A set of four questions.

Over the past several weeks, I have been asking the same four questions. This set of four questions has been my anchor. For pretty much everything. I ask these four questions when I enter things. Before conversations. Before meetings, meals, decisions. Another way of...

Very Personal Ads #146: glow it up!

Personal ads. They’re … personal! Very. Each week I write these VPAs to practice asking for what I want. And to get clarity on what that really is, even when asking feels conflicted. I always get useful information about my relationship with various...

Everything is a Costume

The other day I had one of those impossible-to-describe shivanautical epiphanies that is so beautiful and simple that it almost can’t be said out loud. But I am saying it anyway. It went something like this, but it wasn’t just words. It was deep inside my...
The Fluent Self