Hilariously, right in the middle of writing a series of posts on my philosophy of Intentionally Not Giving Advice and how/why it works, I find myself in the need of some unrelated feedback.
Timing. I love it.
Here’s where I could really use your help.
1. Favorite posts?
Remember way back a looooooooong time ago (December 2009) when I was re-doing the sidebar thing and we were collecting favorite posts?
So Selma and I have written approximately seventeen billion things since then, and I’m hoping for some new recommendations.
What are some posts that you have really liked? Or that you would pass on to other people?
I know the archives are endless, but if there are posts you’ve really enjoyed or found helpful/inspiring/useful/whatever, I would appreciate your input. Thank you!
2. Results or understandings from the Monster Manual & Coloring Book.
We have put off adjusting the price of the Monster Manual & Coloring Book to what it was originally going to be for way longer than anyone ever imagined possible.
Partly because it is my absolute most beloved product of all my babies.
And partly because putting the price back up keeps getting bumped off the list of Things That Have To Be Done Right This Second when we’re having staff meetings at Drunk Pirate Council.
Anyway, it is the time.
But I could really use some love stories of how/why the Monster Manual is so incredibly useful. And how much joyful therapeutic fun it is to use the coloring book.
How you can help.
If you have thoughts on either one of these or both, please leave a comment here. That would be super helpful and so very much appreciated.
In lieu of guidelines: comment zen blanket fort stuff.
Of course now I find myself trying to word this request, and wishing I could just link to my handy feedback-giving guidelines that don’t exist yet.
So I’m going to ask anyway, and just let it be awkward and weird.
My take on feedback is this: we recognize the People Vary principle, and take ownership of the fact that whatever we give people is our take on something, not a descriptive fact:
Useful: “A post of yours that really spoke to me is…”
(as opposed to “This is the best one.”)
Useful: “Something I found really appealing is …”
(as opposed to: “X is good. Y is less good.”)
Thank you. This means so much to me.
I appreciate this. And I appreciate you.
So much love to all the commenter mice, the Beloved Lurkers and everyone who reads. This place is one of the safest, most loving, supportive and goofy places on the internet for a reason. And it’s you.
You help me hold the culture, even by reading and nodding. And that has made this a really special experience for me.
Apart from all the other ones…
http://fluentself.com//blog/ask-havi/twisted-fantasy-edition/
Dark twisted fantasies! I have them too! An oldie but a goodie. With great comments.
1. There are many posts that I like and have come back to, but the one that I remember the most is about the throwing of shoes. I like finding room to explore the concept on my own. This time the lingering question was why some shoes are easy to understand and those particular shoes hit so hard. http://fluentself.com//blog/habits/someone-threw-a-shoe-at-you/
2. The colouring book was great. Still the result is hard to do justice, because it isn’t all that tangible yet. Sure, I got to meet a monster and feed her frozen pizza, a definite win-win for me and my monster. And then I stretched for an opportunity to get help that required me to use resources that I’ve been afraid to use. Now I’m taking a class that might give me the answers I’ve been looking for. Does that even begin to explain how useful it was? I overcame yet another piece of years of hurting, of being ill and feeling like so much of what I though I could rely on did not save me from sinking. There’s more to come.