What's in the gallery?
We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.
We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**
* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.
** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.
What's in the gallery?
We dissolve stuck and rewrite patterns. We apply radical playfulness to life (when we feel like it!), embarking on internal adventures (credo of Safety First). We have a fake band called Solved By Cake. We build invisible sanctuaries, invent words and worlds, breathe awe and wonder.
We are not impressed by monsters. Except when we are. We explore the connections between internal territories and surrounding environment to learn what marvelously supportive delicious space feels like, and how to take exquisite care of ourselves. We transform things.* We glow wild.**
* For example: Desire, fear, worry, pain-and-trauma, boundaries, that problematic word which rhymes with flaweductivity.
** Fair warning: Self-fluency has been known to lead to extremely subversive behavior, including treasuring yourself unconditionally, unapologetically taking up space, experiencing outrageously improbable levels of self-acceptance, and general rejoicing in aliveness.
Son of a blog!
So somehow blogging star Liz Strauss stumbled upon (whoah, saying that makes me think maybe this happened through StumbleUpon) my baby blog, and blessed it with the stamp of official successfulness.
Whoops, it’s not a stamp. It’s a badge. A badge of achievement.
Man, I feel like a boyscout who just won a patch for general coolness. Would you like to see it? Would you?
Here it is:
SOB stands for Successful and Outstanding Blogger (that’s me, apparently), and that’s pretty trippy.
Also now I’m basically doing all I can to avoid making any jokes about “sob stories”, “sob-baticals”, and those poor SOBs who aren’t “successful, outstanding bloggers”. It’s not really working.
But whatever, the important points here are:
1. My duck and I won a thing! (Admittedly Selma is not as impressed as I am, but then she’s been in full-force diva mode ever since she was interviewed on German television).
2. We’re in really, really good company. Like, The Growing Life. Awesome.
3. Thanks so, so much to Liz Strauss for zeroing in on the Fluent Self blog as something deserving of recognition. Cool beans! My diva duck and I will try to live up to SOB-ishness in all its forms, or at least one of them.
Anyway, you can see the list of fellow SOBs at Liz’s blog. I guess I need to finish up this impromptu speech before my duck and I get yanked off the stage with a giant hook, but thanks to everyone who reads this thing for all your love and support and comments and …
You guys are the best!
Don’t bother taking a deep breath
If you’ve ever found yourself in a meltdown moment, you know how annoying it is when someone says, “Breathe”.
Because when you’re freaking the heck out, other people’s advice usually seems stupid and irrelevant — just in general, and then all the more so in your specific semi-hellish situation.
When the thing you really think you need is either a tranquilizer or more chairs to throw at the wall, the idea of taking a deep breath is just not all that appealing. The value isn’t obvious.
And instructions to breathe if you don’t happen to be in a yoga class — and let’s assume your freakout moment is not happening in a yoga class — can come across as condescending.
You already are breathing. You have bigger and better things to worry about. Being told “breathe, breathe, breathe” by somebody who’s sitting there being all calm is really just an invitation to punch them in the face.
Why you need more than boring “take a breath” advice.
I know, this is probably sounding weird if you happen know that my duck and I are yoga professionals. Yeah, okay, we do spend quite a bit of time doing breathing exercises with people. Among other things.
I don’t want to speak for Selma here but I personally am not, god forbid, anti-breath.
It’s just that the “taking a breath” solution is only a partial solution — a half truth. It’s not the whole picture.
And what really rubs me the wrong way is how people often seem to think that just telling you to take a breath is the same as giving you a technique.
It’s not.
Taking a deep breath — or several deep breaths — can be incorporated into a technique. It can be the thing that gives you a second of pause that reminds you to use a technique. But — all by its lonesome — it’s not a technique.
And yet when you look up calming techniques, “just take a breath” is always at the top of the list.
Why people keep trying to make you breathe:
Well, aside from “they don’t know any better” and “not everyone has access to really useful techniques”, the most important thing to remember is that they’re trying to help.
Maybe it’s worked for them. Maybe they just don’t know what to say.
Whatever.
The good news is that — with a little work and doing two specific little things — you can transform the whole “taking a breath” thing into a technique that will actually work for you too. Will it become the best of all possible calming techniques? Meh.
But at least it will be something you can actually use instead of something that gets on your nerves.
The two things you have to do if you’re going to use breathing as a way to come back from freakout-land …
1. Combine with logical reasoning.
You have to remind yourself why you’re doing this. Logically. It’s got to make sense or you won’t do it.
Luckily, there is a scientific reason for why deep breathing can calm you down, and if you consciously focus on that reason, it reminds you to:
a. do it already
b. keep doing it
c. stop being annoyed about being told to take a breath, and
d. keep your brain involved in the process.
Here’s it is. Your brain is multi-lingual but its mother tongue is waves. Brainwaves.
The movement of your breath occurs in wave form too. If you were hooked up to a machine, your breath would be measured in waves.
The brain will always, always, always “read” and synchronize itself to whatever waves are around. Your breath will do the same.
That’s why you breathe faster when you’re upset — the choppy breath waves are reflecting your stressed-out brain. And when you consciously slow down the breath, you’re influencing that same process from the other side.
The more smooth and steady the waves of the breath, the more peaceful the brainwaves. Your brain then tells the rest of your system to chill.
If you know this, it’s very, very helpful to consciously remind yourself that this is why you’re doing some deep breathing instead of smacking the messenger.
I usually say something to myself like “Okay, let’s see if we can direct these breathwaves to help quiet down that brain chaos a little.”
If that’s not helping I might just say “Science works, bitches!“*
*If you don’t know what I’m talking about — or are horribly offended — please read this article where I first explain and then apologize to my mom.
Basically logic (and humor!): always a good idea. You probably already have a good sense of what type of information or persuasion works for you. Use it.
2. Make the process conscious.
It’s not enough to just take a breath or two. You want to breathe consciously — paying a ton of attention to the process.
Maybe you add counting to the mix (inhale on a count of four, exhale on a count of four). Maybe you add a tiny pause after the exhale. Maybe you imagine a color flowing in with the inhale and washing out with the exhale.
The point is, you’re not just taking a breath. You’re bringing all of your focus to that process.
You’re paying attention to the life force.
You’re intentionally bringing in new stuff and letting out the old stuff.
Now that you’re slightly more calm, start adding to your repertoire.
Yay, you did some breathing and you’re slightly more calm. But as I mentioned, breathing alone isn’t enough.
What is enough? Well, it isn’t about enough because it’s never going to be enough, but there’s definitely more out there.
Absorb information. Read the book Train Your Mind Change Your Brain. Read lots of books. Do yoga. Try Dance of Shiva (wacky yoga brain training).
Hang out with people who meditate. Learn more about brain science, about nutrition, about physiology.
Make the working-on-your-stuff process a big, crazy life priority.
Obviously, I would also recommend using at least a couple of the ten techniques in my Emergency Calming Techniques Destuckification Package, any one of which will point and laugh at “take a breath” and then proceed to thoroughly kick its ass.
Okay, kids. What have we learned?
Forget the idea that “take a breath” — on its own — is a legitimate piece of advice for someone who is having a moment. Start paying attention to what you need when you’re having a moment.
And then, yeah, breathe into it. Because your breath is always there for you, even when it’s not the only thing that’s there for you, and even when you’re not in the mood to appreciate it.
Because, when you use it consciously and intentionally, it’s good stuff.
Yes, it’s a paradox (I told you I come from the yoga world) but at the very least it might keep you from clocking the next person who reminds you to breathe.
[Edit: Whoah, my mistake. Thanks to my friend Eran for pointing out where my gentleman friend and I got the fabulously inappropriate phrase “Science works, bitches!” from. I heart xkcd.com (for the record). Eran now has totally earned the right to dance around and yell “Moral highground, bitches!”]
Email subscription weirdness (Feedburner technical thingie)
Weird blog-wackiness tech issue #2807. Or something.
Okay, I’m relatively new to the gentle art of blogging-it-up, so technical snags are not out of order, but this one kinda floored me. Actually it was the “how hard it was to find a good answer” part that floored me.
Normally I wouldn’t post about this stuff at all because there are a million blogs-about-blogging which cover technical weirdnesses and what to do about them. But I had this issue and my usual solution (ask the google gods!) wasn’t cutting it.
So just in case you need it.
The issue.
Got the following email from a reader:
“I haven’t been getting my email posts from you because my Inbox was full. Feedburner says I need to ask you to ‘unpause’ my subscription?”
My first reaction was: “How bizarre!”
Of course I was so busy boggling at the concept of a “full inbox” (seriously, people still have full inboxes?) that it took me a minute to be confused about the pausing/unpausing thing.
Now I’m not exactly the most power-user-ey of power users, but I can find stuff. I just don’t enjoy it. That’s because I’m a humanities nerd and not the kind that likes to fix things.
Seriously, searching forum environments has to be the most boring thing ever for me.
But curiosity got the better of the “let your assistant do stuff you hate” rule. So off to mess around with the Feedburner forum.
Mmm, not helpful. So I googled up a storm to see if other people had this happen. They did, but weren’t clear on what to do about it.
Back to the forum to do the Advanced search thing (oooh, advanced) and found the solution.
Anyway, here’s what you do (troubleshooting).
If you subscribe to someone’s blog via email and you stopped getting posts because of a full inbox, send a quick note to the person who writes the blog.
And do them a favor and link to this post so they don’t have to waste energy wading through the forum.
If you publish a blog and someone’s email subscription has been ‘paused’ because their inbox is too full, yes, it’s weird that you should have to be the one to fix this, but baby, that’s how it is.
It turns out it’s your job to resume their subscription yourself. That is, of course, only if someone lets you know they’re not getting your stuff any more and aren’t happy about it.
So: you log into Feedburner and do the following:
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Publicize (top tabs) –>
- Email subscription (side tabs) –>
- Subscription management –>
- View subscriber details (bottom of page) –>
- Click on the clock-wise arrow thing-ey to reactivate.
That’s it.
Re-activation complete.
(To be said in sultry James Bond girl futuristic robot voice)
And yeah, if you subscribe to blogs and your inbox is full, now is the time to fix that. Raise your fists to the heavens and ask: “Why didn’t you make me get a gmail account like, four years ago?”
When you’re done raging at the cruelty of the world, release those sad regrets and get that gmail account so you can have all your mail forward there. No more full inbox.
Thus ends the tech “advice” portion of this blog. Though I must say I was totally happy that the person who had this problem was distressed enough at missing my blog updates to write to me to let me know (awesome).
Anyway, I need to go do some Dance of Shiva to recharge my brain and clear out the Feedburner residue.
Hey people who care about stuff like this: write about it so I don’t have to!
In the sincere hope that we won’t have to cover stuff like this again so that I can go back to talking about patterns and habits and how to change them,
I remain
Your devoted Servant, etc,
Havi
(and Selma the duck)
Are you in the tribe? Seth Godin wants to know.
Hey, know what? Seth Godin, [insert your own incoherent gushing statement of fandom here], is — no surprise to anyone who reads his stuff — doing something interesting.
Observe, please, the power of Seth.
If it were anyone else I’d think “Hmm, interesting gimmick”. Or: “Nice try, I’m still not buying your book.” When it’s Seth Godin, though, I never think gimmick. In fact, I automatically assume “intelligent, well-considered, ballsy experiment”. Because, you know, that’s his thing.
Oh, right. Let me tell you what I’m talking about
The thing Seth Godin is doing here doesn’t seem all that exciting if you don’t have background information. At first glance, it basically looks like a new experimental social network for learning and sharing information. For people who own his new book Tribes.
And yeah, if anyone else were behind it, most people would think, “Oh, boy. Another boring, lame time-waster-ey thing.”
But this is different because there are already thousands and thousands of smart, creative, thinking people who consciously work with Seth’s ideas and concepts. That’s why it’s legitimate to hope — and even expect — that this Tribe-ey thing of his could actually be an interesting, exciting place to hang out.
I’m game. In fact, I’m totally looking forward to seeing what happens.
But never mind the thing itself. Right now the interesting thing is thinking about the creative way he’s promoting it.
As far as I’m concerned — and yeah, no one’s asked me yet, but that’s the fun of self-publishing, I get to share my theories with all and sundry — he got a couple things really, really right. And maybe two things somewhat less than right.
Still admire the hell out of him. You know that’s a given, right? Okay, moving on.
Shall we?
Smart thing #1: achievable but palpable barrier to entry
If you’re going to ask people to become members of something, part of your success depends on creating a just high enough barrier to entry so that people want to work for it. A little. Not too much.
In this case there are a couple things.
- Pre-ordering the book
- Sending the electronic receipt as proof of purchase
This is actually two things. One is the money. The other is that you’re buying a book without knowing anything about what’s in it, just that you want it because Seth Godin wrote it. You do.
Okay, admittedly it’s not a lot of work but this is the land of internets and on the internets (“on the emails“, if you’re my mother) we don’t like doing things that make us work.
C’mon, we don’t even like clicking on a link if it doesn’t seem like it’s going to give us hard-core value for that nanosecond of “work”.
I’ve said this a million times but here goes again:
Asking someone to click on a link is the online equivalent of asking them to cross the street, walk two blocks, and pick you up a loaf of bread and a carton of milk.
Same goes for emailing someone an electronic receipt. Especially when you have to copy-paste in the address by hand (uphill both ways!) because it’s going to an address you’ve never corresponded with before.
Is this absurd? Possibly. But baby, that’s how it is. We don’t like to work. Sort of how we don’t like people to make us think, but more so.
Smart thing #2: help people feel extra special
Obviously if you want a members-only environment, you’re going to have to make it seem special. So it’s really more about how you help them feel privileged to be enjoying exclusive, cool, member-ey things. Things that they’d want.
- Numbered membership (works on desire to be visibly cool)
- Scarcity (works on fear of losing out or of being left out)
- Chance to win free stuff (works on the “we’re suckers for free stuff” gene)
Invites are sent out in batches. Numbers are visible. As Seth explains, low numbers = “prestige, first dibs on various assets and bragging rights”. But everyone knows that bragging rights is the biggest.
He’s “letting” you buy his book, sight unseen now and getting the privilege to join his thing until August 10th and then it’s over.
“Members of the tribe” (aside: am I the only one who automatically associates this phrase with people who read Heeb magazine?) are in the running to win free tickets to a launch event/presentation thing in New York …. and then there is the vague promise of “a few other goodies”.
Again, if this were a big corporation, you’d probably be turned off by some amorphous “and more!”
But you know the goodies will be legit. And anyway, at this point you’re already thinking about how you are going to buy the book anyway so you might as well check out his Tribe-ey thing.
I mean, at the very worst, you’ll have something interesting to blog about.
Less-than-cool thing #1: Allow room for confusion
There’s a FAQ (not a mistake, good idea). And on the FAQ you see a graphic of the website-to-come. It’s called Triiibes.com.
Thing is, I read it (and I know I’m not the only one) as Triiibe.com.
Because the thing that stuck out was “Hey, three ‘i’s! Don’t forget three ‘i’s!” The thing that didn’t stick out was the ‘s’ on the end. I know, the book is called Tribes, but I hadn’t seen the book yet when I was at the FAQ.
Anyway, Triiibe.com (three ‘i’s, no ‘s’) is already a thing. A sloooow-loading website whose Triiibe is a “collective founded in 2006 by performance artists Alicia, Sara and Kelly Casilio (identical triplets) …”
That was when I stopped reading because my interest in performance art trends towards non-existent, though — given the amount of time I spend in Berlin — my opinion does seem to be moving slowly but steadily from apathetic to semi-antagonistic.
Anyway, if I made that mistake, lots of people will make that mistake. Either don’t give away the name of your top-secret invite-only site or make it really, really easy to get there.
Less-than-cool thing #2: Promote ginormous companies, some of whom who are the antithesis of the stuff you teach
Amazon. Barnes and Noble. Borders. Dude.
This goes not just for Seth Godin but for lots of biggifiers out there.
Guys. Your whole work is successful because it helps small, quirky, good-for-the-world business owners do their cool, unique thing and put it out there. We appreciate that. But then you drink coffee at Starbucks and send us to Amazon to buy your stuff.
Live by example. You’re trying to help us be the non-Walmart, the non-box, the non-mainstream-conventional option, right? Support those options in the real world. Encourage us to support those options.
Your words inspire people. Your actions have impact. People who admire you might end up making more socially responsible decisions just because they think you’re cool. That’s power. Use it.
What’s the point of having powers if you’re not going to use them for good?
Yes, on the FAQ, there was one tiny link (the last one) to the independent bookstores option. Why not make that the first option? Most people will buy from Amazon anyway. But at least make it clear where your support lies.
I pre-ordered Seths’ book Tribes from Powells.com. Yes, it was more expensive. And yes, that kinda sucks. And yes, I’ll give an extra couple of dollars to support a company that’s in line with my values. And — in my case, at least — also local.
Whatever, I can buy one book fewer this year. The point is, living by what you teach is important.
I know that Seth Godin and I have all sorts of shared values because reading all his books has made it clear that he cares deeply — and thinks deeply — about stuff that’s important to me.
So come on, bump up the Buy independent link to the top of the list. Lose a little on your Amazon ranking. It won’t be the end of the world.
And the lesson for the day is …
I’m not sure if there is one. I bought the book. Seriously looking forward to reading it.
But even more, I’m looking forward to some intense and interesting conversations about what it means to be part of a tribe, to create a tribe, and to take risks and do creative stuff in ways that other people wouldn’t.
Because that’s where the learning happens. And really, it’s all about the learning.
Ask Havi #5: The “let’s talk about nazis” edition
Okay … can I just say that the questions I’m getting in my inbox are getting steadily randomer and randomer.
And yet, I’m having fun giving them some thought.
Just so as not to confuse anyone reading this post:
The blog is (generally speaking) supposed to be about patterns and habits and how to change them. And (more specifically) how to use that information to put yourself out there and grow that cool thing you do.
Why? Because a. that’s my field of expertise and b. that’s what interests me.
Today’s Ask Havi takes us slightly off topic. Well, way off topic. But not really.
Because — luckily for NW who sent me this question — I can relate just about anything to patterns and habits. And nazis.
What can I say. It’s a gift.
Here’s the question, just so we’re all on the same page.
My husband and I are planning a first visit ever to Germany in September. He has a conference at the University of Heidelberg. We’ll only be there a few days and then on to another conference. I would love some “When visiting Germany advice ….”
I’m a bit nervous about the whole Germany visit because of family myths (or realities) — my father’s family were all Germans until the Nazis kicked them out — to put it nicely.
My father was never able to allow himself to visit Germany again — he felt a huge loss, understandably … but some of his sadness/resentment may have conditioned me a bit. Still, I am really, really looking forward to this trip.
Any travel advice, etc would be greatly appreciated.
Confidential to NW
Okay, you did say twice that you’re asking for “travel” advice, but it sounds as though you’re really asking for “making peace with Germany” advice.
Which is good, because I can’t give you visiting Germany advice as I’ve only ever been to Berlin, Aachen and Cologne. But I can definitely talk about the other part.
Because I’m Israeli. And because I’m Jewish. And because one day I packed up all my stuff in Tel Aviv and moved to Berlin.
But mostly because the people I work with come to me when they realize their fear and avoidance patterns are keeping them in some form of stuckification.
And clearly you sense that this is going on for you as well, or you wouldn’t have asked.
I don’t know if I can give you advice on this one, but I can share with you from my experience and offer suggestions. It’s a pretty big theme.
For everyone who’s not NW, use this as a chance to notice where your own fear patterns are keeping you from making peace with things. And for NW, let’s start with three points.
1. Pain is real. Let yourself have it.
Clearly you have pain around this. You have a history which involves pain and painful memories. As well as maybe a sense of obligation to your father’s history and his pain.
This is important. And this is why it’s not going to be helpful for me to tell you that actually Germany is a safe place, and maybe even the best place to do some healing. Even though that’s what I think.
Because that wouldn’t be fair to your pain. What pain wants is attention and legitimacy, so it’s always important to stop and say hi to the pain. To let it feel that it’s been seen and heard and cared for.
You are always allowed to have your pain.
That’s the thing about pain. Even when it’s no longer necessarily grounded in an external reality, or even if you know it’s not especially rational, it feels true. Which means that, for you, it is true.
It won’t always be true, because we have the ability to interact with pain, to learn from it and to resolve it. But it’s true for you right now. And if that’s where you are right now, let yourself be there.
Treat your pain with respect. It’s a part of you.
2. I can only share my own experience with this.
For the record, I’ve spent — all in all — about a year and a half in Berlin, and have never once had a negative experience.
No one ever had a problem with me being Jewish or Israeli — and I’m a sensitive flower, so I generally pick up on things even when not overt.
Whereas in the States I’ve had several (overtly) unpleasant encounters for both of those reasons. But that’s another issue.
Keep in mind, though, when considering my experience: Berlin is not Germany. Berlin is in Germany, but not of it.
Well, think about it like this. Berlin is to Germany what San Francisco or New York is to the United States. It’s just not really representative.
Not to say that awful atrocities didn’t happen in Berlin, because they did and have been happening for as long as Berlin has been a city.
It’s just that Berlin is very cosmopolitan and not really all that German. Berliners are Berliners first, German maybe second, but probably more like fifteenth, if at all.
You’re going to Heidelberg and I don’t know thing one about Heidelberg.
However, I do know this:
You’ll eat good food. You’ll breathe. You’ll notice what stuff presses your buttons and how you react to different situations. You’ll mourn for things that need mourning. You’ll celebrate things that need celebrating.
And you’ll meet lovely people. Lovely people who also struggle with pain, hurt and memory, because they’re human.
Which brings me to point #3.
3. Suspend all judgment, for your own sake.
The Germans don’t own atrocities.
The ability to do horrible things to other people is a human one, not a German one.
The ability to cave in under the pressure of fear, danger and an all-powerful regime is also a human one, not a German one.
God knows the Holocaust has a lot of lessons for the world — especially for those of us who are trying to make peace with a family history of loss and pain. But as far as I’m concerned, there is one particular lesson that is so much bigger and more important than the rest that it might as well be the only one.
The thing all of us need to take from this awful, awful experience:
Whenever we group a bunch of people together according to a certain characteristic, and we assign them additional characteristics based on their belonging to that particular group, terrible things will ensue.
And we lose a piece of our humanity.
It’s not fair to lump all Germans together. Germans are people. People vary.
It doesn’t matter now whether the people you are encountering are the grandchildren and greatgrandchildren of people who did horrible things. Or maybe they’re just related to people who were too frightened by an all-powerful regime to lose their own lives in opposition to said horrible things.
They’re here now just like you. Judge them one at a time. Work on your own stuff. Let them work on their stuff.
For me, being in Germany is very healing and very powerful.
It’s a chance to have my stereotypes proved wrong. It’s a chance to remember that all people have pain in their personal history. It’s a chance to practice some deep forgiveness of myself and of others.
But yeah, sometimes our emotional stuff is stronger than our mental awareness. And the truth is, I still haven’t made it to Munich. And am not all that sure that I want to. Something else to work on.
Oh, you have a follow-up question!
Thank god, that was all getting to be a little too heavy, even for me.
Also, I grew up on delicious German foods – lots of meat and pastries and potatoes in sauces- but now I am basically a gluten-free Vegan – who doesn’t eat sugar……. so any advice on that front when visiting Germany would be welcome, too.
Whoah, you capitalized the word “vegan” — you are German.
Anyway, I think you’ll be fine. It’s not like you’re going to Poland* or anything (shudder). Probably half the people I know in Berlin are vegan.
*Okay, that’s probably not fair. The last time I was in Poland was twelve years ago. It was vegetarian hell, but who knows how much has changed since then.
All that bio-eco-natural stuff that’s labeled “alternative” in North America isn’t really such a shocker there. Not in any urban environment, at least.
Just ask someone on the street where the nearest Bioladen is. That will get you to any of the many natural foods type of stores, which — unlike your local co-op — are all over the place.
I’m willing to bet that anyone who works at a Bioladen is probably also vegan (or — at the very least — eats according to a complicated system of rules and principles). They’ll help you figure out what to eat.
Yes, eating out might be a challenge, but hey, you’re a gluten-free, sugar-free vegan. You’re probably used to that.
Anyway, good luck with your trip. I wish you a wonderful time. Maybe you’ll let me know how it goes. I’d really like that.
Everyone else: any thoughts, insights, realizations?
Something that would be helpful for NW? Feel at home sharing and/or sending me your non-nazi-related questions in the comments.