What's in the gallery?
We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.
We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**
* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.
** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.
What's in the gallery?
We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.
We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**
* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.
** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.
Passage Out of July.
Good god I love saying hello to things. Hello, day. Hello, month.
Sometimes I just walk around sparking tiny whispered hellos to everything.
Hello, tree. Hello, red rug for yoga. Hello, palm of my hand. Here is a sloppy hello-kiss for you.
It is a form of naming things. Remember? I do. I am here.
But here is a hurting shard of heart-truth: I am not doing great with goodbyes right now. Not now.
Exiting, yes. I like exits as much as entry. Consciously exiting is a thing I care about. It’s just…
Oh, this hurts. I cannot bear to have goodbye be the opposite of hello anymore, I can’t have it as the closing bracket. I have been through too many painful goodbyes this year and my heart cannot contain even one more. No to goodbyes.
No to goodbyes. And yes to marking exits.
With a new name and a new form.
So this will be a passage and a crossing. A shelter for leaving.
Wishes of faring well. Like in the sea shanties. Fare thee well. Thrive, my love, thrive. Thrive while I cannot be with you.
Yes. Like that. Bittersweet, maybe. But not loss. Hope-filled and love-filled.
Okay, July. Let us look at you and remember. Show me what I need to take with me for this passage through you and into August.
July, sweet July. Things I loved about July.
Sparks across the miles, carried by moths.
The 10 27s and the evening ritual and the morning ritual and writing thousands of words.
Things under things. Lace. Hope.
Living out the love letter to June that spilled out of me, letting July be the fruition of that.
The 37 second video made just for me of bridge, field and the smallest hello.
Realizations. Epiphanies. The word “unlock”. Potential to kinetic.
Heart opening and opening and opening. Tingle-joy-heart.
Discovering new things about heart. For the first time in all my years of yoga understanding why people think backbends are exhilarating instead of awful and sometimes terrifying.
Plantings for the bells. Two different secret beach days.
And, of course, Rally (Rally!). It was Rally #22, and it was outrageously amazing, and I loved every minute of it, and I cannot believe how great Rally is.
And July was playdates and discovery and new words and ALL THE WORDS, and a just-right playmate that I can have the words with. Which is somehow magically easing and erasing lots of pain.
Things that were hard in July.
Loss. Loss loss loss loss loss.
Three of the most important relationships in my life crumbled and died. Or reconfigured, fine. But they are gone.
Well. One crumbled in March. And one crumbled two years ago and ended in May, but this was the month of feeling the pain of knowing: over. Done.
And then all the beautiful rituals that I love and loved so much that died and cannot come back, because they involve people who are no longer in my life.
And the place that I love most, the place that I love more than anywhere else aside from my fruit trees, who are also gone, more loss …
I might lose that place too.
This July was about meeting hard painful truths and not liking them and accepting them anyway. It was about re-learning the difference between detachment and numb.
It was about coming to terms with the truth that what I need is within me, but that to see the reflections of source, I have to remember how to hold and be and know. To be source and resource and reflection at the same time.
And there were terrifying panicky moments when I not only forgot that, but I forgot everything that I know about why things are okay and why they will be better.
All the points! I win at July. Because…
I am awarding ridiculous amounts of sparklepoints to myself right now. Because I can.
Specifically for:
- Healing pellet-pattern. That’s something I’ve been working on for years and this month it faded like it never has before. An old neural pathway of addiction: it is gone.
- Courage. I was brave about conversations. I was brave about the sad goodbyes. As much as I could. This is new.
- Using the tools.
- Taking it to my body, with yoga and shiva nata and dance.
- Walking the beach.
- Ringing the bells.
- Going to the (royal!) court to initiate the secret coronation.
- Finding the words.
- The sparkly redesign of the shiva nata website! Finally.
- The beautiful Stompopolis website! Double finally.
- Asking for help.
- Playing.
- Smiling through the tears.
And slow internal-burning yoga on the beach, listening to the sand. It had a lot to say.
Things I want to remember and take with me from July.
Knowing what is important.
Breathing into my heart of tingle-joy and my heart of releasing.
How July will help me passage.
I am entering August with much less weight. All those tears that have been released.
I am entering August with infinitely more information about what I want, what I need, what I stand for, what I care about, what I will not put up with, what I am currently receptive to.
I am taking the elements and essence from everything that has crumbled. Keeping the parts about sweetness, desire, presence, wonder. Letting everything non-essential scatter.
I am going into August with the strengths of the version of me who was able to handle everything July handed me.
With curiosity, receptivity and hidden strength.
The soundtrack of July.
July came in with this track, on repeat on repeat on repeat.
Shawn always knows what needs to be listened to.
July came in with the field of all the fields. Possibility and anticipation.
But then that changed.
And now July is winding its way out with this on repeat instead: Hope. Grace. Comfort.
With calligraphy.
Whitney reminded me about this song.
Stepping into the conduit.
I am taking everything I need with me.
I am releasing all the things that are done.
Fare thee well, July. Be a passage of love.
Play with me if you like.
If there is anything you want to say or remember about July, this is a secret fountain where you can whisper those things.
Or take a silent retreat. Or leave a flower or a stone.
Everyone has stuff. We’re all figuring it out. We don’t give advice or tell people how they should feel. We make room for people.
And! This is a place for safe adventuring. We approach with as much curiosity as we can muster, and a sort of loving non-dogmatic reverence.
*blows a kiss to the commenter mice, the Beloved Lurkers, and anyone who made it through July*
Visions #159: Romping and Collisions.
Personal ads. They’re … personal! Very.
Each week I write these Visions of Possibility and Anticipation to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.
I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!
Oh this weekend. It has been full of words. Beautiful words. I am having words. I am having all the words.
So let’s put these words into some visions.
What do I want this week? What do I want, in general?
Thing 1: Saying yes to the opening.
Here’s what I want:
Saying yes to all kinds of things opening, but specifically the opening of Stompopolis, our new and life-alteringly amazing space.
This requires that I finish what I began at Rally (Rally!), namely the sorting of pieces into three magical boxes-that-are-not-boxes.
One is the Plumlet. One is the On A Mission From God Statement slash Understatement.
And one is the Secret Hatch.
It doesn’t really matter. The point is: Me. Sitting down. At the table. And letting all the pieces fall into place. And then opening all the openings!
Delightedly. With grace and ease.
And if this turns out to be a secret fractal flower that helps other things open? Like passages, channels and portals. Or a thing that has to do with wine and stones, except that these are proxies…
All the better.
Ways this might work:
So many ways!
I am absolutely convinced that Beach Day is essential to the magic.
And also I could just wake up early full of vim and vigor and things like that.
And of course: commitment.
I’m playing with…
Well, shiva nata, obviously. That is the fastest way I know of to make a portal to a thing you want. And to do it through untangling the old patterns that are keeping you from finding the secret hatches.
I will also play with (related!) being the fox in the video game.
And with a thing that is like presence (“all the presents!”) but crazy-shiny and it glows.
Thing 2: What are the useful things about the stones?
Here’s what I want:
Not the stones that you skip. Though also those.
And not the stones that you can’t get milk from. Though also those.
But the stones (people and experiences) who come into your life and take you somewhere and then they are gone, and then you cry.
This week I want to look back at some stones from then. But to do this through putting my attention to the beautiful gifts I received from knowing stones, instead of remembering old stories about the unbearable sadness-anguish of goodbye, stone.
Ways this might work:
Asking curious loving questions.
Remembering the truth about excitement from the Book of Qualities.
Maybe it would help to invent some sort of ritual for saying thank you, stone.
Here is a lovely shining piece of truth that Kate told me, and something I have experienced myself many many times: Sometimes stones come back. When you’re ready for them.
I would like to remember that without being attached to it or needing it to be true.
I’m playing with…
Opening my heart and letting the fire inside, to quote J. Ruth Gendler.
Thing 3: Exiting July. Not so much exit as passage.
Here’s what I want:
I love exits. I love them as much or more than entry through preparing for the voyage. I love the spangly Revue. I love reflecting the reflections.
Except I have been avoiding doing this with my month because it seemed like the bookend to Hello, [Month] would be Goodbye, Month.
And I am not doing great with goodbyes right now. Exiting, yes. Saying goodbye, no.
So this needs a new name and a new form.
It needs to be a passage. A crossing.
And no goodbyes. Wishes of faring well. Like in the sea shanties. Fare thee well, my sweet fair maid. Thrive, my love, thrive. Thrive while I cannot be with you.
Not goodbye. I can’t take any more goodbye this year.
Ways this might work:
I am placing this here to find out.
I’m playing with…
Intention. Wanting what I want. Getting clear on the elements of exit that I love, activating those!
And making space for the pieces that still hurt.
In fact, let’s just start the whole damn thing with a long slow MOMENT of let’s-just-burn-it-all-down. Followed by a giant exhale for how much hard was hiding in this month.
Yes, quiet sweet loving acknowledgment is always the best door. Still.
Thing 4: Bells for Havi Bell! Almost-almost!
Here’s what I want:
This Friday is the day.
The process of my bell-ringing is complete, and then I become the bell and get to reverberate with all the qualities.
So. What do I want for this?
Preparing to meet me-of-Friday.
Doing sweet symbolic things for her, setting it up, making things sweet for her.
But mainly: Excitement. Anticipation. Tingle-joy.
Ways this might work:
Beach day, of course.
Going with Lady Chuck to get the things for the baths.
Immersion at the pools.
Writing love letters to Havi Bell about the bells and about all the ways that things can ring right now. Asking her how she wants to be welcomed.
Making all the Isabel jokes. Havi Bell is a bell is a bell is a bell, Isabel. Even though yes, there is sadness in there too. Identity is hard!
Oh! Oh! Look at this post I just found from two years ago called Ringing the Bell.
I’m playing with…
I will dance out the patterns with shiva nata and align all the alignments.
It will be spectacular.
Thing 5: Play-fueled everything!
Here’s what I want:
Let’s make this week run on play.
Pure essence of play. What would that be like? I want to find out.
I know that it involves, like everything else that is important: body, breath, attention, curiosity, open heart. And of course: having words. All the words!
Ways this might work:
Paying attention to what I need and want.
And then finding out how to bring more essence of playful into any situation.
This may require costume changes, and I am fine with that.
I’m playing with…
Dancing it up. Dancing it out. Gazelle state.
Playdate.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.
Oh wow. What a week, you guys.
I asked for big huge heart openings, and that was um…interesting. It happened, and with unanticipated side effects. I talked to my heart every evening, and breathed into it for twenty minutes every morning. When the Tiniest Goodbye That Was The Saddest Ending showed up, I was able to breathe my way through it.
Man, it’s almost like me from a week ago knew how much potential heartache was coming down the tube this week, because she had me exercising to prepare for it. When I asked for this, I didn’t realize how much anguish I would have to encounter, how distraught I would feel, how much I would need it.
But I’m glad I asked. Because it saved my ass this week.
Then I wanted to invite in an unasked question. And that was also very interesting. I pretty much never make an ask that involves someone else, because it just seems super unsovereign. People will do what they want. My asks are about my process, not their actions.
But this ask had to do with how I wanted to ask and receive, and it involved another person doing a thing. Which is sticky. Anyway. I looked at the situation again, and realized it wasn’t so much a question as an unchecked assumption.
And the thing with any conclusion is that once jumped, it will remain unexamined unless there is reason to examine it. It can’t be asked as a question because there is no question in the question.
So. I take back my request and will stay with the part of my ask that is about maintaining sweet receptivity to what is.
Then I wanted writing AND IT HAPPENED! Joyful appreciation!
Playful playing. Shelter for the comments.
What’s welcome: Your own wishes, gwishes, visions and personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.
Here or on your own or in your head. It’s all fine. Or call silent retreat!
I’m receptive to warm wishes for the things I’m working on and playing with.
If you’re looking for suggestions or heart-sighs or anything else related to your wish, you will need to ask for that because our default mode is giving each other space and spaciousness for the process.
This is a place of safety for creative play and exploration, with a very non-dogmatic approach. We don’t tell each other how to ask for things and we don’t give unsolicited advice. We make space for people’s wishes.
That’s it. Let’s throw a bunch of things in the pot!
As always, amnesty applies. Leave a wish here any time you want.
xox
Friday Chicken #208: Lighting a candle.
In which I cover the good stuff and the hard stuff in my week, trying for the non-preachy, non-annoying side of ritual and self-reflection.
And you get to join in if you feel like it.
Mmmmm. Friday.
Wow, that was a week, wasn’t it.
I am lighting a candle.
For everything that fizzled and died, for everything (well, internal hope-filled sparks of potential) that came into being, and for the things that are unresolved. Just marking the moment.
The hard stuff
The death of the most important ritual and the Giant Misunderstanding.
After all that stuff I went through last week processing the loss of rituals, I had been secretly comforting myself with the thought that hey at least the most important one isn’t going anywhere.
And then it did. It disappeared in the most abrupt and alarming way, with no warning.
This resulted in the day of the Giant Misunderstanding. I felt lost, at a loss, not sure where or how, what to say, which door to look for. And then six days later it resulted in the Giant Understanding. Which was somehow worse. I mean, better. But worse.
Having to work work work on the weekend.
It all needed to happen so that the pirate crew was prepared for us to open, and to get things ready for Rally (Rally!) on Monday, but good god I hate working on the weekend.
Plus/and/related: this coincided with an unbearable headache of doom.
A worry about a thing and, of course, I cannot do anything about it.
Waiting it out. Bringing it to the fountain and throwing things into the pot, and wish-hoping.
But it feels really frustrating. I feel uncomfortable when things are in the air, and this is a really big thing. And there is a lot of In The Air.
A lot of air, in general, really. Yes.
Hello, all this air. Hello, endless skies. We will figure this out.
One pattern down, the next round .
Okay, morning pellet pattern is totally resolved. That is HUGE. Yes. But 5pm-ish pellet pattern was still problematic….
Here is what I noticed.
When I am tired, I don’t prepare for the voyage and then there is no entry because I’m not in the mood, and then all I want is to push for pellets.
The pattern of the Sunday Night sadness.
My god this has been going on for years, hasn’t it.
Agonizing over the same old thing.
It’s a hard hard stupid-hard road, loving someone who struggles with addiction and struggles with recovery and just struggles, period. I don’t wish this on anyone.
This week I was in my stuff about their stuff. Love was important (it always is), and it was tinged with so much pain.
I did shiva nata for this every day and that helped, for long stretches of time at least, which is movement. Old pain, old pain, old pain. Hello, goodbye.
Canceled my trip to Boston.
I had been looking forward to this so very much. It isn’t going to happen.
The internal monster collective is absolutely rejoicing over this. They’ve been whispering “pipe dream pipe dream” the entire time, and now they are having the most enthusiastic parade of all time.
With streamers and dancing on floats. And troll trance music. Doonsk doonsk doonsk! Oh, sorry: reference.
It’s a gigantic I Told You So themed parade, and they are filled with delight over having saved me from all that potential doom and despair.
Oh, you guys. I love how much you love me. And this does not mean that you are right.
The sad, sad, saddest goodbye.
Everything reconfigures. Everything reconfigures. Everything reconfigures.
The good stuff
The giant misunderstanding: resolved!
Of course. I forgot about the superpower of Everything That Seems To Be Wrong Is Just A Misunderstanding.
And also that misunderstandings can be untangled with love and gentleness.
This one was untangled. It turned out to have been a fluke of technology. The thing I wanted to happen had already happened while I was mourning it not happening.
So there’s that. I would like to remember that. Let all the crossed wires be returned to their homes. Thank you.
Friday Playdate.
Lovely.
Exactly what I needed.
The Hush Hush Pirate Crew Rendezvous was a smashing success.
This was the 90 minute thing I ran on Saturday for the people who help me run Stompopolis. Also I ran an experiment and it worked.
We had fun. We laughed. We sparkled. We made things magical.
We did outrageously transformational shiva nata with the following words: 1. Brilliance. 2. Rainbows. 3. Majesty. 4. Revealing. 5. Expansiveness. 6. Exuberance. 7. Tingle-joy. 8. Alignment.
Doing Level 3 with those revealed (yes) all sorts of things, and we aligned with the tingle-joy in exuberant ways, as predicted.
Also we frolicked and blew bubbles and pretended that the floor was lava and that the orange mats turn you into zombies but the purple ones turn you back.
It was the best.
Sometimes I get all stressed out about Being The Director Of An Institution, but since this is what we do instead of having meetings? I am actually okay with it. And we sang.
And we rang secret bells and then the entire world lit up and sparkled. That sounds impossibly cheesy, but it is PURE TRUTH.
Zombie Thriller! Qu’est-ce que c’est.
Fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa fa far better…
That’s me channeling Michael Jackson and the Talking Heads at the same time for practicing Zombie Thriller. As you probably know, nothing makes me happier than dancing it up to fabulous choreography.
We had Thriller dance practice in the park. It was awesome. Plus you can sing it to Psycho Killer. Zombie Thriller! Qu’est-ce que c’est. Run run run run run run run away…
Yes. Well. I don’t know that anyone does that but me. I think it’s just me. Who cares. I can’t wait for October. Thrill the World and the Portland Zombie Walk are going to be so amazing. Again.
Meeting an old pattern with love.
The old Sunday night sadness from then hit.
And I saw it for what it was.
And I was at the Hidden Playground, so I took my body to the red rug so we could do yoga together.
What followed was the sweetest and most loving two hours of my entire life. Every single moment was the pure essence of love and trust. It felt like my body could release anything, contain anything, always love me more.
This is not usually the way my body and I feel about each other, it was new and deep and a word that is maybe a cousin to “special” but a word that I haven’t learned yet.
Then Toozday and Thursday night I also did playground yoga with Lady Chuck and it was also incredible. Stuff. It is moving.
Repatterning. Lots and lots and lots of repatterning
Thanks to lots of outrageously impossibly beautiful shiva nata craziness, and the magic of Rally (Rally!) this week.
I gave pellet pattern a lot of loving attention this week and learned all sorts of useful things that are changing everything.
I said goodbye to a thing that needed saying goodbye to, and I said hello to the anguish that accompanied that goodbye, and I was courageous and loving instead of running away or hiding or writhing in pain and resentment. This is new and big.
What else? I called bullshit on the Script of Helplessness and What-if. I called on the internal scientists to review the data and demonstrate to the monster collective that actually things are fine.
I came to an understanding. I am done with old narratives. I am returning to truth. Everything that appears to be against me is an illusion.
See also: the ongoing working hypothesis that everything that goes wrong mainly goes wrong because of either lack of sleep and resultant Zombie Day (™) or because of Desperately In Need Of Shower. Evidence is pointing in this direction.
Yes. There’s also that.
I had another hard conversation, two of them, and I am getting better at this.
I am getting so much better at initiating these awful conversations of pain and hashing-out and endings.
And I’m not waiting for weeks to psych myself up for it, just doing it. And not damaging my body with all the stress.
Well, okay, horrible heat rash of doom this week that no one could see but that I couldn’t stop thinking about. But it’s still less wear and tear on my body than this has been in the past.
I am the Chief Congruencing Officer!
And I don’t really have anything to add to that.
It was exactly the right job for me this week.
Writing. Back. Oh, voice.
Something broke open for me this week in a big and important way.
Thank you, Rally.
I wrote a blog post. I wrote a Shiva Nata blog post. Two of them, actually. Only one is up right now. The one about how Shiva Nata saved my life three times, and not metaphorically. Though also. Of course also.
But that is not the point. The point is: I have words! Again. To share. With you.
UNBELIEVABLE. UNBELIEVABLE. I am writing again, I am writing again! I am saying everything twice, I am saying everything twice!
Rally! Rally Rally Rally Rally Rally Rally Rally.
Oh. My. God. There are not enough exclamation points to exclaim about Rally.
And how unbelievably amazing Rally is. (Rally! Come to Rally!).
Oh this group. The fun, the laughter, the hilarity, the importance, the breakthroughs, the wonder, the delight, the sparkling sparkling of all of it. YES. Yes to this Rally.
This was the 22nd Rally in a row. I was pretty much expecting it to be incredible. But mind still blown. And heart blown open.
Also we invented secret Rally sign language. So now we have special signs for Yay! and Zing! and CLARITY.
Flow! Zoom! Zing! Stuff like that.
I got outrageous amounts of work done this week because Rally did a magic on me and I was IN THE ZONE.
Sparks were sparking. Everything worked.
Finding all the right clews.
Trusting. Trusting some more.
Everything reconfigures.
And, fortunately for me, when I remember, this is my expertise. Reconfiguring.
I teach it and I live it and I dance it out with shiva nata every day, so really if you think about it, no one is better equipped than I am to deal with this particular reconfiguration.
I can deal with not-Boston. I can deal with endings. I can deal with all of this. I have the resources and I know how to return to the source, and this is going to be okay. I don’t have to know how it’s going to work. I just have to keep doing what I know.
Playing live at the meme beach house — it’s the Fake Band of the Week!
Background? Ez and I make up bands. Stu (retired Bolshevik-fearing voice-to-text software) once translated “people will hate me and be jealous” to “they’ll hang out at my Meme Beach House“. It’s just one guy.
This week’s band showed up at Rally this week, much to our collective surprise.
They were there promoting their debut album which is called There Is A Lot Of Vacuuming In The Fortress, and which is sure to be a smashing success.
The band’s name?
Non Linear Ooze.
Though, of course, it’s really just one guy.
And with thanks to Elizabeth!
Hallo Hallo! I am saying Hallo Hallo. Announcement time.
Picture me wearing that crazy hat…
I have to highly recommend the monster coloring book. It worked several miracles this week for everyone at Rally. And for me.
That’s it for me …
Join my Friday ritual in the comments if you feel like it. Or call silent retreat!
We let people have their own experience. We’re supportive and welcoming. And we don’t give advice (unless people specifically ask for it).
Wishing you a glorrrrrrrrrrrrious day, a restful weekend and a happy week to come.
I am lighting my candle. You can light one with me if you want.
p.s. It’s fine if it’s not Friday anymore. There’s complete chicken amnesty — join in whenever (or not) and it’s no big deal.
When you take on the sadness of the world.
A small and important thing I need to say today.
You do not have to take on the sadness of the world.
Oh, dear heart.
You do not have to take on the sadness of the world.
You just don’t.
You don’t need to carry it. You don’t need to hold it.
That’s not your job, sweetie.
Endnotes.
- All sadness and pain are legitimate, of course. We feel what we feel, and we are allowed to feel it.
- Not holding onto the pain of people or places does not mean you have to give it back to them or that they will now have more of it. That is a distortion.
- You can give the world’s sadness to the fountain. Or into the pot. Or to give it to the pool or the trees. Or to the magical elevator shaft that lives at the Hidden Playground.
- This is not the same as “leave your baggage at the door.” Not at all. You are always allowed to have your baggage. We learn about it and play with it and discover what is true about it and what is also true. This is about releasing pain that does not belong to you.
- It means undoing instead of absorbing. It means staying in your space so you can bring strength and love to every encounter, including encounters with pain that is not yours.
- Sometimes sadness that is not yours will remind you of the sadness that is yours. It is true that we all have sadness. However, these are not the same. Separate out. Don’t agree to let sadness amplify sadness. You can meet the sadness that is yours and still release the sadness that is theirs.
- Sometimes memories of sadness from then make the sadness from now feel louder or more all-encompassing. Now Is Not Then.
- Safe rooms can help. Or making tiny homes for the parts of you currently experiencing amplified sadness. Another way of coming back to truth.
- This piece of radiant truth, like so many, is brought to you by self-fluency, being a clear conduit for knowing all the deep internal knowings. If that sounds thrilling, yes. If that sounds terrifying, I’m right there with you. Having superpowers is both harder and easier than it sounds.
- These are hard times. We make room for the experiences that come up in hard times.
- LOVE.
Responding. The blanket fort of response.
I am currently receiving: heart-sighs, smiles.
You can plant a tree for the sadness or for someone else who is in sadness. You can spark sparks. You can light a stick of imaginary incense that smells exactly the way you like and let it burn away the sadness that is not yours. Or to burn away the old habit-pattern of needing to absorb what is not yours.
You can silent retreat or leave tiny little pebbles.
You can pour tears into the fountain. That is what it is there for. Or if your sadness is Colorado’s sadness, you could give it to the mountains. They know what to do.
Or they might. I am imagining that they do.
Above all else, this is a place of safety and love. Non-dogmatic autonomous play-filled safety and love.
Visions #158: Open heart of spaciousness and tingle-joy, I am here to meet you, hello.
Personal ads. They’re … personal! Very.
Each week I write these Visions of Possibility and Anticipation to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted.
I always get useful information about my relationship with various aspects of the ask. Join in if you like!
This is funny. I had a plan for this post. I wanted to write about all the things I want to write about.
But really of course that is related to this intense heart process that I am going through right now. So let’s start there instead.
Thing 1: hello, heart.
Here’s what I want:
Okay. Background.
Big surprising changes in my heart right now. Like it’s cracking open. But in a really good way. And then everything I need is in there.
I’m experiencing bliss and then grief and then receptivity and release. In cycles. And then I come back to this very beautiful space of tingle-joy.
It is lovely. Even the parts that are painful. And that is something new for me, being able to find sweetness inside of the painful.
And my body! My body just wants to heart-open heart-open heart-open all day long. In all the years of teaching yoga and my body as my home, I have never liked backbends. I do them, but not happily.
Lately all I want to do is bend back. Wheel pose! In the morning! When I wake up! And then all day long. Just opening opening opening into heart heart heart and more heart. This is outrageously unlike me.
My posture is changing. I mean, I always stood tall because of dance, but now everything is different. When I walk I am a breathing heart. When I sleep I am a breathing heart. I feel it. But I can’t explain it better than that.
So I guess what I want is for this process to continue and deepen, to receive whatever it is that I am receiving and to integrate that. Yes. And to remember how completely shining-new and amazing this feels, even as I get used to being the person who lives like this. May it be so!
Ways this might work:
Twenty minutes talking to my heart, like I did this morning.
Visiting all the secret rooms.
Remembering.
Using this as another form of conscious entry.
I’m playing with…
Commitment to this crazy-ass experience and wherever it is taking me, I guess. How about that. Okay. What the hell. Let’s try that.
Thing 2: The unasked question. Invite it in.
Here’s what I want:
There is someone who wants to ask me a question. Well, yes, everyone wants to ask me questions, but there is a particular person with a particular question.
This person has not asked it because (not sure, this part is a guess) maybe they think it’s too personal? Or maybe just anxious about the answer.
Or maybe they don’t even know it’s knocking so loudly because they don’t know they have the question. Hmm. That’s a possibility too.
Right now this question is hovering.
Directly above my left shoulder. I am asking it to land.
Normally questions just get batted away before they even approach my force field but this one got in. So it seems to be important.
The person holding this question for me needs to just ask it.
—> CONFIDENTIAL TO N: Just ask. You are gifted with two secret verbs. You can do this. Put it into words.
I would just give you the answer right now but the question is veiled. And it seems like the unveiling of it has to be done by you. I’m not sure why but that is what I’m getting.
Ways this might work:
The question could show itself.
Safety could be made for questions that don’t want to show themselves yet.
I can stay in my heart and be present with both the idea of the question and with the idea that maybe this person will not ask the question and that it might keep hovering.
Even though yes, I would rather just know what the question is. I might not get what I want.
I’m playing with…
Here is my commitment:
I will take the question into a room that exists just for that purpose, and I will respond with the most open-hearted answer that emerges. How’s that?
And if the question does not want to unveil itself, then I will take that into the room as well.
The room is there.
Thing 3: Here we are. Wanting to write.
Here’s what I want:
I am doing so much writing!
But I am not putting it here. For a variety of reasons.
I would like to return to sharing small bits and pieces from the sea of stories with you.
Ways this might work:
Taking precautions. Safety first. Secret agent code!
Possibly some alligatoroos. We’ll see.
I’m playing with…
Expansiveness. Vulnerability. Trust. Rebirth. Experimentation. Exuberance.
Thing 4: And: The things I want to write.
Here’s what I want:
Oh, so many things. Some want to be written down. Some to be written up. Some to be written to. Some to be written about.
Such as…
- The notes from the Hush Hush Pirate Crew Rendezvous that we had to prepare for the opening of Stompopolis. These are to be given to the Noodler who will put them up on the Crew Plum.
- The list of new elements for the series that is temporarily being called Things I Want To Say That I Am Not Saying.
- And then saying them! Saying the things that I want to say, but as part of this series. Which I have been doing anyway, but making this more formal. Opening the Chronicles for it with Max Buquere.
- Notes about Having Words.
- Invocation for visiting the box, again.
- The orange ones are lava! And other tiny bits and pieces. The moon of murmuring.
- Some notes for the next chickening! About this weekend!
- When Play Becomes Rigidity.
- Things About Communication!
- The stompy notes that need to be added to either a) the magical portal, b) the crew plumlet, c) the actual plumlet!
And somehow these pieces will also help me finish the Stompopolis website. They just will. It is an entire field of fractal flowers.
Ways this might work:
Sets of ten.
Ten and ten and ten and ten.
I’m playing with…
Sparking all the sparks.
Progress report on past Very Personal Ads.
Just to update you on what’s happened since last time.
Let’s see. I wanted progress with the Million Trillion Things. And that sort of happened and sort of didn’t. It was a busy week. But I did finally-finally wash my hair. So there’s that.
I do feel more calm about all the things. That part seems good.
I also wanted ideas for 28 days of ringing the bells. That is another thing I want to make a list of. Havi is a bell. We rang lots of bells at the Hush Hush Pirate Crew Rendezvous this weekend. That was a good start. Heart-start.
Interesting, interesting. I wanted 30 ways to think about wine (proxy!) and did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING with this. Or is that true? I need to think about this one and then re-ask it. Fascinating.
And mainly I wanted a perfect simple solution to a challenge, and I might have one. Maybe. Staying hope-filled. Spark-spark!
Playful playing. Shelter for the comments. Alligatoroos. /—{^~^}
What’s welcome: Your own wishes, gwishes, visions and personal ads, small or large. Updates on past ones if you like.
Here or on your own or in your head. It’s all fine. Or call silent retreat!
I’m receptive to warm wishes for the things I’m working on and playing with.
If you’re looking for suggestions or heart-sighs or anything else related to your wish, you will need to ask for that because our default mode is giving each other space and spaciousness for the process.
This is a place of safety for creative play and exploration, with a very non-dogmatic approach. We don’t tell each other how to ask for things and we don’t give unsolicited advice. We make space for people’s wishes.
That’s it. Let’s throw a bunch of things in the pot!
As always, amnesty applies. Leave a wish here any time you want.
xox