I already told the story of my brother coming home from pre-school and announcing proudly, “I know the S word!”
I love S words.
And I especially love how [s-words] easily turns into swords.
Swords and s-words.
So. <-- Probably my favorite S word.
So let’s do this. Salutations! Welcome to the Secret Society of the S Words.
The Secret Society of the S words.
This is where the S words live.
Where they play. Swordplay and s-word play.
This is where you’ll find Spaciousness and Speediness. Serenity and Spontaneity. Soothing and Shedding. Sincerity and Solidarity. Stretching and Spreading. Sophistication and STAR POWER.
And sparklepoints.
Support and Surrender. Stillness and Summoning. Suppleness and Structure.
Spirit and Source. And the Superpower of remembering that I am Surrounded by Source, I do not have to be Source for other people.
Steady sturdy stability.
Simple sustainable systems and solutions.
The S word is Sovereignty.
Sovereignty is the thing I care most about.
Sovereignty is being UNAPOLOGETICALLY TRUE TO MYSELF.
Sovereignty is showing up as fully myself as I can, being as honest as I can with myself and others about what I need and desire in a given moment, taking care of my various selves and their needs, unapologetically glowing my presence and standing in my strength.
Taking ownership of how I experience, react to, interact with life.
This includes, among other things, knowing and remembering that other people don’t get the power of being responsible for my emotions, because taking care of my emotions and my reactions is my job, as is setting clear boundaries around what is acceptable around me.
It’s that and so much more. I have re-read what I wrote about Sovereignty 101, and it still blows my mind, this concept is so vitally important.
Sexy, sweet, sultry sovereignty.
My lover and I practice something we have named Radical Sovereignty.
Our intention is to be completely honest with ourselves and each other about what we want and need, in all situations. For each of us to take care of our own kingdom. To not contort or hide. To live by the C in all interactions with each other.
To bring all of ourselves to this adventure. To speak truth with sweetness. It is exciting and scary and sexy and vulnerable. Did I mention scary? OHMYGOD. It is not easy, it might even in some ways be the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and yet, it also makes everything easier.
It is a softening. And there is something sweet and sexy about letting yourself soften.
Without sovereignty, there can’t be safety in softness. And without sovereignty, the other S-words don’t stand up for themselves. So many sweet S words…
So many sweet S words.
The S Word is SWEETNESS. The S Word is SMILING.
The S Word is SOFTENING. The S Word is SOLIDITY. The S Word is SLOWING DOWN.
The Steadfastness of the Sun. Sudden Sweet Surprises.
The S Word is SERVICE. Serving through being quiet, through modeling instead of teaching.
The S word is Shmita.
I didn’t write this post for a long time. I started, and then I couldn’t do it. And I wondered why.
And then while I was in the desert on my forty three days of Operation Tranquility Recovery Magic, aka the unlikeliest road trip, I had the realization about Shmita.
And then I knew what I had been waiting for. I had been waiting for this S-word.
Shmita means releasing, and so much more than that. Letting the land lie fallow.
This coming year for me is devoted to practicing sovereignty, and also for not doing anything else.
It is my year of not-creating, not-spending, not-planning. Just being. Being and releasing.
And Scene!
The S Word is SAFETY. The S Word is SHELTER. The S Word is SANCTUARY.
The S Word is SECLUSION. The S Word is SECRET OPS. The S Word is SERENDIPITY.
The S Word is SPIRALS. The S Word is SOLO. The S Word is SINGLE. The S Word is SOLIDARITY.
The S Word is STORY. The S Word is SNACKS!
The S Word is SEEDS. The S Word is SEEN. The S Word is SCENE.
And: scene.
More S Words! More S Words!
The S Word is SEXINESS. The S Word is SASS. The S Word is SCENT. The S Word is SPECIAL. The S Word is SWELL. The S Word is SERENADE.
Splendiferous! Syncopate! Soup!
Shiva, the god of destruction and deconstruction, who dances the dance of joy and takes things apart so they can rebuild.
So much sparking!
The S Word is SYLLABUS.
The S Word is SOLITUDE. The S Word is SHADOW.
The S Word is SUSTENANCE. The S Word is SACRED. The S Word is SARONG.
S is also for Sex. Sultry, saucy, scintillating. Splitting and sparking.
It really is spectacular.
The S Word is SACRUM. The S Word is SETTING. The S Word is SLINKY. The S Word is SPECTACULAR. Isn’t it?
The S Word is SEEDING. The S Word is SHARING. The S Word is SYNTHESIS.
The S Word is STRENGTH. And SECURITY.
The S Word is SIGHT. The S Word is SELF and self-care and self-worth and self-actualizing and self-fluency.
S is for SPACE. Sacred space.
S is for SURFACING.
S is for Stimming, which for me is Supportive of Sanity and Serenity.
The S Word is Seasons. And Seasonings. S is for things that Sparkle and Shimmer and Shine. S is for Silliness and for Silence, for Simplicty and Sincerity. For Surfing and for Singing.
The Secret Sword Society. It’s now an actual place!
The Secret Sword Society, aka the Secret S-word Society, is what I am calling the newest incarnation of my private-entrance online community (going on year seven) where we actively practice self-fluency, where we work and play, in companionship and with love.
This is where I work on my stuff.
I am especially excited about this new year, because the focus is going to be on living in sovereignty, and finding ways to live that are sustaining and sustain.
Sovereingty, sweetness, sustenance, sustainability, spaciousness. All the good stuff.
We set sail (sailing, another S word!) on February 28th. Right now admission is half off because of Plum Duff, so take a look at the sail/sale page. Password: enter-with-roses
May it be so! And come play with me.
Thank you, letter S.
If you want to whisper or shout words or sound effects that start with S, go for it.
Add new S words or peek over here for more S-filled riches. Like sacchariferous, salmagundi, saxifragous, scoliograptic, sempervirent and sphygmodic. On a raft!
And of course, if you want to share in any of the qualities and magical words I named here, help yourself.
They work like the salves (S-word!) in the Friday Chicken: there is enough and there is always more.
Whispering loving spells that begin with S, for myself, and for anyone who wants…
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Susurration! Speedwell! Starlight!
Sassafras! Scribacious! Seric! Sigmate!
Secret Sword Society squeee!
Simulacrum!
Simultaneous!
Sorcery!
Sensation!
Seeking
Subliminal!
Supplement (as a verb)!
Suspense!
Surprise!
Salacious!
Scimitar!
Subliminal!
Saxophone!
Suuuuuuuuuuuuuishi. <3
Can’t believe I forgot SNUGGLING!
My favorites
Surrender
Savasana
Somnambulist. Solipsist. Serenade. Swiftness.
Hello. I have been a lurker for about a year now, and I just had such a spectacular epiphany that I want to report it!
So, I have been struggling with shame about my maybe-autism, and with shame about having that shame, and worrying whether it meant I didn’t have deep enough respect for other autistic people. Then Havi said hello to (autism) spectrum and a lightbulb flicked on in a previously unlit corner of my self. Turns out there has been a poor little monster there the whole time, saying shame-soaked things about my own autism. And that seeped into how I thought about the neurodiverse and otherwise differently abled people I work with. And now I can talk it out with the shame-monster. And say hello to spectrum, too, because after Havi did, I am less scared to.
So, thank you for that lightbulb, and for modelling a way of thinking about difference that is revolutionary to me.
Also, my favourite s words are: scrumptious, sacred and serendipity.
<3 <3 <3 safety on the spectrum! s is for spectacular epiphanies and sorting things out with the shame-monsters, me too me too on this one
Me too! Me too! Me too! OMG – Me too!
(and maybe meltdown, now, because Shame Monsters all-over-the-place.)
And what I missed, growing up, was all kinds of “It’s okay to be YOU, just the way you are”. I knew there was lots of ‘missed something there!’ – but I couldn’t pin it down – now I have a whole Spectrum to explore: ~ yes, mine; No, that one’s not mine; Ahhh! So that’s what’s going on *there*!!!
Great-big-huge Zen Hugs {{{Havi}}} – “Stimming” as a (wonderful S!) word caught my eye and took me to a place as full of “Ah-Hahh!!” as “You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?” did 5 years ago!!
Thank you, Zuzana, for “I am less scared to”.
“I’m afraid…” has been a default emotion-label for quite a while now, and now (today, this morning – in the last half-hour!) I see why, and what it really breaks down into.
Self-diagnosed as ADD-ish (don’t want the label, or the drugs! because “labels = boxes = pre-conceived notions = they don’t see ME” – nope, don’t want to go there! And drugs = chemicals in my Temple = more drugs for the side-effects = OMG NO NO NO!!!) Don’t have time or energy for arguing with ‘the system’ and system-steeped doctors.
Gratitude, some more and again, Havi, for space to talk this out in your comments.
the mention of labels brings to mind my favourite quote from Ava Ruth Baker (an autistic medical doctor)
“Diagnoses are often thought of as labels but they could also be considered as signposts. Signposts do something more than labels they help people find their way on a journey”
I hope I didn’t miss SYNCHRONICITY. Other favorite s-words include Serendipity and Surprise. And many many others.
Sumptuous!
S is for sensitivity
S is for sorry
S is for supercalafragialisticexpialadocious
S is synchopation
S is for splendid, spleen and splat!
S is for stand, and the taking of one
S is for sensible
S is for SHOES (hopefully delightful ones, not flying ones)
S is for save, spend, shovel and shimmy
S is for savoir-faire
S is for snails pace and snail mail
S is for savvy and sip and song
S is for sound and sonic and sonar
S is for stripper, fairground (and the doing it like one)
S is for salsa (and salsa)
S is for slimy and sticky and shame
S is for solvent and solving
S is for SOUL
S is for squab, squat, squash, squiggle and squint
S is for ssssssssssssssshhhhhhhhhhhhh
S is for SIZZLE
whee!
Soothe and soar, sky and sea.
Start.
Suspend and suspense (the fun kind!).
Super and superb.
Solemn and solace.
Signal and sign.
Smooth and supple, shape and symmetry.
Gratitude for the Secret Sword Society. 🙂
Smooth
Simple
Small
Slippery (boo-hiss! but all too common)
Safe
Sane
Secure
Snuggly
Yes, Sooo-o-o-o as a superlative! 😉 (Hah – two at once)
Ahhhh-h-h-h! That’s better.
Snakes
Silly
Supple
Self-discovery (Wow!)
S is for SELFCARE!
Thank you, Havi. 🙂
Now is not the right time for me being in the Secret Sword Society, but maybe one day… It sounds like a good place to be.