Gwishes.

I am not very good at goals. Mostly because I do not like them. Navigating and mapping and adventuring are more my style, not surprisingly, because those are things that pirates like. And I’m mostly okay with wishes as long as I pretend that they’re Very...

Ask Havi #32: Green monsters. Dealing with envy.

Note: it is almost impossible to get on the Ask Havi list. Though of course you can keep sending scarves for Selma. She loves them. Yay. First dinner in the sukkah last night! Please note that I did NOT get eaten by moths/bears nor do I have sauce on my dress. Calling...

Ten myths of biggification

So yes. While I do talk a lot about biggification, the whole thing started as a joke. When I launched this site nearly five years ago, I read piles of business advice, only to start really losing patience. The neverending litany of think big think big just felt so...

Invisibility hacks. Three of them.

We talk a lot here about how scary it can be to be seen. Also about the longing to be seen — seen by certain people. To be acknowledged for what you have done or who you are. The safety of not being found versus the desire to be found. I’ve written about...
The Fluent Self