. A breath for making space for adventure and sanctuary to co-exist.
  5. Pain in the form of a hurting back from sleeping on the floor, a hurting shoulder from terrible night of dancing, a hurting heart from the pain of the world. A breath for taking exquisite care of myself, with love.
  6. Uncomfortable epiphany had me rattled. Something about the many ways I have (or past-me has) not just been in tough situations but actively chosen [lack and dependency] throughout the course of my life out of fear of what will happen if I just do what I want. Oh, all the things small scared me has chosen that she didn’t actually want, out of fear of losing the people who loved her. Useful intel, let’s seed more trust-in-love. A breath for comfort and healing: comfort through healing, healing through comfort and being comforted.
  7. Conundrum still unresolved. Also someone invited me to share in an adventure but made this offer unappealing, and I am sitting with this because something about the sensation of [unappealing opportunity that is like the thing I want but not] is reminding me of something important, and I want to figure out what that is. A breath for trust: what if I can let this mystery reveal great treasure.
  8. Inhale, exhale. May all misunderstandings and distortions, internal and external, dissolve in love if not in laughter. May peacefulness prevail. Trust-more love-more release-more receive-more. Goodbye (and thank you), mysteries and hard moments of this week.

8 breaths for the good, reassuring, delight-filled.

  1. Another delightful week. I love these long summer nights that stretch and expand, the light is so pretty here, and also all that light allows for so much freedom of movement, as I go places and do things I wouldn’t say yes to if it was cold and dark and had already felt like night for hours. Happy. Enjoying the cool weather at the coast, the mist-into-drizzle grey by the water, the muted pinks and blues of the sky as the sun sets. A breath of contentment.
  2. My trip to Vancouver was very grounding, in so many ways, not only in escaping the worst of the fireworks. It is good to be around people who are so actively appalled at the prospect of a Trump presidency. I mean, I think most people I know in the States are as well, we are just tired of thinking about it, so there’s this shrug of resignation that can turn too easily into complacency, but my Canadian friends are rightfully experiencing this as SHOCK AND HORROR, and that was honestly refreshing. It was wonderful to hug-and-kiss Jane and be with her again, catching up over a very decadent dinner, big joy. And I had birthday do-overs, and do-overs are magic. I also learned that I really am done with cities, done done done done, and while that maybe wasn’t the most fun realization, it was useful. A breath for all of this, and yes, I might just move to rural British Columbia, you heard it here first, maybe, we’ll see.
  3. This is a tiny thing but sometimes tiny things do the trick. I changed my location on Twitter to Genoa, transforming the “trending topics” in the sidebar from Mostly Horrifying to mysterious and sometimes marvelous, like #DonneComeCiPare, which — and you are welcome offer an alternative translation as I don’t actually speak Italian*, I am translating loosely in my mind as women doing whatever the fuck they want, and it makes me happy. And while I am still trying to avoid social media, making it slightly less of a toxic cesspool is a good thing. A breath for safety first, play and for simple solutions.
    * I’m not Italian, I just play one on TV.….
  4. Flowing with plans being illusory. Flight was delayed by two hours so I got to drink wine and write! And later invented a brilliant television show with a new friend. And I missed the bus to the coast and other things happened instead, and they were mostly good, and the parts that weren’t led me to new choices. Getting better at this. A breath of quiet trust.
  5. Echoing and reverberating my way through the labyrinth at the cathedral. “You seem like someone who knows labyrinths”, said the woman at the door when I entered. I am okay with that. A breath of gratitude and grace.
  6. While I am very glad I escaped the Fourth of July aka Flagsplosion Day, as Agent Spalding calls it, and the awful [my home is suddenly a war zone] aspect of it all, there were of course still fireworks going off all week long, and I am overjoyed to report that I was not nearly as miserable as I usually am. I mean, I still don’t like the sound of explosions. But I didn’t go into the usual PTSD spirals. This is nothing less than miraculous, and credit goes to the enormous amount of TRE (Trauma Release Exercises) I’ve been doing. Well, I skip the exercises but I tremor every day for anywhere between five and fifteen minutes. The point is, things exploded and I did not cry or hide or feel like I was losing my mind, it was more like “yes, I do not like this noise”. I still plan on getting out of dodge next year and all years, but now it feels different. A breath of thankfulness.
  7. Still channeling Adrianna and her superpowers so hard. Getting on the floor and breathing. Olive oil in a pretty dish. Taking time and taking more time. Entry and exit. Wearing the most beautiful scarf instead of saving it for special occasions. I AM A SPECIAL OCCASION. A breath for how new and wonderful this feels.
  8. Thankfulness. Treasure in the form of spicy popcorn, la vie en rose, finding a book on renaissance art exactly when I needed a clue about newness and rebirth and being Italian. So much grace. Everything is okay and so much is good. Nothing is wrong, even when I want to believe it is. Now is not then. All Timing Is Right Timing. Thank you for this grand adventure. A full breath of deep appreciation in my thank-you heart.

Superpowers I had this week…

Last week I asked for the powers of My Own Best Ally, I Have Everything I Need In The Moment I Need It, All The Right Doors Open For Me, and I hear the melody. Got all of these, not at all in the ways I might have expected, and feeling grateful.

Powers I want.

More of the same please and also the powers of Gleefully Following My Joy and Doing Everything With A Different Attitude Which Makes It New And Fabulous. The salve is not named for this but it covers this too.

The Salve of Clues Everywhere.

These invisible salves are distributed here by way of internet magic. Help yourself! Take it in a bath, as tea, a cocktail, whatever works for you. Not only is there enough salve, there are also enough ways to receive it.

This, like last week’s salve, is an awareness salve but it also so much more than that. It is a salve of transformation because clues transform a moment with tingly presence, and when you show up in this moment new, the moment is also new.

Side effects again include heart opening, doors opening, wonderful serendipity, deep appreciation for small details

Playing live at the meme beach house — the Fake Band of the Week!

My brother and I make up bands, which are all just one guy. The Meme Beach House is the venue.

just-one-guy

This week’s band is from Agent Sloan:

More Than Monsters

Their latest album is Everything Is Better With Pineapple, and this band is just one guy.

Photo taken just for us in Lubbock, TX by Jesse — thank you!

Announcement time….

More to come soon, but I left the monster manual in the place that used to be the the shop. So if you missed the closing of the shop, there is still something beautiful for you!

How was your week?

Come play in the comments. Share something from your week, take a breath, or just say hi! No rules, my format doesn’t have to be yours, we’ve been doing this every week for years now and there still isn’t a right way.

Everyone belongs. We let people have their own experience. We’re supportive and welcoming. We lovingly refrain from giving advice.

And of course it’s always okay to comment under a made-up name, whether for play and delight, or in the interest of Safety First.

Wishing you a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious day, a restful weekend and a happy week to come.

Shabbat shalom.

It’s fine if it’s not Friday anymore. There’s complete chicken amnesty — jump in whenever you like. Blowing kisses to the Beloved Lurkers too!

The Fluent Self