by Havi Brooks | Jan 11, 2011 | my personal practice
This is me, talking to myself. Using the question that almost always helps. What’s true? So tired! What’s also true? This is a pattern. Craving rest is legitimate. There are reasons for being tired. It’s okay. Rest is the first duty of the queen....
by Havi Brooks | Jan 5, 2011 | stucknesses & stuckification
Or: the difference between process and actual destuckifying. When people set off on the trail of destuckification, it often happens that they hit the Grinding Your Wheels In The Mud phase. What wheel-grinding looks and sounds like: Looping conversations in our head,...
by Havi Brooks | Oct 18, 2010 | not hating on yourself
The message I got from my brain yesterday (my post-flailing newly-descrambled charged-up brain) was as follows: Replace worry. To which I said, huh? And then I got this: Replace worry with curiosity. Curiosity. I like this so much. And here’s why. It’s...
by Havi Brooks | Oct 6, 2010 | stucknesses & stuckification
There is the why that is about self-inquiry. It is inquisitive. It expresses genuine curiosity. “Huh. I wonder what elements combined to get me here.” Then there’s the why that is really asking why the hell am I like this and not the way I want to be...
by Havi Brooks | Apr 11, 2010 | my personal practice
I said goodbye to some things over the past few days, and it has been less than fun. And I’ve been thinking about loss in various permutations. The loss of something that can’t come back. Someone asked me this week what I did when my friend died. And I...
